Yolanda H. Foster

Yolanda reflects on cleansing with Kyle, catching up with Kim, and the big show-down at the Moroccan restaurant.

on Jan 14, 20130

Hi everyone! I hope you had a great week and are getting back into the swing of things and ready to tackle 2013 head-on.

Thanks for all your well wishes; I am on day 40 of my IV antibiotic treatments with hopefully only 30 more to go. I am starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel and hoping to get back to my normal life sooner than later. I have a new respect and sympathy for any of you out there battling a chronic and/or debilitating disease.

I have been enjoying the blog process because I am fascinated with the different perspectives on our stories. Like I say every week, I am just giving my view, but, as my husband pointed out, a point of view by definition can often seem judgmental. But in my heart, I'm always trying to help, not hurt. I am also learning that since English is not my first language I sometimes don't use the correct words and some things definitely get lost in translation.  It was so much easier to do my Dutch show where I got to think and speak in my own language. However, I will continue to try and do better.

I wasn't going to spend any more time and energy on the Scheana-Eddie story. Of course, there are so many cheaters in this town -- well in this world to be exact! It just infuriates me to think he cheated on Brandi while she was pregnant with his child. It's just even more unconscionable and really shows that this man has no moral compass either. Again, Brandi is so lucky to be far away from him and his dysfunctional ways. . .

431 comments
SharonDoyle
SharonDoyle

Yolanda you have fast become my favorite housewife.  I am glad that you are calling things as they are, and taking up for Brandi.  You stick with Brandi and Lisa and you will be with the best  ladies..  I have figured out that the other ladies have  motives for the way they act and want to gain attention for themselves.

 

Mtm3
Mtm3

Hello!

Thank you for showing people how to eliminate the bully!! You are amazing and are setting an example of what to do when insecure people have to make others feel less then 0! It is disgusting and it happens every day! Love you and am inspired to always protect the innocent! xo

 

kristy.l.kline
kristy.l.kline

Hi Yolanda!  I just wanted to send my support for your lymes treatment.  I am going through treatment, as well, for late disseminated Lymes and Neuroborreliosis.  I am only taking oral Doxycycline 400mg for an antibiotic.  Lymes disease has only  recently become prevalent in my state and the doctors do not readily diagnose it.  I have lots of supplemental and herbal support, too.  I hope your therapy works quickly.  No doubt your healthy lifestyle will give you an advantage.

 

I think the hardest part of having Lymes is the lack of understanding by others.  In my case, I feel the worst for those closest to me.  My children and my husband have witnessed me at my worst thanks to Lymes and do not fully excuse it knowing my diagnosis.  I am sure that all of my family and friend relationships have suffered, also.  I really just want to be "me" again soon.  

 

The nice thing is, I am feeling more like myself than ever with treatment.  I have had several short periods of a return of symptoms but overall I am continuing to improve.  I hope your treatment works wonders for you.  I wish you the best!

thegemprincess
thegemprincess

Hi Yolanda: First, I believe you are a grounded, nice well-meaning individual.  As you are dealing with your associates on Housewives of BH, and them also being powerful, rich, influential people, it is important to perhaps reframe from too much interaction  (at this time),because  it may come out in an unintended inflammatory mannor due to your Lyme.   Personally, I believe your "Lyme" is making you come accross this way that has attracted so much controversy.  Wht you do for us viewing audience is one thing, but real "reality" is private and should be off camera.  I hope you settle your differences behind the scene.  Lyme is a difficult enough journey.   Please reflect on this idea -- I know PERSONALLY that in my beginning 8 months of treatment, I was more outspoken, assertive  than normally.  I believe if you inquire from your infectious disease doc, he will tell you that this is a major issue of people dealing with Lyme.  A famous person once said "what you say is not as important as HOW you say it"  You might be completely right but wrong deliverance  (due to Lyme) is probably the culprit.....margo miller

tracy_goldman
tracy_goldman

 You are my favorite housewife and I enjoy watching you and how you dote on your family.  Love to watch the wonderful meals you put together and how graceful you are with the other housewives.  

Bkarma21
Bkarma21

Yolanda, I find you really refreshing and inspirational so glad you are on the show!

