Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching. Why not plan something memorable for your significant other this Feb. 14...like a breakup?
“Believe it or not, the day before Valentine’s Day is one of the biggest days people end a relationship,” says Fran Greene, author of The Flirting Bible.
It happened to Dianna Agron. The Glee alum had been cohabitating with Endless Love actor Alex Pettyfer when the couple’s own love story came to an abrupt end in 2011, just a few days before Valentine’s Day.
Rumored causes included Alex’s controlling nature and allegations of cheating. Thankfully, Dianna has moved on. She’s now married to British rocker Winston Marshall.
“Sometimes we stay in a relationship because it’s easier being with someone than having no one,” Fran explains. “Let Valentine’s Day be the push you need to end a relationship that you know isn’t the one you really want. It’s a brave thing to do, and very liberating.”
Here are four very good reasons to call it quits before the roses and chocolate.
1. He refuses to commit
Forget about the future – this guy doesn’t even want to make plans for this upcoming Feb. 14! “If he doesn’t want to commit to where you two should go or what you two should do for Valentine’s Day, it’s a pretty good signal where his head is at,” Fran says. If he can’t make plans for Valentine’s Day, he’s probably not invested in building a long term future with you.
2. He’s cheating on you
You’ve seen the visual clues that he’s been spending time with someone else. “You’re definitely not being treated with respect and dignity, and you deserve to be in a relationship where you are loved and cared about,” Fran declares.
3. You’re just not that into him
In this lopsided relationship, he’s doing all the giving, and you’re just a lukewarm recipient. “When he wants a different level of commitment, and you can’t be bothered, it’s never going to feel right,” Fran says. Better to move on and let both of you find your rightful soulmate.
4. He’s an emotional bully
His words are ones you wouldn’t want to say to your worst enemy, and you never feel like a priority. “An abusive relationship needs to end, and you don’t need Valentine’s Day to do it,” Fran declares. “But if it gives you the strength to move on, by all means use it.”
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