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Lisa: It's Easy to Plan an Attack in Numbers

Lisa laments the way Yolanda handled the argument with Ken and is pleased to find herself no longer a part of the "Dream Team."

Hello to you all, and now we conclude this season. . .

So as the curtain falls on this final episode, I wish I could call it a comedy of errors -- but it's not. It has been a challenging experience. Week after week, I have viewed the vicious conversations between people I had believed to be friends.

When I remember the innocence of the show four years ago, I would never have anticipated the level of cattiness and the bitchy, pack-like mentality that this experience has deteriorated into. The backstabbing of certain Housewives took it to a whole different level. It felt like I was drowning in a sea of negativity. I tried my best to swim against the tide, but the current pulled me under. I succumbed to a depressed state and vociferously threw myself into work.

So, seeing the other women over the last five months in interviews, all repeatedly stating that this would be my downfall, has been an experience to say the least. What they are accusing me of in retrospect is trivial. It's just the ripple effect and what they are trying to achieve is so vindictive. I see that clearly.

It is easy to plan an attack when you are in numbers, but not so easy to plan a defense when you have no idea what is coming at you. I compensated by focusing on what was important -- my family and my business. I have come to the conclusion, in the aftermath of the hurt and confusion. I was angry -- but then I realized the best revenge was to get over it. Nothing pleases your opponents more than to see you suffer.

There has been kindness from Joyce and Carlton that is for sure, but I wasn't as invested in them as our relationship was just developing. But I have so much respect for Joyce repeatedly standing up for what is right and not being afraid to hold her ground. I recall how she looked me in the eyes and told me how she tried to warn me at the beginning, about the nastiness behind my back from people I naively adored.

Brandi was so eager to be part of our group, to immerse herself in my world and she was well aware that Scheana was in Vanderpump Rules, its first season, and that Scheana had worked for me for five years. Nothing could change that. Sometimes planets collide and that's what happened in this instance. Of course paths would cross.

I can't attack. Of course, there are many things on all of them I could call out -- secrets that have been shared, scenarios I have witnessed. Some would be an easy target, but that's not who I am nor who I want to be. So, there we have it.

In reference to Brandi's comments saying David works for a living -- inferring Ken doesn't is so disrespectful. Regardless of what he has done for her, my husband has diligently worked his whole life, starting with nothing, digging ditches, taking risks with his savings to create a business. He even bought his parents a house before he bought his own. He has loved and cared for us, and I resent that coming from somebody like her. I was a huge supporter as she relayed her story to me -- a divorcee, struggling, desperate to join this group for all the opportunities that would accompany it. I was her biggest advocate. That was my first mistake -- defending her, often to my detriment. That will never be resolved. That train has well and truly left the station.

In all my years as a mother, a wife, an advocate for equal rights, and a business woman, my integrity has been of utmost importance. Although when you put yourself in this arena you are, of course, likely to be criticized. However I know most of you have been extremely supportive, but even if it is one percent who doubt my integrity -- that is one percent too many.

After an arduous two-and-a-half hours at the final party, half-an-hour of trying to reason with Brandi (much you didn't see, including her yelling "I checkmated you bitch."), it was all too much. Yolanda's relentless pursuance of me, telling Ken how "David would never associate with the likes of you." It finally came to a climax and we left.

I then heard how Yolanda was brushing away tears, shaking, saying a man should never put his hands on a woman. I thank god that you can see the innocuous interaction. What actually transpired was the most disappointing of all, as the mean spirited actions tried to incriminate my dear husband. I was there and mystified as to the level that they would stoop to, trying to malign his character. I then understood as I looked at the two of them together, that this dream team -- one orchestrated by Yolanda -- (one that I had not wanted to be part of) had fulfilled their agenda.

When I look at these episode I have asked myself however hurtful it has been, would I rather be me in this scenario? Or one of them? I know the answer because I prefer to sleep at night, and never would I ever join in a bunch of mean girls with a calculated attack.

So there we have it. We can throw accusations out there, bankruptcy, deportation, lying, abuse, and unfortunately because of the cyber world we live in today, some of it sticks. But I know the truth.

I thank you for your incredible support through this tough experience. Trust the fact that without it, I would have floundered. It has been distressing-- that's for sure. I am thankful it is over, and I will live to fight another day. I am deeply involved in the many fruitful aspects of my life, work, family, and charities, and am perfectly happy that this experience is behind me. I always remember my mantra -- love and laughter supersedes all.

Thank you for watching.

Love always
Lisa.

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Yolanda: Those Hardest to Love Need Love the Most

Yolanda talks about her journey to recovery and has some sage advice for her fellow Housewives. 

