Nobody said that welcoming twins into your life was going to be easy. And Fredrik Eklund is learning that in real time now that he's the proud pop to a daughter and son, along with husband Derek Kaplan, born back in February. And in between gushing endlessly about the tots (as you can see in the video above), he's also keeping it real about how much life changes when you become a new dad (as you can see in the video above).
"It's much harder than I thought because of the twins. No, I think they are so beautiful and so perfect. And when I'm with them, I'm flying through different dimensions of love and I didn't even know I could love something so much. And it's very powerful to me, very spiritual, and I'm, like obsessive about them. But having this roaring career, I still am processing all of it, and I feel overwhelmed," he shared with The Daily Dish in another chat. "And I feel like I'm still figuring it out. So I wish I could just answer it's all rosé and amazing. It is at home, but then I have to go to work. And I think that work-home-life-baby balance is something that's gonna take a long time for me. People that know me and love me and my family, they knew this was going to happen. I welcomed it, but it's much more difficult than I imagined, because I value my career, I value my clients, my team, and I worked a lifetime to get here. But God knows, I wanted those children, and I want to be the best dad in the world. And it seems right now to me that those two extremes can't meet somehow. It's hard for me. It's really hard."
And while the Bethenny & Fredrik agent is still a newbie when it comes to the whole parenting thing, he does have some advice for other rookie parents.
"I think to give a time, obviously, because it might not pay off, the first shot. Like, I'm so controlling and so want it to happen and pushy and then when it didn't, I took it very personal. It's like Derek says, 'It's part of the process. It's gonna make sense later when they do come.' It's hard to enjoy the miscarriage and that sadness. But it is part of becoming a parent. It's just a way to look at it," he shared. (Derek also has a 7-year-old son, Kai, and Fredrik plays an active role in his life as well.)
Milla and Fredrick were born via surrogate last fall. And Fredrik allowed Bethenny & Fredrik cameras to film the couple's surrogate — a decision that wasn't easy, but one that Fredrik felt was valuable to share with other couples going through similar events. He broke down more of that in the video above. -Additional reporting by Laura Rosenfeld
Speaking of his life with Derek, Fredrik revealed if having the twins around has changed their alone time in the video below.