So You Get the Opportunity to Grill Your Friend’s New Man, Should You Go As Far As Kandi Burruss and Marlo Hampton Did?

So You Get the Opportunity to Grill Your Friend’s New Man, Should You Go As Far As Kandi Burruss and Marlo Hampton Did?

STDs?! Credit scores?! The RHOA ladies didn't hold anything back when it came to grilling Cynthia Bailey's boyfriend Mike Hill.

By Marianne Garvey

The Real Housewives of Atlanta's Cynthia Bailey made a game for her girlfriends — they got to ask her boyfriend, Mike Hill, who she began dating earlier this year, any questions they wanted. Of course, Kandi Burruss went in. "Is anything inappropriate?" she asked ... "You know I'm gonna ask all the good juicy questions."

Things grew even more uncomfortable (if you can believe it).

Marlo Hampton's turn. She asks Mike what his credit score is and if he’s had an STD. Oh. My. God. 

Cynthia and Mike first met on Steve Harvey's talk show last year when Mike appeared as one of three potential love matches for Cynthia. "Never question how or when God shows up," Cynthia said of that day. The two are going stong, they attended Eva Marcille's wedding together earlier this month. She's even called Mike "the one." 

"Oh my God, STD's and credit reports are waaay TMI," says etiquette expert Diane Gottsman. "The reality is, we all want our friends to date people who are a good fit for them. That being said, there are boundaries."

Casually asking questions in the form of innocent conversation starter is one thing, she adds, but there is a line to be drawn when you start to ask personal, overly invasive questions. "Questions about sex, finance, politics and even kids to some point is never OK."

Gottsman explains that grilling a new or potential mate of a friend may even ruin the relationship for your pal. "The new love interest will maybe think his or her potential mate has the same lack of boundaries as her friends," she says.

Instead try this.

"You could say something like, I’m so happy to see you and Ashley or whoever getting along so well. Ask a few innocent questions which can be expounded on. But when it comes to grilling the new love with a checklist, you’re out of line. No matter how good your intentions may be."

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