Self Marriage Is Growing In Popularity ... But Could You Do It?

Self Marriage Is Growing In Popularity ... But Could You Do It?

By Jen Glantz

For those of you who are sick and tired of people always prying into your dating life, asking why you’re still single and when you’re going to settle down with a ring on your finger, there may finally be an answer you can give them that will make their jaws drop, and might make you completely satisfied.


Yes, you can get married to yourself and while it’s not a legal process (your tax and marital status won’t change) it can be seen as a personal process, or for some, an excuse to throw a lavish party and receive thousands of dollars worth of gifts from guests.

Laura Mesi, a 40-year-old Italian woman, wed herself last month with a celebration that included a ceremony, a cake, bridesmaids, and over 70 guests.  News headlines called her story, “A fairytale wedding, without a prince,” since the celebration was one that looked and felt like a wedding, with just one person up at the altar. She decided to go through with the solo wedding after her relationship of 12-years ended and her 40th birthday neared.

Self-marriage, which is also called Soloagmy, has become a growing trend.  The self-marriage concept was introduced to many of our hearts and minds in 2003 during a Sex and the City episode, where Carrie Bradshaw proclaims she is going to marry herself and sets up a wedding registry.

So why would someone want to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding, that’s for just them and only them? Some say this self-marriage movement is really a way for people to commit to prioritizing their own self-love and self-care, allowing them still, to get married to another person, legally, if they find their love match.

The website, Self Marriage Ceremonies, defines solo-marriage as a commitment to being there for yourself, to choosing the livelihood and lifestyle that will help you grow and blossom into the most alive, beautiful, and deeply happy person you can be.

If the idea of self-marriage is one that’s igniting some excitement in you, but you don’t know how to get started, let us point you in the direction of a company called I Married Me, which makes the solo wedding adventure an easy one to set up, for less than $300.

Their roadmap box kits include: a ring, ceremony instructions, vows, and affirmation cards, but the flowers, dress, cake, unwanted registry gifts, and potential family drama that usually goes along with weddings of any sort, are not included.

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