If you think that getting engaged means getting yourself on the fast track toward a lifetime of pure and unadulterated happiness with your partner, you might be thinking wrong. Saying a big giant yes to the “will you marry me” question, can propel you into months, sometimes even years, of wedding planning stress that might make or break your relationship with your fiancé.
According to a recent report by the wedding registry company Zola, 96% of engaged couples and newlyweds surveyed admitted that the project is stressful, and almost half said it was "very" or "extremely" stressful.
So how do you keep the romance alive when the wedding decisions pile up and the family drama begins to knock on your door? Here are four steps to help your love grow, rather than implode, for your fiancé during the wedding planning adventure.
1. Talk About Things Besides Your Wedding
When you start to notice that all of the conversations you’re having with your partner revolve around flowers, décor or song choices for your first dance, press the pause button and take a step back. Make an effort to take time off from talking about wedding planning when you’re together so that neither of you feels like taking the next step in your relationship feels stale and repetitive.
2. Go On an Engagement-Moon
Celebrating your engagement usually lasts a week or two before you feel swarmed with decisions to make and family drama to solve. Plan a weekend getaway and go on an “Engagement-Moon”, where you kick-back and relax before jumping into your wedding to-do list.
3. Have Each Other’s Back
Wedding planning can cause tension between you and your fiancé, especially if you don’t agree to have each other’s back. Make a join wedding must-have to-do list right after you get engaged and agree that everything that’s not on the list is something you both agree you don’t need or care about at the wedding. Agree that when problems arise with friends and family that you two will stay united in how you handle it, so nothing tears you apart.
4. Don’t Wait Until the Last Minute
Keep the stress-levels down by getting a lot of the big decisions out of the way ASAP. That way, you can coast through the final months before your wedding without late-night panic attacks or eye rolls over having to pay vendors even more cash because of last-minute bookings. If you have everything planned and ready to go, you’ll be able to focus on your relationship for the majority of your engagement, gearing up to a wedding that will feel more like a party and less like a headache.
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