Yolanda H. Foster

Yolanda swears she's not a stage mother and comments on the drama that happened before she came to RHOBH.

on Nov 12, 20120

How are you guys? I hope you had a great week and are ready for some more "drama". . .

First of all I'm sorry I did not livetweet this episode. I have a good excuse. I spontaneously flew to Tokyo and surprised my love for our one-year wedding anniversary! It’s been an amazing past couple of days but with the timezone difference I was unfortunately unable to tweet.

And now onto the episode. . .

Like I’ve said before, it's very hard for me to get involved with the stuff that happened last season because I wasn't there. However at this point, since all the women keep rehashing these events over and over, I know enough to have somewhat of opinion and as the season goes on, I definitely start voicing my concerns.

I must say that I don't understand why Kyle keeps going in circles around Lisa and Adrienne. She has so many opportunities to tell Adrienne that she owes Lisa an apology but she doesn't. She just chooses to avoid the confrontation and so it’s hard to understand whose side she is really on. Lisa is smart as always, choosing to leave early rather than deal with this issue at a children’s birthday party.

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Sadiebelle55
Sadiebelle55

You said "What planet are these women on?" I say: "I am certain it is unlike yours!" Stay above the fray where you belong. 

ehomer
ehomer

You called everything/everyone right! Kyle was terrible to Lisa & every chance she has had to (rightly) stand up for Lisa she has not. She is trying to take PR cues from last season Camille but it is completely transparent.

ghostless
ghostless

Everyone has their right to watch the RH shows if they like, and to like each housewife as they see fit.  

 

Well, I must say, as an Asian, I was so turned off by Yolanda's "Chinese eyes" comment, whether she meant to be offensive or not, it was, and deeply so.  I will no longer be watching RHOBH because of this, and I could not even finish the episode.  Will be watching RHOA instead, at least there's people of color on that installment.  

ciacero
ciacero

Yolanda:   You add a whole new level of class and beauty to this show. Such a beautiful family and home. You're truly blessed and.... a much needed addition to RHOBH.  ... -C.

eppope
eppope

I like you as well Yolanda and don't think you were controlling or racist during that episode. You know the modeling business and how to succeed, You are simply trying guide your daughter:) Glad you came onto the show! I am a fan.

MrsAmador94
MrsAmador94

I don't think you were controlling at all.  To me you presented yourself as a proud mother who loved her daughter with all of her heart.  Ignore anyone who says otherwise!

andebrown70
andebrown70

I like you..  You might have come off like a "stage mom" ... BUT you know the ropes...  A lot of "stage mom's" can't say that ...  I applaud you for sticking up for the infamous Brandi ...  I like that you get her..  I fell in love with her last season ...  I got her right away ...  she is good people!!  I am thinking that you are good people, as well!

JKSDiego
JKSDiego

Yolanda, I think you bring a good slice of class to the show.  I think you handle yourself with much self respect and a social reserve.  I thought it was ludicrous for anyone to say something about you asking the makeup girl to correct the shape of your daughters eyes.  I think everyone is so ready to crucify anyone these days. 

KatiainHB
KatiainHB

You are a great addition to the group.  Your GiGi is beautiful just like her mama!  It is one thing to encourage our children by experience and being a stage mom.  You didn't come off like a stage mom to me at all.  I am glad you see Brandi exactly as she is honest, direct and no filtler but you can rest assured she won't be talking behind your back what ever she wants to say she will say to your face!!  I call that a good friend.  I"m glad you are on the show and I look forward to seeing you each week! 

Valerie1969
Valerie1969

Wow Yolanda, you could have been Red Sonja with your height .....I find the love notes cute from your hubby but I hope Mr David Foster gets his own cup of coffee once in awhile for himself.....your daughter is gorgeous but I did cringe when you talked about the diet for her modeling in Paris ....looks like you and Lisa get along pretty well so you can't be too bad ....wonder if Linda Thompson (ex Ms Foster) will be attending same parties with you .....Miss Val

Squeakers52
Squeakers52

I think you are a great addition to the show I really like you and Lisa.

sonnyboy
sonnyboy

I love Yolanda....she is so sweet and polite unlike some of those other girls who are loud and obnoxious.  Your home and daughters are as lovely as you are.  I hope you don't allow the other housewives to change you into a gossipy troublemaker like the majority of them are.

BryanDC
BryanDC

I can already tell I'm REALLY going to like you, Yolanda. :-)

socalcheri
socalcheri

Yeah!  You, Lisa and Brandi are so much fun to watch. 

MissMS
MissMS

I still withhold my appraisal. Once again, I say you marry very well. Although your 2 husbands that we know of couldn't be more different. Mohammad loves to entertain lavishly and seems to truly enjoy people having fun. Your current husband is known for entertaining .... but with boring people such as Dr. Phil. Ugh. And from what my friends have related to me David always must be the center of attention. He must play piano, lead singing, etc. That isn't a party to me, it's being forced to play into his huge ego. No thank you. I have to wash my hair.

JustineSpells
JustineSpells

you werent too stage mom-ish.....they had to sell the episode. And teaching your kid to eat healthy is not something to be sorry for. We can all have our pigout days but healthy minds and healthy bodies start with a healthy diet. If you were teaching her to binge and purge....well that would be a different story.

