Reza Farahan

Reza shares his thoughts on the friendship breakup with Lilly.

on Jan 210

Sorry I didn't blog last week, the real estate market is on fire again and I'm happy to say that business is booming. So let's get into this episode. I have to say that I'm impressed that despite their differences, GG and her sister are able to work together. In our culture family is everything, and it's not often that you see siblings on two sides of the fence. Leila doubted GG, but after a call from Mike, Leila decided to back GG up on the MJ vs. GG war that has been going on. I don't feel the same way as Mike, he doesn't pay attention and he doesn't recall facts. GG has been extremely aggressive with MJ on three separate occasions. The first being at MJ's house in front of me, the second was at St. Feliz, where Asa and I were both present, and finally at Del Mar. GG was very close to striking MJ and after these three incidents, MJ called the 'naneh' (in Farsi it means the momma). I'm not saying MJ was right to call the momma, but MJ couldn't take anymore.

From there we go soghati shopping (soghati are gifts you buy before a trip to take to relatives, or gifts you buy and bring back home). The moment that stands out for me is when MJ said she wanted to ruin GG's life. I'm no expert, but I think calling the momma and telling her that her daughter is a c--- whore bitch should have been enough.

The scene with Lilly and her glam gays was more ridiculous than the outfit she wore to shop in. It's clear that Lilly doesn't understand friendship; she thinks that money is exchanged in a friendship. She surrounds herself with these shallow queens that tell her how fabulous she is as she's signing their checks. The best thing she said was that she wants to be friends with people that she's "effortlessly friends with," AKA I don't want to put any work into my friendships, I'd rather pay for them. I wonder how many of them would stick around if the well ran dry?

83 comments
Dee617
Dee617

I love Reza!  If he was not gay, I'd love to chase him for a romance.  He's a very sexy man in my eyes and is very smart. Reza is absolutely right about Lilly.  She's incredibly selfish, Lilly is so extremely into herself, she doesn't really have any friends.  Her friendships are fake.  That's why it was easy for her to leave Texas.   It's guaranteed when Lilly dies, she will be a very lonely woman who did not fulfill her life in the most important ways for a real woman.  Lilly is grossly obsessed with herself and she's a liar too!  The camera shows her true self.  I have no jealousy in my heart for any woman.  I always talk about how beautiful a woman is if I see true beauty.  But I don't think Lilly is beautiful.  She's weird looking -- like fake looking to me, and has a terribly ugly personality.  Also, watching Lilly eating is a total turn off.  Her mouth looks sooooo ugly whenever she eats, lol.

Golparitehrani
Golparitehrani

Reza you are a KHALEH ZANAK......and that's not a compliment even for a gay man. You are faker than fake too. No wonder this season you have teamed up with MJ and ASA. You are a bunch of Mean Girls. 

mimi.arrigoni
mimi.arrigoni


I am so disappointed in Reza, he brought Lily into the group, and he ousted her out of the group, because of MJ come on Reza you have no heart, I cant imagine the hurt Lily felt when not 1 person from the group stood up for her, then they all made an excuse or claimed Lily never reached out to them, why should she? they all made it clear. SMH

Rapunzel66
Rapunzel66

Reza, you are "right on". I agree with your observations on Mike,GG,and MJ and especially agree with EVERYTHING you said about Lilly. I have also written Asa to thank her for pointing out that Lilly doesn't WANT to be REAL friends with any of you. I hope you folks persuade Bravo to replace her because she is a hopeless narcissist and will NEVER be anyone's REAL friend. She is incapable of feelings for any other human,it's all about her all the time. If she is signing checks for her gay entourage,she is also not very bright. They'll all be gone when the money's gone. She is a disgusting,boring predictable "Barbie" robot and I can't stand to watch her. She isn't attractive in any meaningful way. Give me MJ, Asa, or you as a friend anyday and i'll do cartwheels for joy. God bless.

moesky
moesky

I think Reza is somewhat right when he says Lily does'nt understand friendship because it is difficult to understand fake friends like him.  Who will he turn on next?

lisah@3
lisah@3

Reza, please forgive as i am off subject however I wanted to Thank you for sharing some of your lifes Culture with us, as I felt shame of Not Knowing ANYTHING at all Of IRAN, its cultures beliefs etc.  I live in a Beautiful coastal town of Florida called Venice, it is so beautiful, peaceful and to be honest a somewhat sheltered lifestyle here and Shocking it was that in the 911, 2 of the Terrorist men lived here for years. They Hurt so Many many Persian people by there actions causing EVERYONE to stereo type and thaat was something I took GREAT OFFENSE to FOR people of Persian decent. 

I JUST WANTED to THAnK YOU and Share with you that it was because i try often to watch Shahs of Sunset and seeing your Journey to Turkey it caused me to WANT TO LEARN and Know so much of Pershians and there strength and journey associated with Iran. 

