You Need To Stop Looking at Your Ex's Social Media - Here's How To Cut It Out Immediately

You Need To Stop Looking at Your Ex's Social Media - Here's How To Cut It Out Immediately

Let's not trigger your brain in unnecessary ways.

By Jen Glantz

It’s hard enough trying to give your entire life a facelift after a breakup, but then, having to try to tiptoe around your social media newsfeed or muster up the willpower to stop creeping on your ex's profile pages is a whole other battle.

It can be extremely tempting to check-in with your ex online, since there are many ways to see where they are, who they are with, even who they may be flirting with, without them ever finding out.

But it’s a bad, bad idea, especially if you want to get over them, move on, and find yourself a new person to fall madly in love with.

Wondering how to stop looking at your ex’s social media pages? Check out the advice from these five relationship gurus.

1. Remember the bad

"Remember what went wrong in the relationship. If you find yourself constantly looking at your ex’s social media sites, pull out a sheet of paper and write down a list of things you didn't like about your ex. Keep this list with you and pull it at every time you feel the urge to check up on him or her." - Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW

2. Do a major purge

"You have to remove them, unfollow them, unfriend them, and in some cases block them. You have to remove all trace of them because something as innocuous as seeing their name or a photo can trigger your brain into a wave of sad emotions." - Dr. Megan Stubbs, EdD, ACS, Sex and Relationship Expert

3. Say bye-bye to their friends

"Un-following your mutual friends and/or family members that connect you both. The tagging of your ex brings you back into the loop with their tagging on vacation, at concerts, Sunday brunch." - Dr. Melanie Ross Mills, Relationship Expert

4. Keep a stalk jar

"Just like a swear jar, throw $5 into this little beauty every time you look at your ex. Donate that money to your favorite charity and feel the goodness of that generosity glow!" - Annabel Acton, author of Never Liked It Anyway

5. Do something else

"When you get the urge to look at the page, find a way to have a replacement message or behavior (think pop-up blocker....pop yourself with a rubber band...have a sticky note on your computer that says "it's about me not him/her")." - Dr. Shatavia A. Thomas, DMFT, LMFT

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