Ariana Grande Comes to Pete Davidson's Defense, Asks Her Fans to Stop Bullying Him
People are coming for Ariana Grande's ex-fiancé, and she's not pleased.
Pete Davidson took to Instagram to share that he’s been bullied online since his split from Ariana Grande — and she’s asking her fans to please stop.
In a screenshot posted to his Instagram, the comedian and Saturday Night Live star wrote that he has “kept [his] mouth shut” and “never mentioned any names” following the very public split, but that the incessant bullying is getting to him and he needs to have some peace.
“I’m trying to understand how when something happens to a guy the whole entire world just trashes him without any facts or frame of reference,” he wrote. “Especially in today’s climate where everyone loves to be offended and upset it is truly mind boggling. I’ve been getting online bullied and in public by people for 9 months.”
He mentioned his diagnosis with borderline personality disorder (BPD), and said his mental health struggles are making everything worse.
“I’ve spoken about BPD and being suicidal publicly only in the hopes that it will help bring awareness and help kids like myself who don’t want to be on this earth,” he wrote. “I just want you guys to know. No matter how hard the internet or anyone tries to make me kill myself. I won’t. I’m upset I even have to say this.”
We’re upset he has to say it, too. Going through a breakup is hard enough, never mind getting attacked online by an army of Ariana Grande fans looking to rip your head off.
Davidson did end with a message to “all those holding [him] down and seeing this for what it is… I see you and I love you.”
He can't even go anywhere without Grande's new breakup anthem, "Thank U, Next," blaring from the speakers.
Grande told her fans to cut it out with an Instagram message of her own, writing that she still “[cares] deeply about Pete and his health."
“You truly don’t know what anybody is experiencing ever. Regardless of what they choose to display on social media or how they may appear in public,” she wrote next to a screenshot of Davidson’s post. “So please let whatever point you’re trying to make go. I will always have irrevocable love for him and if you’ve gotten any other impression from my recent work, you might have missed the point.”
And remember, although Grande is using her art to heal, it’s not making it any better for Pete. Psychology Today pointed out that many men actually have a harder time getting over a breakup than women. “Some researchers have even argued that men are neurochemically-predisposed to find breakups more difficult than women and to resist seeking help from friends,” it reports.
So please, give the kid a break.
And those who are doing the cyber-bullying have their own problems to deal with. One project dedicated to stop online bullying found that those who cyberbully are usually those who are on the social fringes themselves. “Hurting others makes them feel powerful. It helps them cope with their own low self-esteem. They think it will help them fit in with their peers. They have trouble empathizing with those they hurt. In general, bullies’ behavior usually stems from their own problems.”
Seriously, hang in there, Pete Davidson, there's still a great career and a great life ahead. It gets better. And try to ignore the trolls.