Lisa Vanderpump

Lisa explains how she felt about Joyce and about Brandi's behavior to her at Yolanda's dinner party.

on Dec 23, 20130

Hello. As I write this a little late as its been a crazy frantic day…

The scene with Carlton made me feel uncomfortable. I am not judging anybody, but that mask reminded me of Silence of the Lambs...I would rather float around in pink marabou than that!

Firstly the situation with Chica is absolutely heartbreaking, and as I watch them putting up posters, I knew it was redundant. Ken and I had been over there the day before with our gardener hunting through the bushes all afraid of what we would find. There was a small hole in the fence, and it was like a forest at the back. Regardless of anything, I feel so badly for Brandi. . .They are our furry children. It would devastate me to relive it.

You see me at our new site "Pump." I always feel a certain amount of trepidation when starting a new project, but you have to speculate to accumulate and the restaurant and bar business has been extremely challenging these last few years, with many closing down all around us.

433 comments
1lorett
1lorett

Lisa, you're an amazing woman.  I wish you nothing but happiness and joy.  I would wish you success, but you've achieved something that most of us only aspire. 

And for the record,  I don't believe for one minute the load of bull Brandi is trying to sell.  It's a day-old and a dollar-short on truth and substance.  Just like her.


Keep doing what you're doing - you're wonderful and an inspiration to the rest of us ladies!

Babers
Babers

Brandi just plain looks like trailer trash, and carlton could be her trashy neighbor

gjsimon3256@gmail.com
gjsimon3256@gmail.com

Lisa, You really need to talk to Brandi.  When she has to much to drink, she says things that are very inappropriate especially to Joyce.  There's no excuse for it.   Especially at your dinner party, when she mentioned they had 2 mutual friends and they do not think very highly of Joyce.  It was not very nice and she should have been asked to leave the dinner party.  Yolanda and you should talk to Brandi.

TEsq.
TEsq.

Lisa, you either have outgrown Brandi, or you are her friend.

If you love her, you will take her aside and advise her- never "chastize" her.  I believe she suffers from the "critical parent" syndrome born out of years of abuse.  I encourage you to look it up.

She loves you.  If you don't respect that, you owe it to her to tell her that your friendship is over, and not conceal your feelings behind your blogs.

T

Filmwrite
Filmwrite

I hope 2014 brings you lots of joy and success Lisa! Lulu Smalls sends Giggy Love from Alaska!

blinny
blinny

Love your honesty in your blog.. agree with you!

Paingirl
Paingirl

Yes Lisa, Brandi will do Brandi despite your best efforts and intentions. I am sorry Joyce behaved the way she did at your dinner party and am sure your other guests were uncomfortable.

sofroniidoinita
sofroniidoinita

I still like you. Nothing else really to say, it would just be excessive. I just really like you. Happy New Year, health, happiness and success to you and your family.

MomMarti
MomMarti

Again your blog has the same tagline that "Chastising Brandi is a fruitless task or  thankless task "under the pretense that it won't cause Brandi to change her behavior and it makes you sound like a 'nag'. I think you are missing the point, while calling Brandi out for her vile behavior won't change it...it certainly would send her a message as to how you feel about it.  Not to mention, more often or not you encourage her by laughing at  the insults she hurls and making excuses for her. 

judesr1
judesr1

I hope Ken is doing well. You are still everyone's favorite.

AnniePortland
AnniePortland

I love the way you're always in control. It drives me nuts how many of the housewives are always trying to take you down to their level. I think they realize you're the favorite, and they're a little jealous. Just keep being you, and that means keeping your deliciously naughty humor.

 

bigtalon
bigtalon

Lisa, you misbehave and act childish. 

lisavlisav
lisavlisav

Lisa, your little dream team should maybe do an intervention for Brandi. You guys rally around her and support her being totally disrespectful and drunk and rude and obnoxious.  Maybe its time to rally around her and get her some help.  I know none of you want to be on the opposite side of her because she has such an unfiltered mouth and brain that she would be a great nuisance and bad for your images to be on the wrong side of attacks by her, but maybe if you all did the intervention together you could get her some help so she doesn't go down the rabbit hole by next season the way Taylor was heading in season 2. 

tjjpt
tjjpt

You keep protecting the bastardy Brandi and you will be bitten bad by her. Mark my word. She is a low class from the gutter. I am glad to see Joyce stand up to defend her honor. And to see you trying to chastise Joyce at the dining table is unbelievable. The trashy Brandi attacked and then cried. Low and disgusting behavior. I never dislike any housewife the way I feel towards Brandi.

zocola
zocola

Love and a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you Lisa and your family. Hugs for Ken. Car accidents are awful. I hope that he is really okay. God bless.

bswinnyc
bswinnyc

you clearly had yet to have your aha moment with Brandi.

