What is it about Bluestone Manor that makes people lose their s--t? The over-the-top holiday decor? The oh-so-controversial fish room? Whatever it is, you can be sure that when The Real Housewives of New York City cast takes a weekend away at Dorinda Medley's Berkshires manor, all hell will break loose.
This time, Sonja "My Family Crest" Morgan went berserk. She started getting antsy early one afternoon during the getaway, furious that Dorinda was putting her fingers all over some historical Morgan letters in an old dusty Morgan mansion. Sonja realizes that she's very much connected to these letters because her daughter also writes letters, and she's a Morgan and her daughter's a Morgan and the stained glass windows had the same crest as her family crest shoes and, well, she started to unravel. She wanted the letters placed under glass and not strewn on a table for strangers to put their paws on.
Anyway, Sonja's anger grew and grew that day and as she sipped and sipped rosé... at one point she even tried wearing Ramona's dog as a scarf?! Because, you know, DORINDA TOUCHED THE LETTERS.
So what happens if you have your own mad guest in your home?
Our etiquette expert Diane Gottsman has some advice:
"The top priority of any guest is to be gracious and respectful. A guest is generally invited because the host feels they have something valuable to offer to the event," Gottsman told Personal Space. "When a guest has a drunken meltdown, it is certainly within the host's rights and responsibility to protect themselves, their property, their fellow guests, and the one who is making the scene. The host can make arrangements to get the guest home safely, apologize to fellow guests, or if the scene is becoming violent, call the proper authorities before things get out of hand. Of course that’s an extreme, but sadly something that has to be considered when a belligerent guest is out of control and people’s safety is at risk."
This is more of a safety issue. If the meltdown is in front of fellow guests, you can have a civil discussion with them but be sure and have a couple of people with you in case it gets out of hand. You want to remove them from your fellow guests and perhaps escort them to their room and make sure they are safe and out of harm's way. There is simply no good excuse for a drunk and belligerent house guest. You have to make the best of the situation and only good judgment will dictate how you handle it. You can’t send them back home if their home is in another state. However, if they aren’t spending the night and they are simply a party guest, all of the rules I mentioned earlier apply."
While Sonja and Ramona can smile about it now (see for yourself in the clip above), if your scenario is more serious, Gottsman advised, "Definitely do not put the welcome mat out for them the next time you host a party... certainly, a stern discussion with the guest is in order before moving forward with the friendship."
Or, well, you stick 'em in the fish room.
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