This means being polite and follow common laws of etiquette such as saying "please," "thank you," and "excuse me." Do not cuss. Men admire, trust and respect women with good manners. This includes not chasing him by calling or emailing him excessively.
Remember, however, that for you to be a lady, he must be a gentleman. A gentleman will ask you for a weekend date by Wednesday. If he asks you out for the weekend on Thursday or later, the ladylike thing to do is to schedule no more than Sunday brunch with him. Or if he really needs to be taught a lesson, schedule a Monday night dinner. A lady will not allow a gentleman to make last minute plans, even if he tells her he loves a spontaneous girl. If you accept out of eagerness, he will feel you are too easy, and will move on to someone who makes him work harder.
When a man calls you, he will offer you dinner, but you have the right to reduce the date to drinks, lunch, brunch, coffee, etc. However, If you suggest less than dinner, that sends the clear message that you are auditioning him and you don't have time to share an entire meal with him. If you are marriage minded, know that this will turn off monogamous men. Please do not make other plans immediately following the date. He will notice if you are constantly looking at your watch, and he will be unimpressed. It's important to remember that even if your date is not your dream guy, you are gathering information and experience, called Dating Data, that you will use on future dates with someone more to your liking.
Although it may be very tempting, in order to relax, drinking more than two alcoholic beverages could cloud your judgment. Stay clear and focused, and never allow yourself to become sloppy or drunk. Remember -- two drink maximum!
Never ask or hint for anything of monetary value. If a gentleman offers to buy you a designer watch or handbag or anything else of worth, you may accept - but DO NOT bring up the subject.
Respond to his questions with positive energy and enthusiasm, and stay on neutral subjects like the arts and current events in the beginning. Witty banter is very important. Ask interesting questions, be a good listener as well as an active participant, and get to know him. Eye contact is important, too - let him look into those baby blues, big browns or gorgeous greens and make sure you look into his.
Thou Shalt Let the Man Take the Lead and Shalt Avoid Bringing Personal Baggage to the Table
Let the man lead by suggesting a restaurant and making plans for the first date, but let him know in a gracious manner, if you would rather go to another establishment or do something else.
In the beginning, it is best not to bring up any of your deep personal issues; he's not your therapist (and you're not his). This often happens with when excessive alcohol and/or chemistry are present. Deep, personal history is simply too much intimate information for him to process in the beginning. If you want to be in a healthy, loving, committed relationship it is important to let the man lead the conversation in the beginning and ask the questions.The conversation should become a ping-pong match, with the gentleman serving and you responding with information about yourself when he asks.
Thou Shalt Not, under Any Circumstances, Speak of Any Other Romantic Relationships
Men don't want to hear about their competition just as you don't want to hear about yours. Focus on the date at hand. Men want to date trustworthy women in whom they can confide. If a gentleman questions you about other men just reply with, "That's unimportant. What is important is that I'm here with you now." It's helpful if you don't have your ex's name tattooed on your arm, ahem, 'Vanderpump Rules' Jax Taylor, as well.
It's important to return a gentleman's telephone call within 48 hours on weekdays, or within 72 hours on weekends or holidays. Busy men become perturbed if they don't hear back from you within that time frame. They will lose interest in you and move on to the next girl if you do not return their calls in a timely fashion.
Don't play hard to get if you like him. A man likes genuine compliments just as much as you do (maybe even more) so don't be afraid to tell him he's handsome, interesting or funny. Offering to cook a meal for him is an exceptional, appreciative gesture. If you are not a great cook, order food from your favorite take out service and top the evening off with a back massage. But do not offer to outright pay for something: once a woman touches money/credit card in front of a male she becomes masculine energy, which is undesirable. Once you are in a committed relationship, however, paying for things in his presence is perfectly acceptable.
Remember, when a man has set the precedent of being the masculine energy in the relationship, the utmost reward for him is love, affection and availability. But every now and then he too would like to receive a gift, home cooked meal, or back rub that shows that you truly care.
If you're interested in him, a hug and kiss must suffice. Millionaires Club suggests taking it slow and getting to know your perspective mate for three months before diving into the waters of intimacy. When it comes to sex, it is important that you realize that 'In is in.' In other words, any kind of intercourse, whether oral, vaginal or otherwise, is considered sex, and should not be indulged in until you are both monogamous. NEVER assume that you are monogamous, unless he asks you to be monogamous, committed and exclusive with you, and he tells you that he is as well. It takes four seasons to get to know someone well enough to delve into marriage.