My husband and I thought about doing the cleanse a few years ago now I must do it after all the postive energy you got from it. We are trying to eat healthier cut out beef, etc. Also I have been married for 22 years and heard about your new venture-can't to hear more about it, its hard to keep things fresh and I am always looking for ideas. Is it a show? if so when will it  come on I want to DVR it. Thank you for all your postive energy!

Paula710
Paula710

Yolanda, you are so refreshing and seem to be a beautiful person.  I wouldn't watch this show if it weren't for you, Lisa and Brandi.  Thank you! for being part of it.  

charnorm
charnorm

Yolanda, I do like you on the show, however, I have a question for you. You cooked a very nice dinner for your family. Did you actually sit in the sink in your kitchen?  Also Lisa and Ken are not the best people source of inforation regarding the other housewives. I find Kyle and Maruicio real. Just remember the behavior at your dinner party.

wordlady2013
wordlady2013

Yolanda, I think you are right on about everything and everyone. I especially agree about the Adienne and Brandy situation. Adrienne is conflicting her own words when she says "friends don't sue friends". I mean, come on, Brandy was wrong and does need to apologize- and she knows that. She isn't denying it. Let's remember, Kyle is sly and provoked that remark that night. Kim even agreed- her sister lit that fire. I love Brandy- what you see, is what you get- and yes, perhaps she uses the f-bomb a bit much- but it's as you stated Yolanda- it tends to be only used when someone is in the wrong - or she was attacked. I thought she handled herself with style the night she had that nosy-wind bag, Faye Resnick, coming at her. I also agree, Adrienne is a drama queen- call Brandy out on her remark and talk it through- versus threatening to sue her- like she didn't want Russell Armstrong to do to her. Get a life- rich housewife......intimidation is exactly what she is doing. I also agreed with you about Kyle in Ojah- she should have tried to use that time to bond with Kim- versus partying. This would have been ideal for the two of them to end the night early together and go off for sister time- along with you. You are so good- and have such class and style- yet I love the fact you have grit- calling them all out for the way they are all getting too involved with the Brandy and Adrienne situation. You were so funny and bold at the same time at the restaurant scene.

 

On a final note- what you are trying to do with Kim and inviting her over to take advantage of something very helpful and healthly for her- demonstrates your concern for her and looking out for her sobriety and welfare. I love your home. Any chance for her to spend time there with you is theraputic- hec, I'll fly out and join you. I just turned 50 and one of my goals is to live the second half of my life healthier. I love you Yolanda- you are beautiful, strong and a positive influence on all of them- and fun....and you are right- you don't need to drink too much to have fun. You are only offering your concern.....

bengal-liz
bengal-liz

Yolanda...Finally a housewife with some style, class and grace.  You make the other wives look foolish, childish and dirty...You have the ability to hold yourself very well.  The other wives should take a lesson from you.  Thanks for putting some beauty into this show....

Randelld
Randelld

Your my new fav. Your real and don't mind saying how you feel. And it's usually so true.

KellyAC
KellyAC

I used to be a big fan of Adrienne and Paul...but this summer I feel I got to see to exactly what lengths Adrienne will go to anyone who gets in her way or her vision of how she sees her life..   Allegations to the court, then let go...Come on.  Just because you can start court wars, doesn't mean it's in anyone's best interest...not even your own.

danusha3
danusha3

sorry i just lost respect for you after you low balled the poor artist after he went from $14000 to $8500  ...you were so greedy that you just had to squeeze another $500 giving him some BS about "both people need to leave a little on the table" WTF? he just gave you a $6500 discount !!!! THAT IS LEAVING something on the table!!! I live in beverly hills and i am going to make sure and visit this dude. You don't know how long an artist works on those huge pieces!!! how would you like to decorate a house and have someone tell you that you would only get 50% of your wages? go back  to your huge mansion and every time you look at this piece you can be reminded of how greedy you are!!! This is America not Morocco.

