The RHOC star takes aim at her fellow 'Wives following first reunion special.  

on Aug 16, 2013 - The Dish0

It's been a few weeks since Gretchen Rossi and Tamra Barney sparred while taping the Real Housewives of Orange County reunion. Tamra revived old rumors about Gretchen being unfaithful to her then-husband. But even though time has passed, the dust hasn't settled. And Gretchen has taken to her blog this week to sound off on the fight—and more.

This time, Gretchen laid out her points in a carefully numbered list,which she says are "just the facts." Here are some highlights:

1. Malibu Country may be canceled but the drama with these ladies surrounding the show is never-ending.
Gretchen maintains she was offered a part on the show and says she presented the following evidence to her cast mates, "I brought a voicemail saved on my phone from my agent regarding the offer, where she clearly states 'They want you for Malibu Country.'" She says she also showed Heather Dubrow and Tamra Barney an email confirming the casting.

2. Gretchen feels she's surrounded by liars.

Gretchen accuses both Tamra and Alexis Bellino of flip-flopping. She claims Tamra tells lies on Twitter and then quickly deletes them, "Seems as if when she believes she is going to be held accountable for her lies, she quickly wants to delete them. If there was any truth to what she said why delete the posts?"

She also says Alexis changed her tune about an interaction she witnessed between Gretchen that certain male friend years ago—first saying it seemed innocent but now saying it was more. "Funny how these women change their tune according to how they feel about me in the moment," writes Gretchen. "Why does it seem no one can be consistent with their stories? Maybe because that's what happens when you lie."

3. Gretchen accuses Vicki Gunvalson of setting women back.
Gretchen feels Vicki's not respecting her as a professional woman is anti-feminist. She writes, "Vicki trying to demean me or say anything differently as if she knows anything about my financial status or "business" is mean-spirited, ignorant, and flat out degrading towards the woman empowerment movement of our time."

What do you think of Gretchen's points? Are you on her side? Tell us in the coments.

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43 comments
sharij
sharij

Team Gretchen.  You are not perfect, but you seem genuine.   Alexis (no personality) and hubby are so fake - its nauseating - anything to stay on the show!   Lydia is the sneaky one.  As for Vicki and Tamra - Please Bravo .. get rid of the trashy ladies!

italianmama
italianmama

Gretchen......if you are NOT on the RHOC next year, i will NOT watch the ICKY and  BARNEY show..........from day one i googled you and found out that you are a college grad and a REAL Christian..........you were never a mean girl and you have, for the most part, always been very gracious and not conniving like, ICKY, BARNEY and oh yes we can NEVER forget, "THE REAL ACTRESS"...what's her name w/the rich plastic surgeon hubby......alexis should never have been on the show and the "flower child" is a little girl, playing in the big girl world.........why BRAVO has put up w/ICKY all these years i will never figure out.....but oh well i guess some people can relate to nastiness and connivers and "THOSE WHO THINK THEY ARE BETTER THAN OTHERS", attitude,,,,,i was not raised that way and i do not live my life that way......Good Luck to you and your wonderful family.....

lizzie888
lizzie888

For Heaven's sake!  Take some more acting lessons, Gretchen.  That crying routine was awful.

Sobbing works much better when you add tears.    

What goes around, comes around.  You bullied Alexis all of last season and are getting exactly what you deserve.    

MimiInKansasCity
MimiInKansasCity

What is up with using "woman" instead of "women"???? Can Bravo please provide proofing assistants to the housewives? Not on anyone's side, by the way--- they're all lacking integrity...although the jury is out on Lydia.

dandelion55
dandelion55

Who gives a flying flip who got a part or not.  Heather has clearly designated herself the actress when in fact every week these women all are acting for the camera's.  Each has a producer assigned to them to help them generate a storyline. They get paid to create drama at the expense of one another. 

MimsyDelMar
MimsyDelMar

Sara Rue, actress and cast member of Malibu Country tweeted, "HeatherDubrow had it all correct as far as I know..."

 

What a surprise (not)!  Heather said from the start that Gretchen must have been confused.  The "proof" that Gretchen offered was a phone message from her own agent, not from anyone at Malibu Country, and that message only proved that there was interest in her availability, nothing more.  Poor Gretchen, who isn't the brightest bulb, doesn't know the difference between being offered a role and receiving a general inquiry.  She is, however, incredibly persistent, declaring the truth of her misconceived perception despite all indications to the contrary.

