"Going through the divorce and Scheana was one of the people that slept with my ex-husband... Listen, I’m over it but certain things trigger me and I get PTSD and it happens. But I sat down with Scheana and it was hard," Brandi said. "When I found out about her, she saved me because I left him." (Watch the entire exclusive After Show clip presented by Bravo Insider above.)
That's one way to see it... but she has a point.
"The fact that he cheated in the first place speaks volumes for his character (and Scheana's)," Rori Sassoon, relationship expert and founder of upscale matchmaking agency Platinum Poire, told Personal Space. "How great of a person is she if she is cheating with a married man anyway?"
To Scheana's credit, she was young.
"Confiding in or trusting the mistress is a slippery slope because you don’t know how manipulative she is," Sassoon added. "She has had her eye on (what seems to be) a prize. Especially if this is a man with status and means. Something to take into consideration is the way you find out. Maybe she wanted you to find out so you would leave him and then she gets the leftovers?"
(In Brandi's case, she met with Scheana way after she found out.)
"At the end of the day, the only person who should influence your choice to stay or go is you. You know the details, your history, and what feels right to you," Sassoon concluded.
Psychology Today offers great advice on talking to the "other woman."
"During the months just after a marriage ends, when you’re out of your mind, you may become obsessed with this woman. She’s a huge threat. (Why did he choose her over me?) You desperately need to understand her allure. You hate her and blame her and probably want to hurt her somehow. If she’s married, you may be tempted to contact her spouse to screw up her life like yours has been," Psychology Today says. "In a desperate attempt to unearth what was going on, some wives actually meet with the other woman. The wives want to hear from her what the truth was or need to tell her how the man has been lying to her."
Here's what the report suggests:
"Exercise discipline. As soon as you can manage it, stop checking her social media, stop asking everyone about her, stop stalking her. It makes you look bad and feel worse."
"Don’t try to meet with the other woman; nothing good that will come of it."
"Turn down the volume on her importance in your life. Unless she was a friend, this is really about you and him."
"Be kind to yourself."
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