They say the truth sets you free. And for many couples struggling with infertility, there's truth in that. In the Bravo universe alone, we've seen Porsha Williams, Bethenny Frankel, Monique Samuels, Brandi Redmond, and others open up about past miscarriages. The women hope that by telling their stories, they'll help more women facing the same circumstances. (And there are a lot of them in those circumstances: It's estimated that one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage.) Now, Hilaria Baldwin is opening up about her own possible miscarriage — in real time.
Though several women in the public eye have opened up about issues of infertility, it's still traditional to keep pregnancy news mum until the first trimester has passed and chances of having a miscarriage are lower. Baldwin is hoping to break the stigma around sharing the news early, though: In her eyes, it's a devastating burden to suffer a miscarriage when people know about it, but it's equally devastating — and perhaps even shame-provoking — to suffer one in silence.
Plus, the first trimester is hard for many women, who experience morning sickness and more. Why should they have to keep hush-hush about their pregnancies? Here's Hilaria's current struggles and brave mission, in her own words and as shared in an Instagram post on March 4:
"I want to share with you that I am most likely experiencing a miscarriage. I always promised myself that if I were to get pregnant again, I would share the news with you guys pretty early, even if that means suffering a public loss. I have always been so open with you all about my family, fitness, pregnancies...and I don’t want to keep this from you, just because it isn’t as positive and shiny as the rest. I think it’s important to show the truth...because my job is to help people by being real and open.
Furthermore, I have no shame or embarrassment with this experience. I want to be a part of the effort to normalize miscarriage and remove the stigma from it. There is so much secrecy during the first trimester. This works for some, but I personally find it to be exhausting. I’m nauseous, tired, my body is changing. And I have to pretend that everything is just fine—and it truly isn’t. I don’t want to have to pretend anymore. I hope you understand.
So, this is what is going on now: the embryo has a heartbeat, but it isn’t strong, and the baby isn’t growing very much. So we wait—and this is hard. So much uncertainty...but the chances are very, very small that this is a viable pregnancy. I have complete confidence that my family and I will get through this, even if the journey is difficult."
She continued: "I am so blessed with my amazing doctor, my dear friends, and my loving family...My husband and my four very healthy babies help me keep it together and have the perspective of how truly beautiful life is, even when it occasionally seems ugly. The luck and gratitude I feel that I am my babies’ mommy, is wonderfully overwhelming and comforting.
In your comments, please be kind. I’m feeling a bit fragile and I need support. I’m hoping, that by sharing this, I can contribute to raising awareness about this sensitive topic."
Already the post has received more than 9,000 comments, including one from The Real Housewives of New York City alum Jill Zarin, who wrote: "You are very brave and inspiring. I too had a miscarriage and it's devastating. But there is light after and I always believe that God had A plan and not to fight it. Truly what's meant to be is not underrated. Good luck. Jill."
Credit: Hilaria Baldwin/Instagram
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