 

Is Gretchen a liar?  Probably not, since "lying' is the intentional misrepresentation of fact.  Gretchen didn't intentionally mislead the ladies, she just doesn't understand the distinction between an inquiry and an offer.  So, Gretchen's not a liar; she's more of an idiot.

aunttrixy11
aunttrixy11

Gretchen, if you quit this show, Slade will be gone in a heartbeat.  This is all about the fame for him.  Hope you mention leaving the show before you get married it will show his true colors - awful.  He has hung on to every single woman connected to the show to keep himself on the show.  Your feelings may be real, but you can bet his are not.  You are a pawn in his plan.

 

Move fast and get out!

rld41987@comcast.net
rld41987@comcast.net

Regardless of what the ladies felt about Gretchen's proposal, as a fan I enjoyed it - I personally would've felt cheated not being 'a part of it'...we've watched Slade and Gretchen before they were Slade & Gretchen.  The RHOOC need to remember the show is for the fans.  The Fans can make you or break you.

darlene.hamm2
darlene.hamm2

i love gretchen starting to really dislike all the rest just leave gretchen alone she os the best 

GiGiforever
GiGiforever

Gretchen is getting exactly what she deserves!  Gretchen was the favorite of the OC housewives.  Jealous Tamara realized this and determined in her evil mind to bring down Gretchen.  As a result, she falsely befriended Gretchen who was too naïve to see Tamara's true intentions.  Gretchen got caught up with the "in crowd" and turned on her friend Alexis.  I have always liked Alexis because for everything that is "wrong" with her, I can find something positive to counteract.  She is a gold fish swimming in a tank with sharks.  On the other hand, Tamara is just plain evil, malicious and very skanky.

Gretchen; you took a nap with a a Big, Dirty, Infested Common Breed She Dog (B.T.H) and now you are swapping at the nasty fleas biting you.  I hope you see Tamara for who she is and never fall prey to her manipulations again.  You have to shun the very appearance of EVIL.

rita.karson
rita.karson

Gretchen when you were ''crying" I saw no tears at all, I think you love to have attention on you, and you also seem to think being a friend allows you to dictate who others can have as friends....Just think you are so phony, and I agree with Jo you did break the girl code, but you and Slade deserve each other.

liz.regan1
liz.regan1

Gretchen I really loved you for many seasons and then you team up with Tamra and go after Alexis last season and you became just like Tamra, is her friendship so important to everyone that they turn on their friends to be a part of the "IN CROWD"? Now here you are again in the same place you were before I suggest you take a real good look at how you treat people from now on, Tamra is a snake in the grass always has been along with her friend Vickie and Heather. 

Lin8888
Lin8888

I think the way that the other cast members reacted to hearing about your engagement party indicates that you were right in not inviting them.  They are not real friends.

Lin8888
Lin8888

I wouldn't feel bad about not inviting your fellow cast members to your engagement party. Why would you want a bunch of mocking, assaultive shrews at such a special event?  Don't let them rain on your parade.  And if part of the reason you made the engagement party into more of a spectacular event than you would have otherwise because you're on a tv show, so what?  Isn't that why they have most of  their parties?  That's the name of the game on reality tv.  They're just po'd because you didn't invite them and give them an oppotunity to snidely mock the event.  The idea is to invite people who celebrate with you, not people who attack and deride you.

Metina2
Metina2

After watching the second part of the reunion it seems to be a "mean girl bully" fest with Gretchen as the target. Gretchen seems to be the most honest of all, and the rest just look like mean people.

cindyp
cindyp

Where were the actual tears?  I saw tears on Alexis, Vickie, Tamra, but the boo hooing from Gretchen,  all noise, no tears.  Fake, and the fake lips are a little over done.

 

babydew
babydew

Gretchen, That was a fake crying jag!!! I'm not an actress but I sure has hell  could have cried better than that

VikkiS
VikkiS

Gretchen, my heart goes out to you.

What I wish most of all for you is for you to let these women go.

This is a group of narcissistic, victim mentality women and  you don't belong here.  In fact, I won't even watch Part 3.

I don't even know if I'll watch future seasons.

I really admire and like you and feel that this show is glorifying women who don't own their stuff, blame others, lie, and blame you. I don't know if they're jealous (probably not), I don't know what the deal is, but if I were you, I wouldn't care. Let them go. Ask Bravo for your own series, or move on.

This is beyond wrong and beyond entertainment. :-(

Sending love from NC!

Carolmas
Carolmas

Gretchen get away from those jealous ones. They hate that you and Slade  are happy and in love  and that you are younger and prettier than them. Don't waste your time fighting with idiots.

jgolden
jgolden

Gretchen-clearly a woman of grace! Shouldn't we all aim to be as composed as her! Tamra has been a sidekick to Vicki ruthless, tacky behavior, acting more like a cast-off than a cast-mate! Really, Bravo, Vicki's appeal has gone beyond her expiration date, and Tamra is trying not to follow suit. Tamra should have taken lessons of poise and grace from Gretchen, certainly it would have helped her moral appeal.

