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Striving For Balance

Where to fit in and where to find happiness.

By Bethenny Frankel

When people talk about "society" as in socialite, that's not me. What is great about New York is its pulse, its energy, its variety and creative freedom. This city really is a melting pot where everyone fits in somewhere. If you think that I view the Upper East Side as New York, you're mistaken. New York is a chameleon. There's art, theatre, Wall Street, music, socialites, the wealthy, the beatnicks, the vegetarian yogis -- the list goes on. New York is whatever you want it to be. Everyone fits in somewhere, and hopefully I fit in in a few places.

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That being said, I do like to get away from time to time. I love Hawaii, Puerto Rico, Malibu and Colorado, in particular. I love great weather and the ability to either surf or snowboard whenever you like. I'm an outdoorsy kind of girl, so I could definitely live outside of NYC. Connecticut is also beautiful, as is the Hudson River Valley. Those places are great because you have a summer and winter home in one and you don't have to escape in the summer. Oh, and I do like the suburbs. I love having a backyard, a huge kitchen and a car, things that can be hard to come by in New York!
This episode saw a few of the other ladies enjoying The Hamptons for the summer. While I think The Hamptons are beautiful, and I love the surfing, the ocean, barbecues and work opportunities, I'm not a fan of the intense traffic, and, for vacationing, I'm not a fan of seeing everyone I know and love in the city. For me, relaxing is talking to no one.

For work, and for being single, The Hamptons are great, but being in a relationship, I'm happy wherever we are. Also, we spent time last summer in Westhampton, which really isn't the "chic or cool" Hamptons, it's more like "the other Hampton." It was great to not care what I look like, surf and just really enjoy a low-key summer. Occasionally I'd get dolled up and roll into Bridgehampton for friends' parties, to cook or to go to polo and network, which is what The Hamptons are great for. Oddly, I prefer The Hamptons in the winter, but I could actually live there year-round. There is a peacefulness and tranquility there I enjoy.

Work takes up the majority of my time (you can see some of my work on my website, Bethenny Bakes), though, and I don't really think I have a circle. I spend most of my non-working time alone, with my boyfriend (the most wonderful, loving man in the world whose heart is made of gold,) and traveling. I'm like a lot of people in that I search for love while striving for success. Having a healthy family, career and balanced life is difficult for everyone!

That about does it for my first blog! Thank you to everyone for watching and reading!


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