Don't Settle

I recently made an appearance on The Millionaire Matchmaker, and oh, boy. . .what an adventure that was! If you watched the show, then you already know what I'm referring to here.

What a whirlwind of a dating experience. Can you say drama?!? I've watched the show from time to time. In fact, before appearing on the show, I was in the process of interviewing other matchmakers and getting my personal affairs in order to bring someone new into my life. After interviewing a number of matchmakers, I finally made my decision.

So, I chose Patti. Always wondered, though, why do the people on that show don't stand up to her?

Needless to say, we didn't hit if off at all. I work hard to conform to Christian values, and she constantly tried to get me to change some of my beliefs. Are you kidding? So, that was when the drama started.

Of course, Patti had to find what she thought were all my downfalls and flaws. She says I have Narcissistic Perfectionist OCD. Are you for real, Patti? She wants me to chop my list of what I'm looking for in a woman down to five. Hello, Patti, this is my future we’re talking about here.

I might have a list of five things to look for in a car, but certainly not my future wife. I definitely hope that I have more than five things to offer a woman.

Narcissistic people are usually very selfish. I have learned what it means to be humble and am proud of being a servant leader. That's not a trait of narcissistic people. Oh, well.

After the TV show, I was actually inspired to create two new programs on dating. They’re titled, "9 Simple Steps to Being an Amazing Man and Making Any Woman Want You," and, "How to Take All the Fears and Freaks Out of Internet Dating." You can listen to some of them on my website, GaryCoxe.com.

Then, Patti thought what I was going to do on my date was, "freaky." OK, ladies: would you be offended if I gave you a French pedicure, massaged your feet, gave you a facial, and wrapped the evening up with some fine dining? Okay, maybe not on the first date.

Well, Jennifer loved it. She felt like a queen! Guys, listen up: ladies are NOT getting this type of attention enough. I think many ladies aren't being treated like queens because they've lowered their standards and are looking in the wrong places. Don't settle! Ever!

While I was in LA after filming the show before traveling off to my next speaking engagement, Jennifer and I went on a few dates. But it wasn't right for either of us. She was a real trooper, though, and lots of fun to hang out with. She even let me take her out to a Jamaican restaurant! I'm from Jamaica, so I thought it would be fun to introduce her to some of our culture. She seemed to really like it.

Now, my reasoning behind using a matchmaker's services is because I travel all the time. It's better if someone else can do the picking for me and narrow it down to good, compatible women. I love delegating so that I can focus on traveling to my events and changing people's lives. Bringing in a matchmaker helps you get through the red tape.

The month after the show, I traveled 20 days out of that month. Doesn't lend much time to dating. That's why I've learned my way around the internet for dating. And, boy, could I share some stories about those experiences, too!

Now, my assistants are dying to take over Patti's job. So, being that it didn't work out with me and Jennifer, my assistants have a new task at hand, and they are all excited. Go figure!

Patti criticized me because I said that the woman that marries me will be coming into my world. If a woman isn't up for that, then we're not going to be good for each other. I think a lot of women would be okay with my world. Getting pampered and massaged by me. Traveling all over the world and changing people's lives. Then some R & R in the Sandals Resorts every month or two. Does it really sound like that bad of a life, Patti? Come on!

She did tell me that my 10-minute meeting with the other girl was like an interview. Okay, I'll give you that, Patti. I do have a tendency to get right to the point, and it sounds like an interview. But here's why: I don't go around having sex with a bunch of women. So, when you're not out looking for sex but looking for your future wife, why waste time? So, I get to the point. Trust me, if my motive was sex, I wouldn't have any questions. Let's just hook up, baby. But, that's not for me.

Oh, and then she tells me there is no such thing as a gorgeous, Godly woman. You're kidding! Now, let's think about this one for a minute. Let's say a woman, who is really gorgeous, finds God. Now what? She's no longer considered gorgeous? See why we didn't hit it off so well. . .

Needless to say, it was a pretty crazy experience. Between the drama, the dating, and the craziness of the whole show, I have to say that the overall experience was alright. Obviously, I'll be letting my assistants and the internet play matchmaker now, but I did end up learning a couple of things.

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So, I guess I'll just keep flying my plane, hanging out at Sandals Resorts, traveling from city to city, transforming lives, and looking for my gorgeous, Godly wife. I know you're out there! To your success.