Mixing business and pleasure may not work for all couples — but that isn't the case for The Real Housewives of Dallas pair Cary Deuber and husband Dr. Mark Deuber. The couple has managed to find a balance between their high-pressure jobs at his plastic surgery practice and their roles as husband and wife when they aren't in the operating room.
"I love working with my husband," Cary told The Daily Dish of being an operative assistant at the practice. "It’s a unique relationship. We get to be together the majority of the time, which we love. Yeah, I’m the boss at home and he’s the boss at home. Not really — I’m kind of the boss everywhere. Actually, I think we’re pretty even. We have an even respect, we have mutual respect for each other and our relationship, and I think that that is something that is hard to find. It’s hard to find a woman who respects a man and a man who respects a woman equally."
No scrubs! Cary and Mark in their work gear.
Not that working together doesn't come with some challenges, like knowing when to shut off the noise of the day and focus on being married. "I think the biggest challenge of working with your husband is just not bringing work home. We really separate it," Cary explained of how she and her husband of six years balance things out. "Our home life is at home and our work life is at work. We try not to come home and talk about what happened that day, we talk about it at work and then that’s separate."
Not that it's always easy, considering that their careers in the medical field means that they are dealing with patients even when they are home. "I mean, sometimes it can be hard to not talk about work at home," she said. "But we do it if a patient calls or something like that, that’s fine. I think it’s nice because we’re together so we can answer those questions that a patient may have together. Say a patient calls while he’s right there on a couch next to me, I can say, 'Hey babe, this is going on,' and he can help me. We’re on call 24 hours a day, seven days a week. We’re always there for our patients and it works out. We’ve committed to that and we love that, we love our patients and we love caring for them so it really isn’t an issue."
Before Cary and Mark married, they were just colleagues. But, Cary insists that making that transition from co-workers to married co-workers wasn't as challenging as you might imagine.
"We always had a working relationship, and I think that’s what makes it work for us is that work is completely separate," she said. "He’s my boss at work, I don’t view him as my husband at work because he was always my boss and was never anything more than that. So he’s still my boss at work. So I think when we go home, the clock kicks off and we’re on our own time and our own terms and hanging out with our family and it's different."
In an interesting twist, there was a time in Mark's professional life when working with Cary wasn't even an option. Before medical school, he worked in the high-pressure world of the finance industry — but knew that it wasn't the right fit for him. "My husband worked for Bear Stearns. He was an investment banker and he worked there three years in Manhattan and then he decided it wasn’t for him. And he just wanted to do something different, so he decided to go back to medical school," Cary recalled. "He’s very artistic, so I think that’s where the plastic surgery side came because he loves art and using his hands, so that’s the way he went. And he loves it."
Speaking of plastic surgery, below Cary opens up about some do's and don'ts everyone should be aware of before going under the knife.