The Reasons Why You're "Pocketed" in a Relationship May Have Nothing to Do with You

The Reasons Why You're "Pocketed" in a Relationship May Have Nothing to Do with You

Dating someone who's keeping you a secret from their loved ones? That's a problem. 

By Marianne Garvey
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Introducing a new partner to your family and friends is a natural part of a relationship. But do it too early, it could be weird. Too late, the person may never feel comfortable around them.

So what happens when someone refuses to do it at all?

There’s a term for that now. It’s called “pocketing.”

“Pocketing goes beyond avoiding the dreaded meet the parents moment … you're hidden from view in virtually all aspects," explains one NBC News report. “Pocketing is a situation where a person you're dating avoids or hesitates to introduce you to their friends, family or other people they know, in-person or on social media, even though you've been going out for a while. Your relationship seems non-existent to the public eye.”

You may not even really know it’s going on, says the report: “It can be a tricky thing to detect, but one key difference between waiting for the right time and being pocketed is transparency.”

There may be legitimate reasons you’re not being introduced, though, like someone’s family acts crazy or makes them feel ashamed, or the person is afraid the partner will leave them if they do meet the family.

But if the person you're dating is hiding you for too long and shows no sign of your existence on social media, there’s a good chance they’re in a relationship with someone else who’s not you.

The only way to find out if you're being pocketed is to straight up ask. If they come clean, or if it's because they admit the relationship doesn't have a future, break up with them. 

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