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Lisa: It's Easy to Plan an Attack in Numbers

Lisa laments the way Yolanda handled the argument with Ken and is pleased to find herself no longer a part of the "Dream Team."

Hello to you all, and now we conclude this season. . .

So as the curtain falls on this final episode, I wish I could call it a comedy of errors -- but it's not. It has been a challenging experience. Week after week, I have viewed the vicious conversations between people I had believed to be friends.

When I remember the innocence of the show four years ago, I would never have anticipated the level of cattiness and the bitchy, pack-like mentality that this experience has deteriorated into. The backstabbing of certain Housewives took it to a whole different level. It felt like I was drowning in a sea of negativity. I tried my best to swim against the tide, but the current pulled me under. I succumbed to a depressed state and vociferously threw myself into work.

So, seeing the other women over the last five months in interviews, all repeatedly stating that this would be my downfall, has been an experience to say the least. What they are accusing me of in retrospect is trivial. It's just the ripple effect and what they are trying to achieve is so vindictive. I see that clearly.

It is easy to plan an attack when you are in numbers, but not so easy to plan a defense when you have no idea what is coming at you. I compensated by focusing on what was important -- my family and my business. I have come to the conclusion, in the aftermath of the hurt and confusion. I was angry -- but then I realized the best revenge was to get over it. Nothing pleases your opponents more than to see you suffer.

There has been kindness from Joyce and Carlton that is for sure, but I wasn't as invested in them as our relationship was just developing. But I have so much respect for Joyce repeatedly standing up for what is right and not being afraid to hold her ground. I recall how she looked me in the eyes and told me how she tried to warn me at the beginning, about the nastiness behind my back from people I naively adored.

Brandi was so eager to be part of our group, to immerse herself in my world and she was well aware that Scheana was in Vanderpump Rules, its first season, and that Scheana had worked for me for five years. Nothing could change that. Sometimes planets collide and that's what happened in this instance. Of course paths would cross.

I can't attack. Of course, there are many things on all of them I could call out -- secrets that have been shared, scenarios I have witnessed. Some would be an easy target, but that's not who I am nor who I want to be. So, there we have it.

In reference to Brandi's comments saying David works for a living -- inferring Ken doesn't is so disrespectful. Regardless of what he has done for her, my husband has diligently worked his whole life, starting with nothing, digging ditches, taking risks with his savings to create a business. He even bought his parents a house before he bought his own. He has loved and cared for us, and I resent that coming from somebody like her. I was a huge supporter as she relayed her story to me -- a divorcee, struggling, desperate to join this group for all the opportunities that would accompany it. I was her biggest advocate. That was my first mistake -- defending her, often to my detriment. That will never be resolved. That train has well and truly left the station.

In all my years as a mother, a wife, an advocate for equal rights, and a business woman, my integrity has been of utmost importance. Although when you put yourself in this arena you are, of course, likely to be criticized. However I know most of you have been extremely supportive, but even if it is one percent who doubt my integrity -- that is one percent too many.

After an arduous two-and-a-half hours at the final party, half-an-hour of trying to reason with Brandi (much you didn't see, including her yelling "I checkmated you bitch."), it was all too much. Yolanda's relentless pursuance of me, telling Ken how "David would never associate with the likes of you." It finally came to a climax and we left.

I then heard how Yolanda was brushing away tears, shaking, saying a man should never put his hands on a woman. I thank god that you can see the innocuous interaction. What actually transpired was the most disappointing of all, as the mean spirited actions tried to incriminate my dear husband. I was there and mystified as to the level that they would stoop to, trying to malign his character. I then understood as I looked at the two of them together, that this dream team -- one orchestrated by Yolanda -- (one that I had not wanted to be part of) had fulfilled their agenda.

When I look at these episode I have asked myself however hurtful it has been, would I rather be me in this scenario? Or one of them? I know the answer because I prefer to sleep at night, and never would I ever join in a bunch of mean girls with a calculated attack.

So there we have it. We can throw accusations out there, bankruptcy, deportation, lying, abuse, and unfortunately because of the cyber world we live in today, some of it sticks. But I know the truth.

I thank you for your incredible support through this tough experience. Trust the fact that without it, I would have floundered. It has been distressing-- that's for sure. I am thankful it is over, and I will live to fight another day. I am deeply involved in the many fruitful aspects of my life, work, family, and charities, and am perfectly happy that this experience is behind me. I always remember my mantra -- love and laughter supersedes all.

Thank you for watching.

Love always
Lisa.

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Lisa V.: How Many Scenarios Can We Excuse?

Lisa Vanderpump tries to make sense of what happened at the reunion and gives us an update on her life since. 

And here we have it...the final episode as the curtain drops on Season 5, the last part of this intriguing trilogy...

Firstly, it is almost too complicated to dissect, but let's try to have a better understanding of the complicated dynamic that materialized this season...

I think upon reflection, it has been pretty obvious after months of filming the intent of some to insert themselves into an already fractious situation. Kim obviously felt bolstered by BG, much to her detriment, as she became a victim of her own volatility. I doubt since filming has wrapped whether there has been much interaction between BG and Kim. It would surprise me greatly if this supposedly close relationship is still flourishing.

What concerned me this season was the manipulative attempt by BG to undermine Kyle and to validate any negativity that Kim was feeling.

Lisa Vanderpump

There's not a lot to say that hasn't been said, really, but what concerned me this season was the manipulative attempt by BG to undermine Kyle and to validate any negativity that Kim was feeling, salaciously stating what a wonderful friend she was and how totally unsupportive Kyle has been. I don't believe the years of dealing with a sibling struggling with alcoholism, supporting financially when needed, should be ignored--also the emotional toll it must have taken on the family. This is a family that has many offsprings who love each other dearly, and that should be paramount. BG has no idea of any history, just a few short months under the glare of reality television.

Also in this final segment, it baffles me once again as to the arrogance as to state what is off limits. How many scenarios can we excuse? Dogs? Children? House? Sobriety? Our business became your business when we entered into your living room. We should strive for transparency, and we should deal with consequences as we profit from the benefits.

I have grown close to Lisa and Eileen and enjoyed them immensely, not always understanding Lisa's actions, but always believing it came from a place of concern, even if sometimes, like in regard to the text she sent, it was a little impulsive. Her anger got the better of her, and for that, I believe she was sorry. I am not making excuses for her, but I am resolute in the belief that provocation sometimes creates a day of reckoning.

My suggestion of putting a band aid on a situation is one of experience. Sometimes we reach for the unreachable, especially when it comes to relationships. Furthermore, we have to accept that idyllic relationships are not always obtainable, but what we should not accept is that the whole family infrastructure, which can be so delicate, would possibly be fractured--weddings missed, birthdays ignored, and all of life's moments punctuated, documented with regret.

So that is what I hope for this season, that the devious trifling is never rewarded by the success in the breakdown of any relationship. Last year, as I sat on my own, aghast at what had transpired, I hoped for a clearer picture, and now I have one, as I think you all do.

Snippets of downtime that have been aired this reunion--cups of tea requests, diarrhea jokes, pussy to the bathroom jokes, didn't know a Flex but definitely knew a Ford--are a great way of also demonstrating that there are giggles in the face of adversity.

Lastly, I would like to say a huge thank you to all of you, who have sent messages of love and well wishes in what has proved to be a trying week. The surgery has been a reminder of how sometimes the indomitable support of those close to you is so valuable, and I appreciate it tremendously. My children by my side, friends, and family are the icing on the cake. Thank you to you all. Ken is doing much better and is well on the way to full recovery.

I have appreciated your comments and enjoyed interacting with you.

Much love as always, 

Lisa

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