This was a very difficult episode to watch for me. Firstly, I expected more from these women. Regardless of what personal feelings they may have against me, I am a woman first. We are all women.
I watched Kandi explode into a blackout rage stating she would “kill” people and “drag them.” We all have triggers and are not perfect. My issue is not with Kandi’s fit of anger, but with the acceptance of her behavior from the women over the same point that I attempted to make: NO ONE SHOULD EVER PUT HIS OR HER HANDS ON YOU.
[video_clip_url:http://player.theplatform.com/p/PHSl-B/yT7k3t_YLXoZ/embed/select/qB1B01pXIiFN] During the aftermath of the melee, I watched each woman cavalierly recall the events as each laughed about what happened to Brandon and at their behavior, none acknowledging Apollo’s assault on Brandon. Not one single woman called Brandon to check on him. Secondly, men have physically abused some of us, including NeNe, in our past. Instead of NeNe pointing the blame at me for standing, they all should have been outraged that a man would grab me for any reason in their presence. Yet, they chose to focus on rudimentary finger pointing and attempting to make me the fall guy.
NeNe leads the charge again trying to blame me for everything including Apollo’s brutal and unjustified beating of Brandon. What’s even more disturbing is all the gay bashing and offensive language used by NeNe to humiliate and demean Brandon. NeNe maliciously and repeatedly referred to him as “that queen” and “her girlfriend in the red dress” etc. First of all, NeNe had no right to target Brandon as he did nothing wrong and is more of a man than NeNe tries to be. Christopher stood up and then hovered over me first while NeNe sat back pleased with herself over the contemptuous, hate-filled environment she created. After Christopher violently grabbed me, Brandon admirably defended me. Yet, at the spa, NeNe relentlessly argues Christopher “never touched” me when we all clearly saw he did. If that wasn’t enough, she exclaims, “You’re lucky you didn’t get your ass beat”, etc.
[video_clip_url:http://player.theplatform.com/p/PHSl-B/yT7k3t_YLXoZ/embed/select/k4MTuZD8KslE]No one should be subjected to physical violence especially from a woman who has been beaten herself. What type of message are you sending to other women, young girls, and gays that it’s OK you get beat because you deserved it? Phaedra stated “Brandon wrote a check that his ass couldn’t cash” yet never once apologized on behalf of her husband. How ironic... One word: karma. Phaedra and NeNe both condoned violence with these remarks and for that, I’m deeply hurt and embarrassed for their disgusting beliefs.
NeNe has built her entire career on the backs of “queens” by using gay lingo and imitating their behavior. For NeNe to hurl the word queen around in a negative and derogatory way in an effort to demean someone is hateful and completely unacceptable. I’m deeply offended as should the entire LGBT community. This type of hateful speech is unacceptable.
With that said, I will not be NeNe’s puppet or bullied into apologizing for actions of other people and am truly sorry for any role I played. I am no victim, but I am a human being with feelings and I am deeply hurt by the lack of support I have received from these women. I’m truly offended and embarrassed to have been a part of this behavior and wish better for all of us in the future. We know better. We must do better.
Love and peace,