Suryonhan
Suryonhan

Glad you've seen the real side of Brandi. You were starting to get on my nerves by acting so childish in the beginning...you're still my favorite housewife

Boogaboo
Boogaboo

I wouldn't trust Joyce with a ten foot pole Lisa. Both Brandi and Yolanda are outspoken, confident women who will tell you like it is. That Joyce is insecure and will exaggerate anything to gain a friend.

pattiryan4
pattiryan4

I am sorry, but Carleton gives me the creeps. 

naomiburton
naomiburton

Brandi DID start the sniping by saying that Joyce's friends didn't like her. 

Of course it set her off !!!

You and Yolanda are enablers because as Brandy said she is the whole show and it does revolve around her.

If you want to stay on the show you aren't going to disagree with her.

AND Joyce was not making the puppy story all about her, it's called empathizing.

 

BlueAZ
BlueAZ

Lisa... am glad to hear Ken is alright after the accident and it is true that life can change in a blink of an eye.  As for Brandi, she has gotten all the mileage out the friendship with you and Ken and has decided that Yolanda is next on her list.  It's obvious.  The fact we see a clip of her saying she has "check mated you" which is obviously that she wanted to take you down.  Not sure why because of everyone who has dealt Brandi up til now only you and Ken fully supported her at every moment.  Time to get rid of such trash.  Her only claim to fame is being the biter ex wife of a 3rd rate actor and is so beneath you.  You have tried to help her and you can't help someone who doesn't seem to think her actions are beyond the pale.

DaniO
DaniO

Lisa, this is my first season of Housewives and by far you are my favorite. Always in control, never says and does anything stupid , but at the same time not naive at all :) . I also watch Vanderpump Rules , and even though I am much older than your  young cast of Sur's employees,  I am far beyond the issued and dramas that they have, I still have fun watching it. Being reminded how it was working  the bar scene in NYC probably adds up some fun.

To go back the Housewives , If I was in show like it - no matter how much in control, I know I would loose my nerves and patience having to listen so many stupidness, especially since a big portion of the ladies of the cast I wouldn't be able to take for more than  one luncheon -time, once every three months, probably.  Classic,  well put style suits you very  well. You definitely know how to take a lead.  Happy New Year and good luck with the new business. 

luckylady131
luckylady131

Loosen up kitty cat!. Don't blame Lisa for laughing when some of the things Brandi does are funny.

Beesbad
Beesbad

I suppose to some (most of your fellow cast mates and their sycophantic followers) intelligence and restraint can appear to be pot stirring and manipulative. You and Ken are the only reason I watch this show. Please continue to stay above the fray, no need to wallow in the mud with the others.

Chandler13812txxx
Chandler13812txxx

Team Brandi! Lisa, I still enjoy watching you, and I wish that you and Brandi were as close as you used to be. You guys were so fun to watch!! I know that Brandi can be out of control, but from my point of view, I think she's funny! I dont think I have taken offense to one thing she has said since she has been on the show.. Please make up!! :)

ALS41
ALS41

I look forward to seeing you not so entwined with Brandi. Laughing at the garbage that comes out of her mouth takes your level of class down quite a few notches.

Suzjdh
Suzjdh

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!  Hope Ken is OK!!  Love watching you as always.  

kaylee.jaimison
kaylee.jaimison

Whatever happened to RHOBH?  This show used to be so light-hearted, fun and entertaining, but now, everyone is so mean, catty and so damn uptight!  I can’t believe I’m saying this, but the Real Housewives of Atlanta are so refreshing to watch compared to BH.  The gals from Atlanta are far more entertaining and fun to watch, unlike the evil and conniving Brandi, Carlton & Yolanda on BH.  I can’t bring myself to watch BH anymore…it’s just too upsetting and heavy.  ANDY COHEN, please bring the old BH back & get rid of these three dead weights…they are seriously killing the show!!!

michelle.lucas.3150
michelle.lucas.3150

Glad Ken is okay. Glad you and Joyce have gotten to know one another better. Wishing you and your family a safe and happy holiday.

WCW
WCW

Wishing that Bravo would show more of you and Ken and your newest business venture! You always bring the franchise up to a higher standard of glamour and classiness. You tried very hard to be there for Brandi but she still isn't ready to get on with her new life - and with all your experiences owning clubs...you know you can not argue with drunk. As for Kim's little scene, OMG what is wrong with her?! Guess she was never taught to close the door and do her business in private, which includes all adjustments to her clothing!!

Rhonda22
Rhonda22

When laughing at horrible comments makes you just as ugly as the person making the comment.

biancashines
biancashines

'PUMP'  will succeed, I assure you.  You got balls, and I love your eloquence and taste.

