Instagram Is Making Everyone Feel Bad About Their IRL Relationship

Instagram Is Making Everyone Feel Bad About Their IRL Relationship

They're not perfect. That's a filter. 

By Marianne Garvey

We all should know by now that everything we see on Instagram is being heavily filtered — and our lives are heavily edited to make everything look perfect.

But people still can’t help comparing their own lives to what they see on the app. Take those smiling couples, for instance. Why are you fighting with your partner and these two are madly in love? It’s just an illusion.

A new study reveals that one third of couples “feel their relationship is inadequate” after scrolling through #couplegoals on the 'gram. Many admitted seeing happy couples made it “easy to draw comparisons to our own relationships.”

Among the 2,000 people surveyed by, 36 percent of couples and 33 percent of singles were left feeling like their relationship didn’t hold up to Instagram standards. Many admitted to feeling jealous or faking their relationship for the better on the app, even if things were falling apart. The research found that 60 percent of those in a relationship and three-quarters of singles “feel social media, films and TV have given people unrealistic expectations.” As a result, most admitted to only posting their happy moments on social media, and leaving the sad stuff to real life.

One-fifth of those surveyed admitted their social media is a “heavily filtered version of their life,” while one-fourth said they tweak their relationship on social media to look better than it actually is. Forty three percent said their relationship was actually unhappy, but they posted seemingly happy photos anyway.

The study was conducted to celebrate Match’s “Love With No Filter” event, an art show asking the question of whether social media is killing our perception of real love.

“Real love isn’t flawless — relationships will always have their ups and downs and everyone’s dating journey is different. It’s important to remember what we see on social media is just a glimpse into someone’s life and not the whole unfiltered picture,” a Match spokesperson said of the study.

And remember, the more we use our social media accounts the worse we feel, reported the findings. Those who constantly checked their feeds were more likely to suffer from jealousy over what others appeared to have.

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