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A Good Balance

Vicki shares her thoughts on Tamra's troubles and the San Antonio trip.

By Vicki Gunvalson

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Sorry for the delay in getting this week's blog out, it's been a tough week for me. This was also a tough week for Tamra to relive her life last summer with Simon and the struggles they were both going through. I agree with Tamra that Jeana overstepped her boundaries by butting into their marriage issues.  I am sure Simon did not mean to hurt Tamra by throwing the dog leash, and I think if he had to do it all over again, he probably would have not even tried to come into her home. Emotions run high when a separation occurs, and I'm sure this was the case with Simon.

I agree that Tamra had to file a restraining order to protect her from Simon coming back over to the house uninvited. When I divorced my first husband Mike at 29 years old, he had scared me on many occasions, and I had to file a restraining order as well. I think all too many times women don't file the orders because they think it's an isolated case, and that's when we see the men stepping over the line and getting violent, and then it's too late. I'm a firm believer that we must protect our self from any form of violence, verbal or physical.

It was great seeing the girls go to San Antonio and have their girlfriend trip. I was in Nashville to expand my life insurance business into a nationwide health insurance company. It was more important for me to go on the business trip than go to San Antonio.

It was good to see Alexis have fun and realize that she can have a good time with girlfriends and that it's not always necessary to be with Jim in order to be happy.  I believe it's important to have a good balance between work, family, friends, and faith, and not to focus all your energies on one person. I think Alexis is realizing this after watching herself on TV last year. I definitely saw the competition come out this week between Alexis and Peggy. I don't understand that between friends. It seems like no matter what Peggy says, Alexis has to one up her. I think it's hurtful to Peggy, especially knowing that they have been friends for so long, to constantly feel in competition with Alexis.

Donn and I going to dinner with Tamra and Eddie at the White House in Anaheim was a really fun evening. I was asked earlier that week by Tony Toth with the Anaheim Convention Center if I wanted to drive the hockey ice machine a the Ducks game. Figuring out the name of the machine was interesting... Is it a zambookie, zamburie, zambucka or a zamboni.  I love having a good laugh, and I'm always one to get the names of things wrong. Seeing Eddie be uncomfortable when Simon's name was brought up was sad. Eddie is such an amazing man and was so patient with Tamra during this time of transition for her. He's very calming for her and always reassuring her that things will be OK.

Thank you for all of your support during this time of transition for me. It's definitely been a hard season for me.  I'm so fortunate to have the support of my friends and family and to have my business Coto Insurance be my stability. I am expanding my practice to also offer P & C insurance in the next few months, which will allow us to be a full service agency.

My practice focuses on Retirement Planning which includes IRA/401K rollovers and income planning.  Also, for those of you that are looking for a free review of your current life insurance policy or to obtain a new policy, please visit my website at for a free quote.

In closing, I encourage all of you to take a moment to listen to this below video. It's a message that I live by. Truth, success, happiness, and some life lessons.

I wish all of you a happy and healthy week. 



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