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Thomas: What's Better for Our Daughter?

Thomas opens up about his relationship with Kathryn and his biggest regret this season.

By Thomas Ravenel

Bravotv.com: Was it hard to see Kathryn at the Wounded Warrior Project's benefit after the way things were left at your election night party?

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Thomas Ravenel: Yes! I knew she would summon all her womanly wiles to show up looking stunning, beautiful, and sexy...she knows how to capture the attention of a man. I know myself...I can easily buy into this flirtation and have it over take my willpower, clouding any good judgment a man might have about this situation.  

Bravotv.com: How did you feel after Kathryn gave you the ultimatum of being all in or all out?

TR: The real question is...what didn't I feel? The entire pros and cons list about this relationship flashed in neon letters in my head, I felt everything under the sun. What's better for our daughter? To be in a turbulent relationship all the time or having distance with someone? I can't erase all these thoughts of what it is like to live with this person day to day. How can that make a marriage?

Are Thomas and Kathryn Back on the Same Page?

Bravotv.com: What's the biggest lesson you learned this season? 

TR: Saying NO. I have learned that I want to look good, so I find myself accommodating other people's wishes to look good, and then I don't follow my instincts. 

Bravotv.com: Do you have any regrets about this season?

TR: I regret running for office with the amount of turmoil at home. It was impossible to shape the campaign into what it needed to be. I allowed her to pull my focus because I was trying to do the "right thing" instead of following my gut. I wish I could have handled my anger and resentment towards Kathryn better...hindsight is 20/20.

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