"Dating in Silicon Valley Sucks!"

Hermione shares her frustrations with finding love.

Dating in Silicon Valley sucks!

Two years in Silicon Valley, two years I've been single. I find dating in Silicon Valley harder than it was in London. Maybe it's because I'm older and uglier, but I know I'm not alone. I live with five single men, all in tech, all looking for love and all finding it difficult in the land of html 5 and java script.

But it should be easy for us, right? We are all technologically savvy, creative people who are dialed into the latest apps and sites for dating and not afraid to try them out in real-life. Heck, we even hacked together a video dating site over a weekend, unsatisfied with the current online-dating market.

So why aren't they working? We could write a doctrine on the problems with online dating: people making fake profiles, being different than how they look in photos, the time versus reward of effort that has to go into organizing a date. But perhaps we should be blaming ourselves instead of the world around us. I mean we are all self-absorbed entrepreneurs who believe we've got what it takes to build the next world-changing company and won't let anything get in the way of that -- sex or no sex.

Who has the capacity to invest emotional energy into a relationship when your start-up needs every inch of your attention to be a success? Especially when love cannot be quantified and the emotional investment that has to go into a relationship has no guaranteed return.

We set high expectations for ourselves because we think we are amazing. The journey we've had to go on and sacrifices we've had to make to get here mean we cannot introduce anything into our lives which might knock us off course and send us in a different (maybe the wrong) direction. Humans have never been so easily connected to so many people around the world than now with the advent of social media. And that also creates dating dilemmas; FOMA (Fear Of Missing Out) is a current theme amongst my friends; in Silicon Valley there are six or seven events every night you can go to -- we meet so many new, incredible people every week it's hard to settle for one or easy to think next week you will probably meet someone even more beautiful, intelligent, and amazing.

Silicon Valley is also an incredibly small social circle where you are likely to bump into your past and present hook-ups, so what happens when you date the same guy as your friends? On tonight's episode of Start-Ups: Silicon Valley I go on a date with Jay -- a cute guy Sarah previously dated.



When Sarah finds out she takes revenge on Jay by making him wet (not the kind you are thinking).

Tune in to Bravo at 10pm tonight to find out what I'm talking about!

Think dating in Silicon Valley sucks? Tell me your stories below!

Ending the Friendship with Sarah

David reacts to Sarah's accusations.

Building a product is hard enough, but launching it and putting a big event together to generate marketing buzz for it at the same time was almost enough to put me over the edge! But I've been working my butt off to get GoalSponsors out the door and launched, and after several months of effort, I was able to have a successful launch event and gain enough buzz to get a great set of beta users to test out the product! It's live in the app store if you'd like to give it a try:

https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/goalsponsors/id563679640

I'm proud of myself, for sure, but I definitely didn't do it alone. There were several other companies that have helped me quite a bit, including NoXcuses Fitness and especially Appcelerator, who has gone above and beyond the call of duty to help me make my app and my launch a success. A good number of people showed up to the launch event -- not an AMAZING number, but a strong 100-150ish, and after all the beta signups, I've been able to test my product out on real people, get feedback, and launch something that's now helping people achieve their biggest goals in life! In fact, the total weight loss of our users is in the hundreds of pounds, and we've only been live for the past month or so! On the business side of things, life is going well.On the personal side of things, not everything is so great. It's really hard to see someone that you've been close to turn around and do something to hurt you. When Sarah asked me to meet with her that day, she sent a text asking if I had time to get together and when I asked what it was about, she alluded to it being about business, and then quickly changed the subject. Nevertheless, I showed up in generally good spirits, so I was caught completely off guard when she accused of "physically assaulting," even "tackling" her -- thank goodness the world was able to see the moment she was referring to, in which she tries to interrupt Hermione's presentation at my event and I come to her calmly and escort her away from the stage, smiling and being generally friendly, as I didn't want to create drama at my own event.

So that hurt me quite a bit. Also, she was upset that I didn't provide a booth for her, but she literally never asked me, and the truth is (and I told her this) that if she wanted a booth, all she had to do was tell me and I would have given it to her. Ben and Hermione asked, and that was why I gave them one. Sarah never did.

There's a lot more to that conversation at the Four Seasons, from accusing me of trying to keep her and Hermione apart to trying to take credit for someone else's work in helping put together my event, the list of things she threw at me that day was quite large, and to this day I don't understand why she did it, knowing that I was her confidant, that I was there when everyone else was against her... why me, of all people? Was it just to create drama? Just to establish herself as the queen bee or, dare I say it, the villain?Needless to say, that was the last conversation I had with Sarah. I'm all for second chances when people make mistakes that were unintentional, but the kind of cold calculation Sarah did that day made me realize that it is better for me to let the friendship end and not do anything further to try and continue it. For once I was a part of the drama, not just the instigator of it -- and boy was that a reminder that it's better to be on the sidelines when the poo hits the fan!

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Cheers,
Dave