Bravotv.com: How does it feel to have Candiace continuing to question your drinking? What do you think is at the root of all of the questioning?
Ashley Darby: I’ve never met a woman who would have the audacity to claim that another woman isn’t actually trying to have a child, especially after knowing she has experienced a miscarriage. Even if one doesn’t have children herself, I’d imagine there would be a general decency about approaching such a personal topic. The only thing I could think is that Candiace is utterly childish and insensitive to a degree even I can’t fathom. While it irritates me and makes me defensive because of my own anxiety, I actually feel pretty bad for her. It’s apparent that the experiences Candiace has had in relation to motherhood and children has done a great deal of damage to her understanding of familial relationships. Perhaps as she matures, Candiace will form a better understanding of how to address real life issues, ones that her mom’s checkbook won’t be able to rescue her from.
Bravotv.com: What did it feel like touring the plantation and sharing that experience with the rest of the ladies?
AD: Experiencing the plantation was an incredibly transformative experience, and I actually felt closer to the ladies after having that time together. It was even more impactful to know that Gizelle’s lineage was deeply rooted in that area. Understanding where you come from and having that in-depth level of knowledge about your ancestors is incredibly powerful. I grew up in Sandy Spring, MD which was a stop on the Underground Railroad. My great grandmother worked as a maid, and my grandfather played with his siblings on the same plantation where our family was once slaves. When you think about life in that manner, it reinforces the importance of appreciation and gratitude for what we have. Talk about putting things into perspective, big time.
Bravotv.com: Were you surprised that Karen didn’t go out with you ladies?
AD: In all honesty, I wasn’t surprised that Karen didn’t come out because of the tension between she and Gizelle. Something I have learned about Miss Karen is when she feels wronged by someone, she will use any means to show you that she’s mad. She’s that old school version of petty that we youngins can’t even begin to understand.
But when Karen said she was thinking about her parents, that changed how I felt about her absence. It’s not for me to understand Karen’s grieving process, so I respected her for taking that time. When that Instagram Live popped up, however, it threw me for a bit of a loop. Like, didn’t you just say you needed to be alone — okay, Miss Karen. I see how you’re rolling in these Nola streets. Point made!