I love and Live the VALUE of true friendship and Closeness with your families and friends. SO thank you for sharing!  

patcaseygold
patcaseygold

You need to take your head out of your you know what. You should have said something in favor of Lilly but as usual you were trying to play both sides. Grow up for god's sake. You have a lot of hang ups and it all doesn't have to do with your past in Iran. One thing for sure you and MJ are made for each other, both wacky and immature.

AJP66
AJP66

Reza, what does "ACT BLACK" mean?  I had to go black and re-watch with closed captions on.  I hoping that you said whack, but CC stated otherwise.  Why would you say that?  I have LOST ALL RESPECT for you. 

lisa.lesinszki
lisa.lesinszki

Reza, I absolutely adore you!  You change your mind like a runway model changes outfits, you go from 0 to lightspeed in the blink of an eye, your quick wit and snappy repartee make me laugh out loud. You have Mike and Lilly totally pegged and I love it when you make them squirm. You are naughty and charming and well-spoken and stylish and effervescent.  I love watching SoS because of you. Hope you are making big $$. This show would not exist without you.

gloria9266@sbcglobal.net
gloria9266@sbcglobal.net

stop acting like a freakin' baby girl.  everytime you're with mj, you act like poison and when you're with the others you're a kinder person.  mj needs therapy and a lot of it and don't mean it in a good way.  you need to get back with Lily, love her.


dianacc
dianacc

You are not a good friend!!! You and MJ are mean and think you are all that, but youre really not. GG is even more likable this season because MJ is behaving so poorly. How can you support her? And Mike is the only one who always makes sense. 

timmons22
timmons22

Lilly doesn't understand friendship but you do? 

observer12
observer12

A call in guest on watch what happen live ask Reza about why he supports  MJ being so mean to people.  Reza said that's just your opinion that MJ is just his girl and always has been.  Reza it's not an opinion its a FACT.  This girl is toxic..

Sonc
Sonc

Reza from now on, I will refer to you as "Me Me" since for you it's all about Me Me!

mOunta1ndrEamz1
mOunta1ndrEamz1

I'm not loving Reza, for dumping on Lili! He bought her in,I feel because she didn't party as hard. When I look bacvk how he took the 2-liter bottle of coke acting like he was peeing on MJ. How he has treated MJ when she was drunk! I think MJ is actually in love with Reza and is threatened by anyone who may be his friend. What's worse I believe Reza knows it and punishes MJ with the way he treats her. Good for Lili ,getting away from that type of 1 sided friendship! I use to like Reza , but he pumps MJ to drink , like he use to add to her anger outbursts!

tigers65
tigers65

Reza you hit the nail right on the head when you were in Turkey you were so right if they knew you walked on the wild side they would have probably buried you up to your neck and threw rocks at your head. Reza where do you buy your threads at? 

pills
pills

This has nothing to do with this here blog blog but I just watched the Bethenny episode where you shaved your stache. You look SO much better...and younger! Keep that look hot stuff!

lindahaywood
lindahaywood

Shame on you Reza, can't believe you support MJ's behavior and the way she treats others.  she is a bully and you think it is fun or for some weird thing you find it fun.  It is ugly of you to support that behavior in any way shape or form.  I guess that makes you a bully too.  Tell MJ to lose some weight and maybe she would like herself better and treat others better, she really is not attractive inside or outside, and you should help her change that behavior if you are truly her friend.

zowach
zowach

Loving "my" Reza. 

lsthrntn@aol.com
lsthrntn@aol.com

Team Reza and MJ.  Lily can appear fake; Mike is consuming too much alcohol and GG may need psychological counseling for her anger issues...it's so hard to be supportive of GG when she appears to be a screaming maniac in many episodes even when you think she is right.  Asa is my girl.

Socialebritey_SF
Socialebritey_SF

Btw…Lilly has your number, meaning she see's you for what you really are, there is nothing redeemable about your friendship…and with you friendship has all sorts of conditions and stipulations and on your terms…Clearly she knows she is better off without you as a friend, and the rest of the world agrees with her.

PandaBear08
PandaBear08

Reza,


You are clearly the one that doesn't understand friendship.


A true friend would stand up for their friend and not let others attack and humiliate their friends. That is exactly what you did that night that your girl MJ was acting like a schoolyard bully and attacking Lilly at the dinner table. Your silence pretty much confirmed that you didn't consider Lilly a friend. I know this may be realllllyyyy hard for you, but for once, why don't you put yourself in Lilly's position? I'm sure you wouldn't have reacted the same way. I'm sure it would be something you would be complaining about the whole season. Why would she want to be friends with you? You are so disrespectful through and through!


