Kelly Bensimon Wants You to Meet a Man

While Patti Stanger has you covered on what to order at a bar to attract a man, smooth talker Kelly Bensimon's telling you exactly what to say.

"If you ask guys about what they are wearing, they like to talk about themselves," the Real Housewives of New York City star spills to HollywoodLife.com about her secret ice-breaker. "Ask a question, any question! It literally opens up a conversation and allows for them to talk. That's what you want — you want them to respond."

The go-getter, who's now in the process of penning her fourth book, encourages women to throw caution to the wind and make the first move. "I don't see any reason why women can't talk to men," the former model explains. "If you're genuinely interested and show respect to the guy, like 'Hey, you're here. I'm here. Let's talk,' they're going to be cool."

Was Kelly practicing what she preached during the interview? Seems she got a tad flirty-flirty with the camera guy, whose looks (admittedly) broke her concentration. "If you say to a guy, 'Oh, I really like your shirt. Your hair is so... foxy,'" K stumbled. Foxy, Kelly? "I'm sorry! This cameraman has sick, beautiful hair!" she laughed to the camera. We can only imagine the head of hair their babies would have!

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