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Dorinda Medley: That's a Supreme No-No

Dorinda recalls the poor timing of Ramona's comment to Bethenny and her plan to confront Sonja.

By Dorinda Medley
Next on RHONY: A Sonja Showdown

Enough is enough!

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So we are off to our usual fall trip to the Hamptons. I am being pulled between staying with Luann and staying with Ramona, so I decided to split the weekend and stay with both. I was happy to finally see Lu's newly renovated home, and it is gorgeous. It is exactly what you want a beach house to be—cozy, updated and with a view of the water. What more could a girl ask for? I love how there are many Hamptons, and Sag Harbor has its own unique feel. Sag Harbor reminds me more of the Hyannisport, which I am used to, and less of the Hamptons. So I am here and loving it. 

I really haven't seen the girls (except Ramona and Lu once) this summer after the intense reunion in July. I felt like we all needed to go back into our corners and heal. I did try to invite Sonja up to the Berkshires for a girls weekend (Ramona came), but she never responded to my text. Sonja not only didn't respond, but she has spent the summer continuing to bad-mouth me, John, and Lu's relationship with Tom. I have tried to live by the Michelle Obama quote, "You go low and I'll go high," but quite frankly, I just can't do it anymore, and I need to clear the air once and for all. Here's the thing: I like Sonja, and I feel we have so much in common, but she gets on these tangents and you cannot just move on. As I said at the reunion, I am sorry I hurt your feelings, and I thought she was receptive, but clearly she is holding a grudge. So this weekend is a perfect time to get it all out in the open in front of me—not behind my back—and decide how we can or want to move forward.

I am also going to FINALLY meet Tinsley, as I did not have the opportunity at Sonja 's tea party, because I was persona non grata. But before all of that, let's talk about the dinner with Lu, Ramona, Bethenny and Carole. I have not seen Bethenny or Carole all summer, and I am excited and hesitant. I want to start over and reconnect with them. I truly enjoy their company, and the past is the past. I felt like as soon as I strategically sat by Carole and before I could even get my "Hello, how was your summer?" out, Ramona was confronting bethenny about a 20-year-old tape Bethenny did when she was trying to make it in Hollywood. The kicker was that Ramona involved Bethenny's daughter and as we all know as mothers, that's a supreme no-no. All I wanted to do was crawl under the table and make it go away. I tried to focus on Carole and get a few words in edgewise but it was not going away. I thought it was clever that Bethenny used her humor to deflect from the whole thing: "Oh yeah, Diane Sawyer showed up at school." But nonetheless, Ramona's timing and delivery was not good. Why why why! It ended in a walk out and we all barley had a chance to connect before, as The Gap Band sang,  "You Dropped A Bomb On Me" was delivered. UGHHHHH.

Waking up the next morning in Lu's house was glorious. I took a long walk into town to think about how I am going to confront Sonja tonight at Ramona's dinner. I will be staying with Ramona, so that gives me a little confidence, but not much. I am so mad, upset and hurt by all of her slander and lies, especially since we never even see each other and know nothing of each others' lives. I hope we can get it all out on the table once and for all, and then decide to either move forward or not. I know one thing for sure, this has to come to a head and stop once and for all. I have a feeling it's not going to be a cozy sit-down, and I apologize ahead of time if I have a "Dorinda melt down." One thing I won't be doing is having any martinis, and stick to Diet Coke, as we all know once I get on the martini train, that never goes well!

Hold on folks. It's going to be a zinger of a Saturday night!

Dorinda

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