When Shannon and David Beador first shared details of his extramarital affair with fans of The Real Housewives of Orange County, you may not have been the most optimistic about the couple's fate. But after two years of hard work to get their marriage back on track, Shannon and David renewed their vows in a ceremony in front of family, friends, and RHOC viewers during the latest episode of the show on Monday night.
David surprised Shannon with a birthday party-turned-vow renewal ceremony during the episode, which he hoped would be part of the whole "renewal process" of their marriage after the difficulties they experienced during the past two years. "Last year's birthday was kind of a disaster, and then I thought about how I wanted to surprise Shannon for her birthday this year. I wanted to make it something special. I wanted to express how far we had come over the course of the last couple years," he told Personal Space during a phone call with Shannon. "It just kind of grew from there."
Though some couples organize a private ceremony to renew their vows, David decided to invite loved ones and RHOC fans into the intimate event because their relationship has been an open book since the couple joined the show in Season 9. "Honestly, that's a very private event, but we've been — Shannon likes to describe it — nothing but honest in our relationship on the show. We've shared some things on the show that I don't know that I particularly cared to share, but nonetheless, it was part of our world," he explained. "It was a way for me to continue to show Shannon the commitment level that I have in our relationship and our marriage. I think it was a way to show the people that we've shared [with] through the show my commitment and our commitment to each other."
Shannon and David were also glad that they were able to share a high point in their marriage with viewers, as well as all of the hardships they've previously opened up about on RHOC. "Our marriage was in a very bad place when I started the show. I think it's very obvious that we have clearly gone through hard times, so when any couple renews their vows, it's because they want to show each other that they're still committed to the relationship. After we went through this difficult period that we've said many times, we didn't want to share it publicly, but because we're on a reality show, you have to be real, and we had to talk about it," Shannon told Personal Space. "But if we've talked about all the negative, thank goodness we can show something positive."
Shannon said she "lost it" when she saw their children, 15-year-old daughter Sophie and 12-year-old twins Stella and Adeline, present at the vow renewal ceremony because they "went through a really difficult time as well" while the couple dealt with their marital issues, she explained.
David also really wanted their daughters to be a part of the ceremony. "It was kind of a dual commitment to my kids as well as Shannon, the commitment that I have to our marriage and to our family," he said. "So it was extremely important to have them there."
Even though Shannon and David's vow renewal ceremony took place at the Inn at Rancho Santa Fe, the exact same venue of their wedding in 2000, Shannon said the celebration didn't make her that nostalgic for her original nuptials. "It felt like something completely different. The ceremony took place in a different lawn, and there were different components to it. But I have to say, not to say I wasn't happy on my married day because that's definitely one of the most fun days ever, but there was just so much that was happening this night," she said. "I just wanted to freeze time. It's like, within a three-hour period, I had a surprise birthday party, a vow renewal, a dinner, and then I was told I was going on my honeymoon the next day. It just happened so quickly, I wanted to stop time."
But time has marched on, and the Beadors have moved forward with it, to the point where David said that they're in a "great, great space right now." Of course, that's due in part to learning from the mistakes of the past. "I think one of the biggest things I've learned is what a tremendous commitment my wife has to our marriage, and I think I've learned that I'm sharing in that commitment to the marriage because it's so important to who we are as people and who we want to be as a couple for our kids and as a mother and father for our children," David said. "So some of the things that I had done in the past wasn't really who I was as a person. I did what I did, but the important part of that is getting back to who I am and who we are as a couple and being there for each other and committing to each other like we did [in] what will soon be 17 years ago."
The fact that they received an offer on their former home the day they boarded the plane for their second honeymoon in Cabo is a sign that they're moving in the right direction, according to Shannon. "It's been a whirlwind, but a lot of new starts for us, and they're all positive," she said.
In fact, learning to make time for one another is one of the biggest takeaways from this entire experience for Shannon. "From a relationship standpoint, we've both discussed that we've learned what's important in a marriage and how you need to prioritize your spouse, you need to always make time for your spouse. So we do weekly date nights, and we go to church together every week beforehand on Saturday nights," she explained. "We also have to communicate. We have to act as partners. It's something that's imperative for a relationship to be successful."
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