Pepper2101
Pepper2101

You did appear to be a stage Mom.  But Moms do that in life outside the camera also.  I didn't understand the comment you made about your daughter having a Paris shoot and had to be on a strict diet i- then said you went out for crepes and each ate 3.  Make up my mind, please.

forevermore
forevermore

You are so stuck up. Get over yourself. When you fall, I will be watching.

indie305
indie305

Your daughter wants to be a model (and she must be good at it!) and you are giving her information that will help her attain her desire.  Your comments on make up and diet are spoken from experience.  You, in no way, came across as a stage mom--you came across as a mentor.

JustOneMoreHousewife
JustOneMoreHousewife

You did not appear to be a stage mother to me. You came across as a mothe who knows the business first hand and knows when to step in and when not too. Your Daughter is beautiful. She is not too skinny or rail thin she looks great. Your comment on her diet is just that. I am sure she is on a healthy well balanced nutritious diet not some stupid lettuce leaves and water diet. The comment about Chinese eyes vs round eyes I knew what you meant as well. I say squinty eyes. Sometimes when I put my makeup on wrong my eyes look squinty and if I do it right they look bigger and more round which is suited for my facial structure. I can't wait to see you in action this week I love you husband's music, he is a genius. I can't wait to see more of you with the girls I think some of them have met their match.

icethistle
icethistle

Yolanda, you are just stunning, and your daughter is just as beautiful! I know the cameras portrayed you in a certain way (and at least you admit you are a control freak), but it also looks to me like you are very family-oriented. Modeling is a skinny industry - dieting is important. People don't want to hear that, but that is reality.

 

I agree with your assessments on all of the ladies. I think you add a great element to the show and I look forward to seeing you on future episodes.

metallisktispe595@yahoo.com
metallisktispe595@yahoo.com

Wowwww you told your daughter she needs to go on a diet and she's as skinny as me??  I'm like 105 pounds, so good job in probably giving your daughter future eating disorder and weight issues...  Its hard enough being a teen with peer pressure and dealing with body image issues without your mom also suggesting to keep your weight down.

cindy1963
cindy1963

I think you should have stayed away from the "Chinese eyes" comment and the "I'm not a stage mom" comment as well because the first was a little offensive and the second does not seem to be true. I mean I know that it is your daughter and there is always a bit of concern and the whole "mommy knows best" thing but try not to get too involved in your daughter's career. There is enough pressure in that field so please don't make her feel any more stressed than she has to be. So far I like you, I absolutely love your house and I have always admired your husband's work, so we'll see how the rest of the season shapes up to be. Best of luck to you on the show and to your daughter on her career. Take care.

shanchan
shanchan

Well thank God you're going to be straight shooter with a brain. I love watching these shows but have a hard time dealing with the stupidity. Brandi and Lisa didn't become friends for no reason. Lisa is a smart women as you said and Brandi is a fun loving, good person bottom line. The rest of them ....... well.........you know. Glad you're on the show!!

Florida_Gal
Florida_Gal

Hi Yolanada

 

You seem like a lovely lady and I'm looking forward to your part in the RHOBH. Mostly because you are astute enough to figure Taylor out quickly. 

 

A little surprised about people's reaction to your comment about "chinese eyes". I didn't find it offensive in the least. I understood that you knew what was best for your daughter and that you were acting on her behalf. 

 

I hope that people aren't too harsh with you and looking forward to you confronting Taylor's uncouth behavior.

 

 

 

 

Call_It_Out
Call_It_Out

 l really enjoy your personalty & outlook...so far.

You're behavioral at your daughters event was not stage mom. it was concerned parent/mentor. Your daughters reaction is what made it uncomfortable to watch BUT that was a natural reaction and perfectly normal. She absorbed what you were saying, stubbornly, but she did  absorb it  :)

 

Kelly21
Kelly21

Hi Yolanda, you have a beautiful family and it looks like you did a fantastic job in raising your daughter Gigi. She is very respectful, unlike so many girls in her world today. I totally understood the comment about the eyes...Gigi already has beautiful cat eyes and you just wanted them to look open too.like you said, "so they pop!" you are a great addition to the show...a balancing act...You, Brandi and Lisa and then you have not the other side (gossipy and backstabbing) Kyle, Taylor and Adienne.

SandraR66
SandraR66

Although we are just getting to know you, just by reading your blog, I have a feeling I am going to like you. Your final statement about Brandi and Taylor is very observant.

MaryC12
MaryC12

I have a daughter who is your daughter's age and felt you were just fine interacting with your daughter. A gentle reminder to watch what she is eating and your experience as a model recommending make up was helpful for her future career. She is fortunate to have a mother with your experience and no one will care more about her than her mother.

Meilin
Meilin

Hi Yolanda,

 

I like your personality and you are very observant too...