Maya2
Maya2

I didn"t like that you told the "mover" to "learn english" ! I find it offensive ! other than that don't have anything to say ! 

danusha3
danusha3

you are a great addition.... but when Brandi opens her mouth and makes negative comments to a big table of people (as she did at Lisas tasting) then she is making everyone involved. It ios no longer about the 2 of them its about everyone who had to listen.

charnorm
charnorm

Yolanda, Iknow you have your own opinion about what is going on, but I would like to give you another. Kyle and Mauricio have always tried to bring these women together in a social setting to get along, but every time they do one or more of them ruin the evening by drama. Lisa and Ken and phonies, and she is controlling what is actually going on. You do not seem to be the type of woman who likes to be around women or men who are always using profanity. Brandi is always using the f-word, even when Ken (Lisa's pet) tried to come to her poor defense,she started cursing when it was not necessary. Lisa and Ken have a history of picking up a housewife they feel is beneath them or feel sorry for, they did this with Taylor and then they dropped her and picked Brandi. Brandi belongs on the show of VanDamm Rules. She would fit in with that crowd. You need to spend more time with the other women and not let Lisa filter the real truth to you. Since you are not around these people all the time you can't see the true story. How classless of Lisa and Ken to treat Mauricio the way they did when he offered a peace offering. He was not saying he was wrong, he just did not want drama to come up between the them, but they showed real class?  Now Lisa and Ken want to show they have clout on the show by treating Kyle and Mauricio badly. Yolanda, your husband had raise his voice at your dinner party with Dave Kos, so what was wrong with Mauricio stating the obvious. He wanted to relax at dinner and now he his hearing about this suit again(which Brandi brought up herself)  He has a right to express his feelings, all of this started at his Client's event with Brandi!!!! Do not think badly about Mauricio and Kyle they are good people. Just remember how these women were acting at  your dinner when your husband had to raise his voice!!!!!!!

msgirl1
msgirl1

So glad you have joined the show. You are the voice of reason in some really crazy situations. I totally agree with you about the whole law suit.  Andrienne is obviously trying to scare and bully Brandi with the whole law suit.    Really, if that's your biggest problem, then you obviously don't have one.

vbennett
vbennett

Yolanda.. You are a class act.. It's a nice breath of fresh air to watch you on this show..

mattie1
mattie1

Yolanda, your defense of Brandi, your admiration for Lisa, and the fact that you are on  to Taylor make you one of the best people to watch.

OliverBStyles
OliverBStyles

Yolando I love seeing you on the show. You are also like a Stepford Wife, but in the best way. I did the master cleanse when I was finishing school, and it was pretty good. I did it for 20 days. It was rough but it worked. I'm glad you enjoyed it too.

 

On to you as a person. I hope that Bravo doesn't replace you because you are drama free. You tend to break up the excessive drama of these other women, and we need it. Your views are usually right with what we are all thinking. There is nothing worse than a drunk woman; you were right about that with Taylor. Lisa and Ken were adorable. The Brandi situation was wrong, but Adrienne certainly isn't helping matters, and neither did Mauricio by stepping in. If Adrienne wants to play victim she can do it on her own time rather than waste everyone else's.

 

And yes ... Brandi may be a lot of things (loud, aggressive, curse like a sailor) but one thing she has not done is lie on the show. You may not like her truth, but it is just that ... truth. I'd rather have someone yell at me from an honest place than someone who will smile in my face and then one day out of the blue accuse me of selling stories to a tabloid and then run and hide.

doggiemom
doggiemom

You are a breath of fresh air so real and genuine I cannot believe that you will last long with these ladies ( a term that i use loosely when speaking of them) but hopefully you do and maybe they can learn something from you. Teach them to be respectful women with class of there standing you are my favorite  

Sparow
Sparow

I would love to know the exact recipe and details for the "master cleanse"

VedaP
VedaP

Yolanda, I like you very much on the show! You are a stunning woman and a great addiction to the cast. I hate to be so superficial, but have you considered using color on your lips? You have wonderful bone structure and there are so many shades of lipstick that would be so flattering on you! You look a bit washed out on camera with the pale lips!

aries9
aries9

I think you may be too "decent" for this show! You do seem like a truly GENUINE person. Kim was right about you. You have a beautiful aura about you (even though I just see you on tv :) lol)..you seem like a very smart, mindful person. You are so much more classy than everyone else. I hope you stay this way:) You're beautiful --and not just on the outside!

