Spring time is the best time … to break up. Who doesn't want to be free in the summer?
Got a “partner” who’s holding you back? Want to walk in the warm sun with no worries about whether this albatross will text you, asking to hang out? Want to look guilt free at all the hot summer bodies walking the streets? Dump 'em!
All joking aside, spring is that time of year when the flowers bloom, and your relationship, well, doesn’t. Maybe you shacked up with them in the winter for some warm snuggles and cozy nights by the fire but that’s long gone now. Sayonara snowstorms and ordering in. Warm-weather break-ups are here.
There are a few reasons the phenomenon exists: one, with the warm weather comes more opportunity. We are outside more, more social, and feel like we want to be free. Two, with the sun, our bodies produce more serotonin, making us feel happier — on our own.
Dating and relationship coach and author of Dating Again with Courage and Confidence, Fran Greene, says she sees it happen every year.
"Decluttering is not just for getting rid of your unwanted stuff — it’s also letting go of a relationship that is holding you back from the love you deserve. The transition from winter to spring, going from bleak cold days to warmth and sunshine causes us to want to purge and make a fresh, clean start," Greene tells Personal Space. "The change of season gives you the energy to discard whatever is cluttering your life and holding you back — especially ending a relationship that is not good for you. It’s the perfect time to make a fresh start."
Greene says that as the days get longer, our energy increases and we literally start shedding the layers of clothing that have been weighing us down, and so a sense of freedom and optimism sets in.
"Some of your fear and worry about ending a bad relationship begins to disappear because of the feelings of growth and rejuvenation that you feel as the winter disappears. As the seasons change so does our outook."
More social opportunities also give us so many more options to meet people.
"You spend more time outdoors and also want to get out more often. For many of us — we just feel better in the spring which increases your confidence," says Greene. "It also feels less scary to end a relationship in the spring because you have so many more options to get out after work and on the weekend. It just feels
easier to meet new people when the weather is warm and sunny. You can wear your favorite clothes and show off your body that you have been working on all winter. It’s the perfect time to strut your stuff and get noticed."
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