Dahndelora
Dahndelora

Know this.......Tamara and Vickie are soooooooo jealous of you.... Your younger and prettier ...they probably want to drink you blood !!!! Lol lol lol

Tattoo430
Tattoo430

I find it very strange that you and Jeff are brought up on this show, that was years ago, what was the point?  Isn't Tamra moving on this year "so she says".  That was a low blow.  I thought she was really going to change and see the light that Vicki is a bitch, but it is the same ole show -Tamra and Vicki the two bitches that try to torture everyone.  Soon the ones on there that are her friends will be in the same boat as you, being picked apart by the 2 crazies.  Keep doing whatever you are doing and leave those two alone and let them make up lies about  Lydia, Alexis and Heather, they are next anyway!   Good luck to you.  Team Gretchen!

kb4637
kb4637

Gretchen, you show a lot of class. Don't even justify Vicki or Tamera with a response. They are all about drama and lies. I think you are better off not to have them as friends.

I wish the show would give Heather a little bit more air. She is one classy lady. As for Lydia, you need to get off your high horse. You act so innocent, but in fact, you stir up more crap. You say you are a christian, well it speaks about forgive as much as needed. Slade is not my favorite, but he tried to apologize and all you wanted to do was talk over him. If you were true, you would let it go and take his apology and let it be. You are the biggest braggard I have ever seen, and I've yet to see how you can call yourself a genius!!

Golfview
Golfview

Team Gretchen!  No, I don't believe she cheated.  It is amusing that Tamera and Vicki gang up on her for things that they have both done.   A way to take the heat off them?  I wish Andy would replace Vicki, Tamera and Alexis.  They bring nothing to the show.  It used to be my favorite Housewife, but I could hardly watch the reunion show.  It was awful.  Not entertaining at all.  I could care less about Tameras upcoming wedding show and will not watch it.  I read that there was a petition to take Vicki, Tamera and Alexis off.  Does anyone know anything about it?  I would love to sign it.

Arizonasfinest520
Arizonasfinest520

Gretchen is being exposed at last. She seems to be almost controlling and manipulative. As soon as she started hanging out with Tamra she made it a point to cut Vicki out of Tamra's life immediately. She also started to ostracize Alexis and her inner "mean girl" began to show when she completely turned her back against her in order to almost prove herself to the other ladies. It's a shame that once Vicki and Tamra kind of fixed things in Mexico, Gretchen totally turned into this nasty rumor spreading monster. Come on Gretchen, you're a grown woman. This mean girl stuff isn't a good look. I'll never understand how someone as beautiful as yourself can come off so incredibly ugly. For you to say that people are fake or not genuine because they are friends now, but weren't at some point in the past is ridiculous. Wouldn't that make you fake considering you and Tamra weren't friends at one point? Get it together girl.

stormy12
stormy12

Gretchen, 

You are a true sweetheart, and all I can say is keep your 'armor' on with these bullies 

You saw first hand how Tamra bullied Alexis at her dinner, well, remember that always 

because it has now switched to YOU being the recipient of her loud hateful verbal attacks.

Tamara is 'fake' she will always have to be the 'star' so you can't possibly win, Vicki gives her the recognition that she lacks getting, from anyone including her past husbands and her present one. Secretly she might like the way Vicki treats her over anyone.Vicki is a self made man ... I mean .. no I mean man  !! Simon was soft spoken, so is Eddy, Vicki is loud and bold.. just sayin .... 

Okay sorry getting a bit off the mark here, Gretchen, you and Slade are very cute together and 

raise above the nasty that these two project and just love each other and have some beautiful babies :) 

be happy .. and laugh at them lol 

Km28762
Km28762

I believe that Gretchen was probably out and about and maybe a little flirting going on, but not actual sex. This issue has been dealt with, let's move on! When Gretchen says that Vicki is hypocritical she is absolutely using the right word. Vicki wants to trash talk about Gretchen's past flirtations and Slade's child support payments but any of those same things are absolutely off limits when it comes to her. Tamra is simply only of those women that can only have one friend at a time. I think she lives for drama and loves to attack the other women as long as she has someone in her corner to back her up. Lydia...OMG!...she is such a Sh&t stirrer...the cheeseburger comment was absolutely NOT meant Ina derogatory way...besides, she DOES need to eat a cheeseburger, and some fries and maybe even a shake. Alexis, I think she is beautiful and has a good heart...she is easily influenced by the other women and sometimes goes along because she wants so much to fit in and belong. I wish that she and Gretchen could go back to being true friends. in short, I think Gretchen and Alexis are the most honest and down to earth...I love Slade's and Gretchen together and can't wait for their spin off show whe they get married and have a baby. Vicki can be sweet but she is so on the defense that the least little thing makes her comes out fighting. Lydia had a little too much second hand smoke. Tamra, I'm sorry to say, is just mean...she is beginning to realize this...I say this with no disrespect, she should go into intensive therapy to work through her past...she is gorgeous and could have it all...she needs to work through the pain within her soul that causes her to lash out all the time...Oops, just realized I forgot to talk about Heather....hmmmm....The best thing about Heather is her husband...I think he is the coolest...sexy and smart...They were sweet together this season...RHOC are my guilty pleasure, can't help it...I also watch Bevery Hills and NY...can't stand the others!