HappyItalian
HappyItalian

It seems that the only REAL ladies on this show offer thier love & support in Brandis direction...and for that, you are loved!

Brandi represents a larger group of the viewing audience....REAL people with REAL problems who are trying their best to make a better life for themselves & their children. That is who Brandi is & probly 99% of the RHOBH viewers.

Although, the viewers love to see how yourself & Beautiful, wealthy Lisa live..the truth is that most of the viewers can relate to Brandi more then anyone else on the show. And we think its incredibly cowardly when RICH Adrienne hides behind her Money & Lawyers to get out of dealing with the REAL words that Brandi may have to say to her. Lets remember that it was Adrienne (past season) who lead the pack in having Taylor & Russell DIS-invited to Kyles white party & the Hawaii trip (2 full episodes) because Russel had simply "threatned" to sue Camille over a comment...and Adrienne let everyone know that "friends dont sue friends"...even tho Russel wasnt friends with Camille & he never got a lawyer involved..... And it was Adrienne who had initially had Brandi put on the show thinking that she could use her favor to Brandi as a way to control her and have her LIE about Lisa...and only when Brandi wouldnt do what Adrienne wanted (LIE) then Adrienne has looked for a way to have her removed from episodes (just like she did with Taylor,,,who she got off 2 episodes)

Im not a fan of Taylors either and believe she truly needs to be home with her daughter and not on a show.....Taylors contridictions run deeper then just her dinner talk about single women sticking together...She said so many things about her own husband and berated him for giving his daughter a puppy for her birthday, of which Taylor got rid of due to "allergies" (how painful would that be if you were the little girl...to have your selfish mother get rid of the puppy that your father got you). But now Taylor got her daughter a puppy suddenly..and miracluously the daughter doesnt have allergies anymore. So Taylor has never been my favorite at all. Shes such a waste on this show.

Brandi is genuine and you and Lisa are very Honest, Loving women to be there for her. bravo fans appreciate you for that.

GigiSeaStarr
GigiSeaStarr

Yolanda don't stress and continue to get better.  You are one classy and honest lady.  Sometimes I feel you are just a lil more upper Class.  Brandi really needs to Have Learned the Lesson, You can fool some of the people  some of thetime  but NOT ALL of the  time.  Playing victim doesn't cut it.  You must have intergrity. and Lisa isn't helping Brandi.

Jessica.Cohen954
Jessica.Cohen954

Very well said Yolanda!!! Loved you from the start and still love you!!! You are an amazing mother, wife, and friend!!! I hope to see more interactions with you and your family, its FUN! :)

xoxo

BlingDong
BlingDong

I wish you health and a speedy recovery. Your wonderful blogs resemble so many of the viewer comments. I sincerely hope that the cast reads the comments understanding that perception is reality, and they stand to gain a very clear insight to how their behaviors impact other people. None of them are unique...the world is crowded with many people who act very similarly and we've all encountered them. It's what we want for ourselves that determines if we choose to learn from the examples we see, or begrudge them their greater successes. Most of the cast on BH need to step back and take a much better look at how cruel and superficial they are. I love watching the level headed attitudes of you, Lisa and Marisa, and the open honesty of Brandi.

kaybird11111
kaybird11111

Yolanda, after watching the show it was YOU who started the entire opening up of the can of worms about the lawsuit at Kyle's dinner party at the restaurant.  Mauricio is a complete moron for his part, but Yolanda you shouldn't have been talking loud enough with Lisa for everyone to hear, because it started up the whole horrible down fall of the evening........of which it appeared Mauricio couldn't wait to jump in (what a dirt bag).  Let Adrienne fight her own battles and EVERYONE else stay out of it....please.

bronzesil
bronzesil

I'm so happy that your part of this show.  Best wishes!

truth101
truth101

You just tell them the truth someone needs too and get well

kimbo440
kimbo440

Yolanda you are so right! No foggy vision of reality on your part!! Maybe you can give the rest of them some dignity & respect training!!

