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Having a Kid Together Definitely Is Not Going to Fix Your Broken Relationship
Khloe Kardashian is considering having another baby with Tristan Thompson.
Khloe Kardashian welcomed daughter True with Tristan Thompson eight months ago, and now she wants to do it all over again.
The reality star and the cheating Cleveland Cavaliers forward “are trying for another baby,” a source tells Us Weekly. “She isn’t pregnant yet, but they are actively trying. Khloe loves being a mom. She wants True to have a sibling.”
The reality star’s friends and family worry that she is “blinded by love.” “In her mind, she and Tristan are fine,” adds the source, and “nothing will stop” her if she wants another baby with him.
Sadly, adding to their brood won’t fix their fractured relationship. In fact, if they continue to ignore the cheating scandal and pretend like everything is OK, things will only get worse.
“Having a kid will not fix a broken relationship as it does not address the reasons the relationship is broken in the first place,” says therapist Jason Eric Ross, PhD. “Let's face it, you don't put a brick on top of a house of cards. In order to fix a relationship, some intensive counseling and emotional repair needs to be prescribed first.”
He adds that while “make-up sex” is one thing, a “make-up baby” is another, and “unfortunately the child may receive the burden of the parents' dysfunction.” “It’s not good for the child,” he says. “It's also a lot of stress for the mother who is often the primary caregiver. This doesn't stop people though. The preemptive plan would be to have protected sex and go to therapy first, then you can consider a child when you're both in an emotionally healthy place.”
Also, as Associate Professor of Psychology at Loyola University Maryland Theresa DiDonato explains, there is much evidence that shows that most couples experience “a clear and dramatic decline” in marital satisfaction after a child is born. “The introduction of a child tends to also introduce more conflict, more problems, more stress, less sleep, and worse communication,” she says, adding that, “all of these adverse effects do not benefit a romantic relationship.”
In general, the couples who enter parenthood with more intimacy, better communication, and stronger conflict management skills, experience a less steep decline than those whose relationship is already uncertain and turbulent. Hello Khloe and Tristan.
Finally, therapist Liz Lasky weighed in, saying that any big life change, whether it's having a baby, moving to a new city, or changing careers, can shift a relationship — not necessarily for the better. “If a relationship is strong, it can often sustain these kinds of changes. If not, the couple may crumble.
Adding in a baby to solve a marital problem will not work,” she says. “It is treating a symptom and not the root of a problem. Adding a baby to a marriage in effort to keep the marriage intact can be a dangerous move and a red flag for an unhealthy relationship.”
And maybe Khloe can deal with the cheating. “It's also important to note that different people have marriages and relationships for different reasons,” Dr. Lasky says. “It may not be important for someone to have a committed relationship. It may just be more important to them to create a family. Ultimately it's up to individual choice.”
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