What's the Solution When You and Your Partner Don't Agree on a Baby Name?

What's the Solution When You and Your Partner Don't Agree on a Baby Name?

Shahs of Sunset couple Mercedes "MJ" Javid and Tommy Feight originally didn't agree on a name for their baby boy.

By Marianne Garvey
Mercedes David and Tommy Feight Baby Name

Before Mercedes "MJ" Javid and Tommy Feight  welcomed their first child, a boy, there was just one problem — they couldn't agree on a name.

Before Shams Francis Feight, was born, the Shahs of Sunset mama told PEOPLE when it came to baby names they “are not on the same page. We are disagreeing."

However, they did eventually land on something. MJ told PEOPLE they decided to go with a unisex one. “I’m going to make it a win-win for both of us,” she explained. “I am going to make sure Tommy is happy, and I want it to be a name that is culturally acknowledging his Irish side and my Persian side. I want it to be a name that will be beneficial for someone to have throughout their life, because it is part of your identity.” (They ended up with Shams Francis Feight.)

What To Expect has dedicated an entire page to the topic, with one woman writing, "I had the same issue ... I finally just stopped arguing about it and said I'm carrying the baby its my choice. I wanted to love my sons name 100 percent and I wouldn't be satisfied with anything other than what I named him — Lyric. It's unique but not too crazy and I love it and Legally its YOUR right, you make all the decisions when it comes to your baby because you're the one carrying him."

Another wrote, "If you absolutely cannot compromise on it you'd have to look into your state's law about it, I suppose. I've never known any couple that had to go the legal way though, one way or the other somehow the kid always got named."

The Telegraph reports that naming a baby is one of the top arguments parents-to-be have, with 75 percent of first-time parents fighting over what to name their little one. 

Parents magazine has this advice: "If the baby name pick that makes your skin crawl has really positive and sentimental associations for your partner? Consider letting the sentimental win out. It may not happen overnight, but eventually, that name will come to be associated with your favorite little bundle of joy, and any negativity surrounding it will disappear." 

It also lists a few tips on how to land on the perfect name — without hating your partner. 

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