Hello Bravo lovers,

First and foremost, thank you so much for all your love and support during my crazy health journey. Please know that it is a great source of strength and that it really means a lot to me. I also appreciate your kindness and compassion in understanding that I have not been able to blog.

I know the reunion is an important end to the season, so I felt the need to pull up my bootstraps and show up, no matter what. In my mind, keeping my commitment to Bravo and Evolution was very important, even though my body wasn’t ready to get dressed and all dolled up after living in my robe and pajamas for the past four months.

In hindsight, I wish I had stayed in bed, because I don’t feel like I added much to the conversation, even though I did give my best effort. I feel so raw and vulnerable as I make my way through the maze of this debilitating disease. Not having access to the “search button” in my brain makes me really insecure and is a huge loss for me when trying to participate in life.

My world has become very small. I have moved into an apartment with my husband and son in order to have a more manageable scope of responsibilities while I recover slowly and learn to take life one day at a time. Getting well is my full-time job these days. It took me a while to learn the true meaning of patience and surrender, but I have finally accepted that healing doesn’t happen on our schedule. It doesn’t have a clock or a calendar.

The diagnosis isn’t simple, either. A late stage chronic Lyme disease patient probably doesn't just have Lyme disease. Unfortunately, this situation is like peeling a onion with many layers of problems. I won't bore you with the details of my diseases collected throughout my life journey of 48 years until the day I got sick now almost three years ago. One funny story gives you a sense, though, of the long-term journey. At 12 years old, I raised a premature baby cow on our farm, because her mom had died. I bottle-fed it everyday, let it suck on my chin and babied it until it was stable. I just recently found out that my little love gave me Q fever that has been a low-grade infection throughout my entire life.

The path forward isn’t completely clear. As I turn each corner, new obstacles arise, but I am a determined warrior, and even though this has brought me to my knees, I know God often uses our deepest pain as the launching pad of our greatest calling. So even though my life may not be perfect for now, I try to find a blessing in every day. Watching my children grow and establishing themselves into the world is my greatest joy and drive to continue to fight until I find my cure. I had to miss Gigi and Bella walking Tom Ford's fashion show right here in town a couple of weeks ago. I’ve waited my whole life for that exciting moment, but while I couldn’t be there in person, at least today’s technology allowed me to live-stream the show from bed. I’ve cried my eyes out for missing so many precious moments as their careers take off, while I’ve been forced to to watch from the sidelines with great pride, inspiration and hope for a front row seat one day in the near future.

And, unfortunately, I am far from alone. Lyme disease is a major epidemic of the 21st century, and I am sure, unfortunately, that in the years to come, as people become more aware and educated about this disease, you will come across someone in your inner circle who is afflicted with this. In some ways, it’s like AIDS in the early 1980s. I am going to make it my mission in the coming years to help find proper diagnostics and a cure affordable for all. There is so little acknowledgement and understanding from the world at large for this and most chronic invisable diseases, for that matter. That’s why I like to say that you don’t really get IT until you get IT. 

Throughout this journey, I have finally, after 51 years, met the true core of my being. I understand pain and suffering in a dimension I never knew existed. I am finding my own strength at its best, yet in the worst time of my life. I am getting to the most raw and vulnerable part of me and it has changed my perspective towards life and human beings for the rest of my life.

All of this brings me back to the reunion. It was nice to see all the girls, even though, for obvious reasons, I have been extremely disconnected and pretty much living on a different planet for now. My overall take on the season is that we must all try to be kinder than necessary, because those hardest to love need love the most.

Some people come into our life as a blessing, while others come into our life as a lesson, so love them for who they are instead of judging them for who they are not.

It's obvious that some of the women’s behavior is a true reflection of how they feel about themselves, and for that, I have great empathy and compassion. The issues at play here are real life struggles, so remaining open to things with which we don’t agree allows us to see that there is always a resolution to a situation if we are willing to make the effort.

Everyone matters, so I don’t feel the need to compete and keep pointing out other people’s imperfections in order to feel better about myself. Since today’s world has enough critics, I choose to be an encourager where possible (while also telling friends what they need to hear, and not just want they want to hear) and treat everyone as if they were what they should be and hopefully help them become what they are capable of becoming.

I think it's important for all of us participating in the Housewife journey to remember that just because someone has inflicted hurt upon us, it does not give us the right to do the same.

Anyway, thank you for supporting our show the way that you have. I hope you continue to tune in for the three-part reunion. I am sending you lots of love from my healing cave and hope to see you all next year.

Remember, character isn’t what you have, it’s who you are...

xoxox

Yo

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