Uh oh, this guy ghosted his ex and now she’s about to haunt him for a long, long time.
He just found out he’s about to work with her—and she’s going to be his boss. #karma
Ask a Manager Alison Green had a reader ask her advice on the situation. It happened nearly a decade ago, when the guy and his girlfriend Sylvia were on different paths. She wanted to get serious, he ghosted. They even lived together when he did it.
"I simply wanted to avoid being untangled in a break-up drama,” he explained. So while Sylvia visited family for Christmas, he packed his bags and moved out of the country.
Now, in a crazy twist of fate, he is a teacher at an international school, and the incoming school director is…you guessed it- Sylvia!
“I am not a big fan of social media and had no idea what she had been up to since the unpleasant situation a long time ago,” he wrote. “I have no idea what to do and how to deal with this mess. It is clear this will be not only embarrassing but I will also be reporting to my ex.”
He explained that as an expat, it will be unavoidable to have to socialize with his ex, and nearly impossible to find another job.
“You were together for three years, and you lived together! And then you disappeared with no word? That’s some serious emotional destruction that you inflicted there.
“I don’t know that you can salvage this!
Alison advise that he reach out to Sylvia as soon as possible to explain the situation.
“You don’t seem to understand that it was possibly the most painful way you could end things and with someone who gave you three years of their life. It’s so important for you to register that and then to apologize, apologize, apologize.”
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