Siggy Flicker: Real Women Empower Each Other

This episode of RHONJ for me was all about women empowering each other! Nothing drives me crazier than when women feel like they need to compete with other women. Listen to me: STRONG WOMEN don’t tear each other down, they BUILD EACH OTHER UP! I’m so happy to support the ladies in my life that I hold dear to my heart -- their happiness brings me happiness.

It’s no secret how much I love my girlfriend, Dolores! I’ve wanted nothing more than to see her moving forward –- happily -- with her life. It was my mission to build up her self-esteem. That stunning, wonderful woman needed to know her worth! Now that she feels good about herself, it was also important for her to feel good in her surroundings. Who doesn’t love a good home renovation?

A little known fact about me: For 15 years, in addition to being a relationship expert, I was a selections coordinator (A.K.A decorator) for one of the biggest builders in Boca Raton, Florida. When people purchased a home, I worked closely with them to pick out all of the details in their new construction. I love helping people feel good, whether it’s in their own skin or in their environment!

Celebrating the completion of this renovation was so important to Dolores, and I loved watching her in her element that night. Not only was she sharing her joy with everyone she loves, Dolores was announcing to everyone that night that she’s back and BETTER THAN EVER! Now that she’s put herself up on the pedestal that she deserves to be on, she’s set the tone for how she needs to be treated in current and future relationships. In fact, I’m happy to report that she’s successfully completed my boot camp. After a long “dating detox,” I’ve set her up with a wonderful man, and the relationship is going beautifully! GO, DOLORES!

Since Dolores feels so good about herself, she wanted to help other women feel great, too. It was my pleasure to play a part in her gym’s event, which aimed to empower women. I believe strongly that it’s so important to find what you truly love and share that joy with others, just like Teresa is sharing her love of yoga by becoming a yoga instructor.

My mother's joy is very simple: her family. I will never take the bonding moments I've shared with her this season for granted. I’ve been sad around her in the past because I always felt like she never put enough energy into herself; it upset me to think that she must not have been happy. I understand now that what really, truly makes her happy is her family, and that’s a beautiful thing! However, I’m not giving up on getting my mother to enjoy the finer things in life a little more. She is the most selfless, giving woman -– it brought me so much joy to pamper her a little bit. I’m forever grateful that she always believed in me and made me the woman that I am today. I can only hope that my children have as much respect for me as I have for my mom.

What brings you joy? I urge you to find your happiness and share the sh-- out of it!

Siggy

XO