That wasn't just one little thing that didn't go her way. What MJ was saying to her was hurtful and uncalled for and you just sat in silence like a coward. The whole time you were reflecting on your relationship with Lilly, all I heard was "me, me, me". You kept going on about what she didn't do for you. What did you do for her? Did you reach out to her after that night? Did you  make sure she was alright? Did  you apologize and try to set things straight. I'm pretty sure the answer is NO. Why should she be the one to reach out to you? The only thing that you have done for her is team up with MJ with your pom poms and drag her name through the mud. 


It's so funny how you are trying to call Lilly out for twisting your words to Asa about Turkey. Let's rewind to her birthday party...she explicitly said ANYONE that did not RSVP would not be able to get in to her party. She did not single MJ out. She did not mention anything about trying to embarrass MJ. YOU were the one that went around telling people she was planning on humiliating MJ at the door. YOU told everyone that she had this elaborate scheme to make MJ look like a loser would couldn't get into the party. It's so funny how the etiquette of friendship doesn't apply to you or MJ. 


Bottom line, if you wanted Lilly to treat you like a friend, you should've acted like one. Clearly you don't know how to be one. 


Lastly, for someone who preaches about needing to have thick skin, you sure get your feelings hurt a lot by the results of your own actions. 

Rich01453
Rich01453

Reza, Mike wouldn't sleep with you!  Your a COW!

TTB
TTB

Reza doesn't want friends, he wants servants and yes men. Look how he now attacks Lilly. That's a friend? 

captmerka
captmerka

Salaams Reza.....thanks for the recap....and for the update. I guess I'm addicted to watching what's going on in Teherangeles....and miss y'all during break.  I have to acknowledge being quite stunned by Lilly's absolute vapidness.  I thought with her brains and education she would do much much better with you and the community there in LA but during the show when she talked with Asa and explained that "you told her not to go to Turkey" I stopped tape and restarted the DVR to the scene in the bistro with you and her discussing that trip and clear as a bell there she was stating "I'm not going". Period.    Thus we witness a bold faced lie.  How such beauty diminishes when you really see the character is something else.      No wonder Lilly left Houston...that town aint big enough to handle that narcissism and would set her ass straight in a Texas minute.  I lived in Tx for about 20 yrs and guarantee that. And ditto for all you said about her glam squad.  Really sad. 


But onto the next thing. The MJ issues.  There is a lot of history between you two but I am often surprised at how much leeway you grant MJ...as her mother apparently was a lousy mother, self absorbed, absent and so critical, you can see how that manifests in MJ .....and she may continue to 'get away with' her rather vicious mouth now but one can only imagine how that will result when she's got another 10 or 20 yrs on her.  Not pretty thought at all. Gigi is a scary 'adolescent'....and I can only wish that MJ and Gigi were able to get a really skilled therapist to work out their obvious deep emotional wounds....I think each of them is rather 'dangerous'...and could end up pushing the wrong person in the wrong place....I hate to even think about it...but share it with you because I hope you will at least consider encouraging each of them to pursue counseling...individually of course.        


I think you are a heckuva guy....you don't hide your 'warts' and thus enable other men to see there is a way to grow up and beyond limitations.  Like the healing you decided to work thru with Sasha (is that his name?) the FOB guy. 

I've 'enjoyed meeting you'....and vicariously learning about the community each week....I look forward to seeing the Turkey journey and seeing the sights...its been a long time since I was there in Istanbul...but Blue Masjid and Bosphorus, Galata Bridge etc are indelibly etched in my brain.    Much happiness to you and hope that Shahs goes on and on and on!  Love your humor, your cheeky wit and open heart. cheers to you and yr family...

Hoda hafez.  

golden10
golden10

Reza, why so hard on Mike?  This is what I don't understand about you.  Your sarcasm is so mean its a wonder Mike is still you friend.  Lilly was right in running from you.  Unless you are the center of attention, you really are just spiteful and mean! 

jbatango
jbatango

Reza, my dear Reza. You are a MAN after all, and I expect you to act as such.

I am a man as well, and o, I am not gay but I love your show cuz it's cool learning new cultures.

After reading the first lines you wrote about Lilly and her friends, I stopped. 

Here is the bottom line: she is over you guys, whether you like it or not. She has BETTER things to do, and better people to hang out with. You and your friends are sadly a group of hypocrites and I would do the same. I am even surprised Mike came back to apologize to you, cuz he did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG. I guess hanging out with you guys is emasculating him. 