JEM1
JEM1

Brandi is annoyed with your comments about her drinking. A true friend does just that and tells when things are not right. However, she refuses to listen and goes on and on with poor behavior and nonsense while drinking. Carlton is just plain unusual and her outlandish views are sure beyond the norm. I am amazed she would want her sex room was made public since she is annoyed whenever anyone disagrees with her line of thinking. I only speak for myself, but she is some weird witch. I always felt you were the voice of reason. Please continue to be one!

 

 

MzK
MzK

Lisa you are great but it wasn't fair for you to blame Joyce for the nasty things Brandi and Yolanda were saying about you.  If they could say them to a person they just met they were saying it anyway.  I also think that its poor taste for you to laugh and Brandi and her gross behavior, please stop giving her that extra energy.  Lisa you are too grown and nice of a person to be bother with Brandi and Yolanda with their mean girl antics. Please give Joyce another chance and stop with the childish behavior it doesn't become you.  And as always TEAM GIGGY!

yaya74
yaya74

I feel so sad seeing that classless piece of work Brandi turn on you. You did not deserve it.

Candy_V
Candy_V

Since you do not have any comments I will say I really like you and your other show.  I'm still feel a little bad for Brandi even thou she missed up soooooo bad.  I miss the two of you together.

Hubbchick
Hubbchick

It wasn't Lisa's place to turn the conversation it should be the hostess.  As Yolanda graciously pointed out she'll "lead" when it's her turn to host a party.  Leading includes making ALL of your guest feel welcomed and comfortable.  A quiet and direct "Please Stop" comment to Brandi may have nipped it in the bud.  If an instigator continues then you graciously lead them out of the room for a longer conversation.  If it continues you graciously lead them out the door.  Lisa was in the middle "literally and figuratively" ease up.

db1448
db1448

I finally caught up and watched Brandi, Kyle and Kim rip you apart on Arsenio... are they are on the bash Lisa tour?... it's not going so well if they are... even Mr. Hall was shocked with Kim choice of "words" to describe you, and smartly started the interview off by bringing up Brandi's racist BS... her hands were literally shaking, as in visibly... Kim can barely form a sentence, much less dance on a stripper pole, and she embarrassed herself and her daughter on national TV... Kyle didn't do any better and was as hard to watch as always... I can't imagine what kind of inner strength it must take to deal with people like that on a daily basis, but I wish you luck... I'm still a fan for sure... the funny thing to me was Brandi calling you "strategic" again... I would expect you to be strategic in your thinking and nothing less... you're a successful, talented woman right?... I don't see being strategic as a character flaw like some people do... I consider it to be one of your best assets... you probably know you've inspired many to have a kinder heart, whenever possible, and sometimes even when it's not possible (like whenever Kim is around)... in any case, you absolutely drip "truth", so no worries about taping the reunion... you'll pull it out like you always do... good luck...!!!

milano
milano

 @tjjpt

 Brandi brought out the real Joyce who answered Brandi with "you're stupid too!"

Real classy..........

CapeCoddess
CapeCoddess

 @Chandler13812txxx   And you think welcoming a female Cedric, in the form of a very Candied Brandi, back into the fold would benefit Lisa, Ken & their family in what way?

CapeCoddess
CapeCoddess

 @ALS41 Sadly, I agree. From Lisa, that type of behavior is something which seems it may have been tolerated once or even a few times with a laugh or giggle-out of surprise or nervousness. But seeming to have become Brandi's eternal laugh track, geared to go for her every inappropriate utterance of Brandi's regardless of its poor in taste, is not flattering to anyone, and especially not to Lisa. 

Suryonhan
Suryonhan

@ALS41 well said, I completely agree.

sugare
sugare

 @kaylee.jaimison I agree with your comment.....I really used to like Yolanda, and I thought whe was of the same class as Lisa, but, now I have changed my opinion of her since she is making so many excuses for Brandi's mean spirited behavior!!!  As for Carlton......I can't stand her!!

Fromtheshowmestate
Fromtheshowmestate

@WCW I agreed before Vanderpump Rules. It is nothing but tacky. She has certainly not achieved a higher standard of glamour and classiness with this show. I have actually lost a ton of respect for her as a businesswoman after watching what she tolerates from these people.

pattiryan4
pattiryan4

 @Rhonda22 It was hard to watch Lisa chuckling when Brandi said to Joyce that she must be black because she couldn't swim.  The camera was on Lisa's face and she really laughed.  Ouch!

Babers
Babers

@pattiryan4@Rhonda22  very true , she did laugh that makes her as bad as the rest, im beginning to think they are all jealous of Joyce because she puts all the rest of them to shame with her looks.