Axollot
Axollot

Having to deal with Lyme disease that is very tough. My own chronic condition has some similarities with Lyme (ie the soul-crushing fatigue) My heart & well wishes go out to you. 

lillykdw1
lillykdw1

I love reading your blog. You are reasonable, thoughtful and smart. If you were to write a book, I would be first in line. You are a wonderful addition to RHOBH.

TrishK
TrishK

Yolanda, thank you for speaking out about your Lyme Disease. Your courage is an inspiration to so many people fighting chronic Lyme. It is a long, hard road, but your positive attitude will go a long way in your recovery. Please continue to tell us about your journey in regaining your health over Lyme Disease.

booey1
booey1

How thankful I am for reading your inspiring words.....you are a lovely, wise, lady with many positive ideas to share.  I wish you well on your journey dealing with health issues...we all deal with something....your sensitivity to the feelings and health of others shows a great capacity for kindness.

krissyderic
krissyderic

YoYo - You seem to me to be extremely SUPERFICIAL and always bragging about your  ALL of your Possessions. You and Kyle should become BFF'S because there are so many similarities ! 

Foonda
Foonda

Finally!!  Two new voices of reason, you and Marisa, to now join Lisa and Ken.  Now, we just need the two of you to be more vocal in the group settings, so that other messages and views can be expressed, besides those of the Richards’ clan (whom have the biggest mouths!).  So we can then see something besides Brandi bashings.  I’m really getting tired of it…I can imagine how she feels. 

 

I REALLY hope you stick around…and get more vocal!!  You really are one intuitive, smart and wise woman.  A ‘good friend to have’ kind of woman!

 

Will be posting the same message on Marisa's blog.

LibbyQ
LibbyQ

I agree with you about Kyle & Faye... it was VERY clear that Kyle set Brandi up.. not nice, but Kyle isn't.  Personally, I think Adrienne & Kyle are a tab bit jealous of Brandi... maybe it's because they have TOO MUCH BOTOX affecting their brains!

 

Amkat
Amkat

I just wanted to say I love you!!! I am so glad you were added to the show - love your class, beauty, healthy motivation, and personality. Please don't let the show change you, keep being you :)

A.Barrian
A.Barrian

@danusha3 -Well Said " Hear Hear!!

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

 @danusha3 My EXACT thoughts!!!  

What an entitled attitude!!!!  How tacky!

When you go from one super wealthy husband to the next flying in private jets you must feel above the masses who have to actually pay full price.

 

How would it feel if Streisand said to Yolanda's husband " Your song is worth half of what you think"  or to her daughter " Your modeling is worth half.  She expects to get half off.  Unbelievable!  I would have loved for him to tell her off. 

phc1
phc1

 @danusha3 I like Yo, but your comments are hysterical LOL!

Eckasha13
Eckasha13

 @VedaP

 Totally adorable post!! She is defnitely a remarkable canvas and I'm certain many artists share that perspective. I never get tired of that face. I love that you said it!

JoannaRocks
JoannaRocks

@HappyItalian Great post - exactly my thoughts!

branant
branant

 @kaybird11111

 I'm not understanding why everyone thinks Mauricio is a dirt bag all of a sudden. He defened Paul & Adreienne (a friendship before the show started) just like he would Ken& Lisa. Brandi was an associate (not friend at the time) someone he was still getting to know who revealed a secret about his friends. How would Brandi have acted if Kyle or Mauricio wold have stated something about Lisa &ken??  It kills me that peolpe hate kyle and Mauricio for having a opinion about Brandi & Adrienne but it's fine for lisa , Yolanda and everyone else to have one.

 

 Anyway i Think you are absolutely lovely Yolanda. You are right about Taylor she was a sloppy mess but just like Brandi needs help maybe she does too!!! You have a beautiful family and the way taylor was talking about your husband was very tacky.

mellowyellow
mellowyellow

 @krissyderic Um, first of all, Yo Yo? Snarky, to say the least. Secondly, what has Yolanda bragged about that has got you so wound up? Just curious.

Hulali
Hulali

 @krissyderic

 What did she brag about, other than her lemon trees? She even said she prefers love notes from her husband rather than jewelry!  She is nothing like insecure gossip girl Kyle