You do NOT sit on a table with "friends" and have one say to the other she is nobody's friend and you keep quiet. Anybody with their right mind will get the hell out of there and out of your sad lives.  

lachihuahua
lachihuahua

Reza, please stop referring to women as B's.  It is incredibly offensive to women and quite similar to me calling all gay men "insert derogatory gay male term here."  There is absolutely nothing cute about being called a B by a gay male or any other male, for that matter.

patriciap77
patriciap77

Lily has every right to be upset. All of you betrayed and humiliated her that evening. Many of you have said, we have been MJ's friend for a long time....So does that mean you cannot be Lily's friend also? Some/all of you could have said something like "I/we have a long history with MJ, we are understandably close, but I/we care about you too...MJ does not speak for me/us" But all of you sent the message to her that MJ was right (by saying nothing) and we are not really your friend.....YOU should have understood how embarrassing and painful that evening was for her and checked in with her to see if she was OK....that is if you ever really cared about her at all. For context, I am not team lily, I think the birthday party stunt with MJ was absolutely horrible…..BUT two wrongs do not make a right and you are all adults

Darschell
Darschell

You are a clown, a fair weather friend and it is YOU who do not know the meaning of friendship. I don't know why you think you are so entitled. YOu are a self-centered whining jerk. I can't stand you.

hazeleyes963
hazeleyes963

You are the one that doesn't understand what friendship is not Lily. You brought her into the group and I believe the reason you did it was to piss MJ off. We all saw last year how you went after MJ B at the reunion. When Lily needed you to be a "true" friend to her, you turned your back on her and now you are upset that she hadn't contacted you...are you that delusional? I love the fact that Lily had the backbone to be honest and call you out on it. I see that you are still bashing Mike...what happened to the "brotherly love"???? I totally understand why you and MJ are BFF's... you are both narcissistic and selfish!!!! It's all about me, me, me with you and MJ and to hell with how other people feel by the things the both of you do to them. Your "I'm the victim" act is beyond tiresome at this point. It is clear that with friends like you and MJ- Lily, Mike and GG don't need enemies. Just remember that what goes around comes around and Karma is going to pay you and MJ a well deserved and overdue visit.

stlouisviewer
stlouisviewer

I used to think you were wise but I was sickened by what you did to MJ on tv during the reunion.  I felt that was unforgivable.  MJ forgave you because lets face it, no one else wants to spend any time with her but you.  Lilly has a lot of class and education.  Why would she hang out with a bunch of lazy, spoiled children? When MJ said none of these people are your friend...you should have spoken up.  You didn't speak up because you really don't know how to be a friend.  I am glad you aren't my friend.

maggie34
maggie34

Reza is a descent person when he's not around MJ but the minute there together he becomes a hot mess and I think MJ needs mental help! Good friends are there for each other and it's obvious these two are not....  

dexter.pie
dexter.pie

@tigers65 But you hadit rougher than Sasha.  Sasha grew up in post revolutionary Iran where you say you can't go because the kill and imprison gays. He lived There! yet he had it so easy compared to the strife you experienced growning up gay in Beverly Hills?  Puh-leeze!

msmith76
msmith76

I despise ASA.  She is insincere.  She can not be trusted.

rico39
rico39

@Rich01453 He would give his right n>>> to get Mike into his bed.


cinchy
cinchy

@jbatango I wish I could "like" this comment a hundred times.

Trvel
Trvel

@lachihuahua I was going to write the same thing. Reza, you claim  you hate the"f:" word (as do I), yet you call someone that in a gay bar!!! And you think it's ok to go around strongly, and waay to frequently, call women B's. It's extremely offensive. If you want others to give respect, then show respect.

cinchy
cinchy

@lachihuahuaReza doesn't care.  He called a totally innocent gay man a f@ggot. He just doesn't care.

msmith76
msmith76

Especailly since its apparent that he does not have a clue.

observer12
observer12

@patriciap77 I can't imagine me sitting and not saying," Hey wait a minute, Lilly's my friend".  Lilly looked humiliated and hurt.  These people just have no compassion except for them selves.

LolaL
LolaL

@patriciap77 I think that birthday dinner stunt by MJ was absolutely horrible too.  MJ got an invite which warned her that RSVPing was a must then got 2 follow up emails reminding her to RSVP and still she didn't till the night before which would have been too late to add or subtract a dinner without cost.

Sonc
Sonc

@Darschell Ooooh! *snap* you deserve three snaps and a twirl for your on-point comment!!

msmith76
msmith76

Well I thought Lily explained it best when she said, HELLO, who doe snot RSVP when you are having a meal catered.  It is a clear sign of disrespect and it demonstrates that the indiviual thinks the world revolves around them.  I really saw that fake ASA for who she was when she said it would have been a better party with MJ present.  Oh really?  I don't think so.  All MJ would have done was cause a scene with either that immature GOLENESSA or one of the dumb bunch.

chloe_
chloe_

@msmith76 GG is ten times more mature than MJ, and MJ's had over a decade more to grow up.