 

Cheers!

cars121
cars121

STANDING OVATION to you & your blog this week.  Clearly, you are presenting ala Lisa as a wise, classy, mature woman who doesn't pull any punches with herself or others.  Your ability to recognize & own your controlling behavior with your daughter & identify it as negative is further testament to your grace.  What a welcome addition you are to this cast.  Your appearance on the scene couldn't have come soon enough to provide support to the only other REAL decent women in the cast.  You're a perfect ally for Lisa & a reinforcing role model for Brandi, along with Lisa.  I couldn't agree more with your assessment of the current situation & look forward to your growth as a vital force on this show.  YOU ROCK!

Flowerchild1980
Flowerchild1980

@ghostless I was shocked to her this comment as well. I am not Asian but felt offended by her ignorance.

ehomer
ehomer

 @ghostless She didn't say "Chinese" eyes were bad. She, using English as a 2nd language, was saying that her Caucasian daughter did not look her best with makeup that gave her eyes a more Asian look. Poor choice of words but hardly rascist. What is ingrained racism is that eyelid surgery to more resemble Caucasian eyes is the most popular plastic surgery amongst Asians.

JuanCarlos
JuanCarlos

 @forevermore 

 

Might you share examples of where you find her to be stuck up?  I have seen all three episodes and I wonder where I might have missed this revelation.  

dashalieb
dashalieb

 @metallisktispe595@yahoo.com That's the reality of being a model, it may not be politically correct but it's the truth and she is doing her daughter a favor in the long run by being straight-up with her and not glossing over the truth to spare her feelings. The modeling industry is brutal and if she doesn't say it others will say it in a much more unkind way.

Go Yolanda.

kate.j.deng
kate.j.deng

 @Florida_Gal

 i think it's the fact that she used "chinese eyes" as a negative connotation. I am a chinese descendant, we have different face structures than north americans. However, I don't think just because we are different therefor we are ugly or not good. Some of the chinese girls have beautiful eyes, they are shaped like perfect almonds. As much as I am trying to understand where she is coming from, I don't think she should've used "chinese eyes" as an equivalent for not good. imagine in today's world if someone said being black is ugly.

iheartchanel
iheartchanel

 @JuanCarlos  @forevermore 

How about the fact she thinks everyone should be so honored to be in her and her husband's presence? The bragging and name dropping alone should give you a clue.

JuanCarlos
JuanCarlos

 @housewivesrocks  @Florida_Gal 

 

... okay... how about comb down her hair, it looks like an afro. 

 

Do you find a negative connotation to that comment?   What if they are going for a short hair look?  What if they are going for a different look? 

 

Look I've got plenty of ethnic, religious and gender issues that I have dealt with in my life.  And I can tell you - when I was not comfortable with myself, it seemed everything that was stated was offensive to me.  I look back at the various things that would set me off (with anger, emotional pain or distress) and now realise they were mostly as a result of my own very biased interpretations.  

JuanCarlos
JuanCarlos

 @kate.j.deng  

 

What was the negative connotation?  Did she state anything about chinese eyes being <insert the offensive comment> ?   Might you have personalised this comment and added a different connotation?  

ehomer
ehomer

 @kate.j.deng  @Florida_Gal But she didn't say it in a bad way. You are interpreting it that way. It was a poor choice of words but she doesn't think certain makeup is flattering on her Caucasian daughter. Why would a Caucasian girl look good with makeup applied that makes her look like a different race? Nobody said Chinese eyes are ugly.

lovelaughs33
lovelaughs33

 @kate.j.deng  @Florida_Gal One eloquent Bravo viewer equated it with requesting that the make-up make her nose not look like  "Jewish nose" because that wouldn't look right for her.  OF COURSE Jews would be extremely offended, whether or not the model were Jewish.  Further, no one would or should tell them they are wrong for feeling that way.  

 

We get she didn't mean to be derogatory in saying that, but it was not communicated well.  Should she continue to speak that way about Chinese eyes, no doubt she will continue to offend others.  

 

This here is a learning moment for everyone.  We can choose to observe the effect of her usage of that term, or we can ignore the expression of hurt by affected viewers.  It is a personal choice.  

JuanCarlos
JuanCarlos

 @iheartchanel  @forevermore 

 

I don't believe I heard her say that everyone should be so honoured to be in HER presence.  As for her husband... look him up.  Taylor should be honoured to be invited to dine with him - more over, she should have been honoured that such distinguished talent was there to entertain her/them. Hell... I'd gladly be an honoured guest.  Then again, I would be honoured by any invitation into someone's home.  

 

I can understand your point with regard to the name dropping - however, me thinks they might have done more than a couple of minutes of chatting and the producers and editors might have made it seem worse than it might have been. 

 

I'll reserve my judgement for a while - she seems more of a proud spouse and mother than stuck up individual.  Although... I won't dismiss the possibility you might be correct. 

JuanCarlos
JuanCarlos

 @EnfantTerrible  @kate.j.deng 

 

No... with all due respect, that was not what she said.  She said Chinese eyes would not go well with her (daughter's) face.  

 

She seems to be a direct woman . . .  and she comes from an industry where terms like too white, too black or too ethnic or ... so many others that would damage the average human's feelings are used often AND in a much more derogatory way than Yolanda would probably be capable of using.  Sometimes directness is ... well, not sugar coated but at the same time, it's not meant to be offensive.