grub
grub

Of course there should be no finger-quotations around Gretchen as a business woman! She is also a really great "singer"!

tapiaj
tapiaj

Not sure about Gretchen, but at least I can listen to her without turning the sound down on my TV. Alexis is a phony, also.  You might want to rethink the casting for this show. 

susanzavagli
susanzavagli

Gretchen is flirty and thrives on attention for all we know and it's not much  maybe Jeff was ok with a fling or two he wanted her to enjoy her life as his was ending who knows and so what anyway let the hags believe what they want if Gretchen is innocent like she professes be at peace with your truth

Lin8888
Lin8888

Totally on Gretchen's side.

AuntNeti
AuntNeti

My thoughts:

 

1.  No one cares about Malibu Country...that's why it was cancelled.

 

2.  Alexis had your back until you dumped all over her.  Of course she'll tell the truth now.

 

3.  I don't think your business acumen is in the same league as Vicki...putting your name on other's products is only valuable to them while you are on the show....your 15 minutes have ticked away.

erica8123
erica8123

I think Tamra and Vicki are pathetic!  Let it die.  Heather really needs to learn what being busy with children is so she can stress about real issues.  Gretchen is no angel but why does anyone care anymore?  it's been a few years and I am tired of it.  I don't know or care if she cheated.  Alexis is the one I am most likely to believe.  Lydia is just annoying me.  She starts asking Alexis her opinion "because she is just feeling it" or whatever she claimed was the reason she stirred the pot again.  I agree with the commented on her blog that said she should be called "the spoon."

I doubt I will watch next season and promise I would watch the rest of the reunion or Tamra's wedding show.  OVER IT!

LauraWyn
LauraWyn

 @MimsyDelMar

 That "idiot" remark wasn't very nice!  Gretchen never claimed to be an actress, or know the inner workings of how things work in TV-that's what her agent is for!

piperbeau
piperbeau

 @Golfview  Gretchen brought this on herself!! Tamra and Vicki haven't talked about Gretchen cheating on Jeff in years! Gretchen knew dam well when she decided to go after Vicki full force that the cheating allegations were going to resurface! 

piperbeau
piperbeau

 @susanzavagli why would Gretchen still be hanging out with her ex after he called Tamra and claimed to still be dating her??!! Not a very good judgement call on Gretchen's part!!! I'm sorry but when you have an extremely ill fiance you probably shouldn't be out at the bars late night sitting on your ex's lap! Nor should you be going away for the weekend with him! Especially after he called Tamra! Gretchen should of put a holt to it right there!! Gretchen gave those women something to talk about! And known of this would have been rehashed if Gretchen hadn't trashed Vicki all season long!! And by the way Tamra had a lot more to say about Gretchen than Vicki ever did!!!! Why does Tamra get off so light?! Makes no sense?!

CrunchyCrackers
CrunchyCrackers

 @AuntNeti 1. The issue isn't about the show, silly. The issue is about whether or not G "lied" about being invited to audition. Clearly she did NOT lie and was falsely accused.

 

2. G never "dumped all over" Alexis. She very gently tried to help her by trying to EXPLAIN what everyone ELSE was saying - that name dropping, and price dropping is obnoxious and unnecessary.

 

3.  G started her business and became successful *before* this tv show. BTW, Vicki sells insurance which means she "puts her name on other people's products".... and HER 15 mins of fame is soon to be up too - WE CAN ONLY HOPE!!!!  Never ever has there been an uglier woman, both inside and out.

TeresasFastlane
TeresasFastlane

 @erica8123   I think nosy Lydia  acts like God sent her to earth to  to fix the wives of the OC. Lydia needs to take a toke of her Mom's pot and chill.

LauraWyn
LauraWyn

 @Tattoo430  @rita.karson

 She definitely was crying!  The tissue was right there and her eyes were red-c'mon, give the girl a break, she's been put through the ringer at this Reunion!

OCDisp1
OCDisp1

Are you kidding me, Gretchen put through the ringer!  Please, it's called Karma she befriended Tamara because she wanted to be with "Popular girls", (like HS), she treated Alexis like crap and through stones.  Now she is getting her paybacks.