One Sex Researcher Reveals How Many People Is Too Many People to Date at Once

One Sex Researcher Reveals How Many People Is Too Many People to Date at Once

There's an exact number, says prominent sex researcher Helen Fisher, PhD, and it's science. 

By Marianne Garvey
How Many Guys Should I Date at Once?

Dating apps have allowed us to have endless possibilities when it comes to the number of people we can date.

But guess what? One prominent sex researcher says having too many options isn’t necessarily a good thing when it comes to dating. Helen Fisher, PhD, has said our brains can only handle a certain number of partners.

Speaking as a guest on the Sex With Emily podcast, Fisher,’s chief scientific advisor said, “The problem is, the human brain is not built to even cope with so many choices... The brain has a sweet spot, apparently between five and nine alternatives, and after that, you don’t choose any."


So to find the one, stop swiping after you’ve met nine people, said Fisher.


“Get to know at least one of those people more. The more you get to know somebody, the more you like them, and the more that you think that they like you,” she explained.

She also says to try to overlook surface stuff like their personal style. (Just don’t ignore red flags.)

Fisher calls too many options “overdating,” and explained it leads to fast burnout and no real connections.

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