Author Michael Wolff's new book, Fire and Fury: Inside the Trump White House, covers the first year of Donald Trump's presidency, but really, let’s focus on Melania for a minute here.
Donald and Melania's relationship is odd to say the least. The book claims that former lady-who-lunches-turned-First-Lady Melania never even wanted the role, which is totally believable, because she had a pretty nice life to begin with in New York. According to Wolff, “she’d been assured by her husband that he wouldn’t become president, and could then return to inconspicuously lunching. Losing would work out for everybody. Losing was winning.” But he won, and she was stuck schlepping her son Barron to the White House, where she now lives and sleeps in a separate room from her husband.
Now, we knew they were sleeping in separate bedrooms, but maybe the occasional night or a few nights a weeks was spent together — but no, says the book.
“Trump, in fact, found the White House to be vexing and even a little scary. He retreated to his own bedroom — the first time since the Kennedy White House that a presidential couple had maintained separate rooms,” Wolff writes. The White House had originally denied the two slept in separate bedrooms, while now no one seems to care to address the issue any longer.
Things grew so distant between the two that Donald’s staff refers to his daughter Ivanka as the “his real wife,” because she has his ear and sees him more than his actual wife.
If you sleep in separate beds every night with really no discernible reason, your relationship may be suffering.
Back when Melania was just visiting the White House and hadn’t yet made it her permanent home, sources had told Us Weekly they sleep separately no matter where they are.
“They have separate bedrooms,” says a Trump insider. “They never spend the night together — ever.”
Relationship expert Fran Greene tells Personal Space separate rooms could happen for a variety of reasons — not all bad. But making it a habit isn’t good.
“One could be sick, they could keep different hours; I think as long as it’s not a habit it’s fine for couples,” Greene says. “There’s something about falling asleep next to someone.”
Sleeping together is something intimate only the two of you share, she adds, where you learn to share space — and the covers.
“You’re negotiating your relationship in a non-verbal kind of a way,” she says.
The other non-verbal kind of way? Stay in your wing and sleep in your own bedroom. Like Melania.
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