Vicki Gunvalson: It Was Not My Place to Tell Kelly

Welcome back to week three of Season 13. 

I have been looking SO forward to this episode airing, because it was one of the best vacations I’ve had with Tamra and Shannon (except for Tamra breaking her foot) in a very long time.

Before we get started on the Puerto Vallarta trip I’d like to call “over-50 girls gone wild," I think it’s important to address some things about Kelly and her being so upset with me.

If They're Not Going to Tell You the Truth, They're Not Your Friend

First of all, for Kelly to be involving her 11-year-old daughter in OUR disagreement is wrong. In my opinion, Kelly should NOT be asking Jolie for any input in this matter, NOR does Jolie know the entire truth of her father’s dating life. I am close with Kelly, however I won’t tolerate her yelling at me like I’m her child. I truly believe she is overacting to create sympathy and drama for herself. I don’t get it. Kelly has been dating several men for many months and IS the one who wanted the divorce.

To get you up to speed, Michael and Steve became very good friends a few years ago, and Steve and I hang out with Michael more than we do Kelly. During the holidays, we saw Michael quite often, and he hung out with our families while Kelly was out of town with Jolie and even came over for Thanksgiving. I very rarely heard from Kelly during the holidays and didn’t really think it was my place to tell her that her husband was dating someone. Michael was interested in meeting one of my VERY dear friends and wanted us to introduce them. I was asked by both Michael and my longtime friend Teri to NOT tell Kelly they were dating and for me no not get involved. This is where the GIRL CODE began as I honored my friend Teri’s request.

Teri and Kelly both live in the Newport Beach area, and it was NOT my place to tell Kelly who he was dating. Furthermore, Kelly told me numerous times that she “wished he would date” and that “she was over him,” so I never ever thought she would be upset. Kelly had been dating numerous men for months at this time, so I did not think it was my place to let her know her husband was dating. I really was respecting my girlfriend Teri’s wishes, as well as Michael's. Teri surely did not want to deal with Kelly’s potential backlash, so I honored her request. That’s it. The tears and screaming that Kelly demonstrated was nothing more than drama and acting like a victim. She doesn’t want Michael dating, but she can? It doesn’t make sense to me. It’s like she wants her cake and eat it too.

Now onto happier times...Puerto Vallarta. Right away, I knew this was going to be a great trip. Tamra, Shannon, and I going away together was just what we needed. I was glad that my whoop-it-up meter was in “check" when it came to dancing on the bar and taking my clothes off. I kept thinking, "I’m 56, I don’t work out every day, don’t have the body I wish I did, what would my kids think, what would Steve think, and what would my conservative clients think?” In hindsight, I did the right thing and was proud because I didn’t have any regrets while watching this episode. 

At the time we were in MX, Tamra and Shannon did not have the opportunity of really getting to know Steve and I, and I’m OK with that. I’ve chosen to keep our relationship as private as it can be and for them NOT to get involved in our relationship. Because I’ve seen when that happens, nothing good comes out of it.

All in all, this episode made me laugh and made me thankful for my friendships with Tamra and Shannon.  If you are interested in joining me in Puerto Vallarta, visit the website: www.anexclusiveaffair.com December 1^st – 5^th. It’s going to be so much fun!

Have a great week!

Love, Vicki

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