If there's one problem with Terry Dubrow's life it's that the plastic surgeon doesn't always have time to fit everything into his busy day. As we've seen this season on The Real Housewives of Orange County, that sometimes means that Heather Dubrow's other half doesn't always get in as much family time as he should — and it's a struggle that hasn't been easy for Heather to relive all over again.
"Watching Terry struggle with our family dynamic is — you know, I lived it so I saw it there, but then watching it on television does two things for me. First of all, it reminds me how far he's coming now and, you know, part of it makes me sad," she told The Daily Dish.
Finding that work-life balance is definitely something the mother of four can relate to, having shifted her acting career to accommodate becoming a mom. "I went from a working actress, to a stay-at-home mother, back to working and that was really hard on me," she said. "It was hard on the children and it took me a few years to really figure out the balance. It's still not always perfect, but I think I have a good balance going on right now, knock on wood. For Terry, going from just a super-busy plastic surgery practice to a super-busy plastic surgery practice plus television shows, and we have a book coming out, and our Consult Beaute skin care line — we have a lot going on. He really does struggle this year about that balance, and usually we talk about that with women but this year it's really Terry's issue."
Working together has certainly had its benefits for Terry and Heather, but it also means that she has to push a little more to make sure he's remembering his role as a dad to Maximillia, Nicholas, Katarina, and Collette. "Once I had children, my priorities shifted dramatically and what was important to me career-wise, changed. Now that they're a little older, of course they still need me more than ever, but there is a place for me to also work and be a whole person and let them see that too," she said. "I don't know how many men have to make that choice. I'm sure many do, but Terry's never had to. So it's my job as the glue of the family to make sure that he's getting that face time with them and that's a lot of our struggles this year on the show. Terry and I are great. We have a lot of projects together, we get a lot of face time. But when he's getting home so late, there's days he just doesn't even see the kids. You're really gonna see on the show that the kids feel Terry's absence. I can be the best mom in the whole world [but] they need their dad."
Terry agreed with that sentiment when The Daily Dish spoke to him back in May, and he applauded his wife's role as his wrangler. "I think Heather keeps me on a tight leash. I agree, she does. I think I need a tight leash to be honest to a certain degree because of Botched and [the upcoming spin-off] Botched by Nature and [the after show] Botched Post Op and Real Housewives of Orange County, and so on. I literally work seven days a week, literally almost 24 hours a day. There are many days when I basically sleep two or three hours a night; I'm operating Saturdays and Sundays now. So if it weren't for Heather, I would live in the operating room or on the road with Paul and I would have very little relationship at all with my family and my kids," he said. "So she keeps me corralled in and she makes sure that I keep in touch with my family and that I do what I'm supposed to do to take care of myself. I appreciate this tight leash to be honest."
Check out photos of Terry and Heather through the years, below.
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