I’m writing this week’s blog post from NYC where I just did a segment with Dr. Oz about melanoma. I was recently diagnosed with stage 1-A melanoma, and I'm trying my hardest to use my platform to spread awareness. Next week, I will have surgery to remove my cancer. I would have never expected it to be melanoma — it was just another freckle. I am very lucky that I caught it before it went into my lymph nodes. Please have your annual skin check. It could save your life.
I'm still pretty shook by last week’s set up. I try not to let it bother me, but it does. So upsetting that in this day and age this kind of stuff is still going on. Disappointing, especially coming from grown adults.
Let's get one thing clear: I'm not mad about the actual rumor. I’m secure in my marriage and I know the truth. I'm mad that someone I thought was my friend is spreading rumors behind my back and has now taken it this far. If she was a friend, Vicki would have come directly to me. This was not coming from a place of concern; her only concern was to try and hurt me and humiliate Eddie. Briana knows her mom best, and yes, Vicki fights dirty as we all witnessed. Her own words: she wanted to “punish” me for not being her friend.
It's hard for me to be in the middle of Shannon and Lydia because I love them both. Yes, I do talk to Shannon several times a day. It's a running joke with us when we hang up, "talk to you in an hour". We have a really good friendship, and I'm lucky to have her in my life.
As Vicki does the walk of shame to the the volleyball party, she complains she has anxiety about seeing me. Here’s a crazy concept: DON’T DO SHADY S---, and you won't have anxiety about seeing me.
In one breath, Vicki says she didn't invite Ricky, and he's not HER friend. Then she tells Kelly, "I didn't BRING Ricky there to hurt Tamra.” Always a contradiction with Vicki.
While talking to Peggy, I thought maybe I should talk it out with Vicki. It couldn't get any worse...right? Vicki and I have a past of fighting and making up. But after spreading rumors about my husband and Shannon's husband, I told Eddie and Shannon that I was 100% done with this cycle, and if I got weak to remind me of what Vicki has done. I'm a girl that gets over things in five minutes and gives many chances, but it’s time for me to move on. That being said, Shannon is NOT obsessed with me or jealous that Vicki doesn't want to make up with her. She is being the friend that I asked her to be.
I thought it was very interesting that Kelly tells Vicki, "if you don't talk with her you're going to look guilty.” BUSTED! The way Vicki aggressively tells Kelly "I don't set people up and you know that” was kinda like she was telling Kelly to shut her mouth.
Why am I crying, Vicki? Let me spell it out for you: you had a party and brought people there to create more rumors about my husband.
The next morning it was all over social media that my husband was caught with another man. So not only did you invite trolls to do your dirty work "someone" leaked it out to the public to make sure that the rumor went viral. I had to sit my 11 year old daughter down to explain to her that "someone" is spreading lies about her stepfather and how to handle it because children can be brutal.
As Vic-tim finally walks over to talk, she's kicking and screaming like "I HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM BEING THERE, AND HE WASN'T ON MY LIST!” Vicki comes in hot and aggressive, accusing me of hurting her, conquering and dividing her friends.
Come on! These lies are getting ridiculous. Please show me the evidence. What friends have I pulled away from you? Yes, I called you a liar, because you lied and you continue to lie. You admitted to "fabricating" your constantly changing story. So why are you shocked that you've been called a liar?
Shannon walked down after hearing Vicki screaming at me, knowing Kelly was with her. She just wanted to make sure I wasn't getting ganged up on. That does not make her “crazy," Vicki. That makes her a good friend. When Vicki started screaming about David, I had to just walk away. I can't listen to her lies anymore. She's so toxic and delusional, I just couldn't deal with it.
With all the talk about boobs, I turned to Lydia and asked her if she had a boob job. No one at that table heard our conversation. Shannon had NO idea that Lydia had her boobs done. I didn't realize how big this fight was until I saw it on TV. I was eating cake and talking with everyone when Shannon was yelling for me. I went downstairs and was talking to Doug, Peggy, and Diko. Honestly , I didn't want to get involved. I had enough drama for one party. They were fighting about boobs — how serious could it be?
Watching it now, I do side with Shannon. She had no idea Lydia had a boob job. Shannon was just trying to say that they were the only two without implants, so she was very hurt that Lydia accused her of talking badly about her when she was not.
See you next week — gotta get ready for WWHL!
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