Hear Some Dirt about a Friend's Partner? Don't Tell Them Just Yet
Kandi Burruss has heard some more things about Porsha Williams' new guy. But is she handling these rumors the right way?
The Real Housewives of Atlanta’s Porsha Williams is pregnant, engaged, and happy with her new guy, Dennis McKinley. But, now Kandi Burruss revealed she had heard from a friend that Dennis has gotten other women’s names tattooed on him before... and was dating someone else when he first started dating Porsha. (Watch in the clip above.)
We're left wondering just what you should do at that point? Should Kandi even tell Porsha?
While it's tempting to tell your friend what you know, Psychology Today advised that you should tread lightly when it comes to someone else's relationship.
"Let time pass and get to know the partner before even considering weighing in. Wouldn't it be a shame if you weighed in too early and then changed your mind as you got to know your friend's partner?" Psychology Today said.
Also, you've got to consider what spilling this information will do to your friendship.
"Can the friendship tolerate your input about the partner? Do you and your friend have a history of being honest about dating partners? Has this gone over successfully and as you intended in the past? Or will your friend see this as you being too intrusive and doubting her judgment?"
In the Kandi/Porsha case, the relationship may be too new for any outside opinions that are negative.
"Perhaps the best direction to go in here is to trust the process and let your friend sort out her own feelings. Unless there is clear abuse going on, you may want to see how things progress over time."
Finally, did your friend ask for your input? Probably not. Also, they may already know the dirt. In the end, you've got to ask yourself what your intentions are before sharing your feelings.
"Are you coming from a place of good intention? Do you care about your friend's well-being and happiness? Or are you simply trying to show off your fabulous (or perhaps not) intuitive skills? Try very hard to drill down and answer this question honestly. If you are not sure that you are coming from a place of good intention, then perhaps you should strongly consider remaining silent."
