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Loving, Losing, and Healing

Lea Black tries to shed light on her and her fellow Housewives' losses.

By Lea Black


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Leroy Black March 11, 1999 - March 27, 2012

This week’s episode was all about losses. 

We had losses of marriages, losses of pregnancies, losses of communication, losses of relationships, losses of body weight and an old body, and for me personally -- loss of a pet.

I think it’s a reminder to give thanks for what we have and hold dear. Focus on what we have, not what we don't have, and give thanks. They say that when you lose someone, a time will come when you will be able to smile before you cry. I guess it can take a long time, because I'm not there yet with Leroy (was named after Lea and Roy). 

I try to focus on all the unconditional love and joy that Leroy gave us, and I wait for the day that the tears are of joy and not sadness, knowing that there is nothing I can do that will ever allow me to get over him. I wake up every morning reaching for him before I realize he's no longer physically here. 

Things to think about this week-

What do we have that we take for granted and if lost, we could never get over?

Do we spend too much time dwelling on things that aren't really that important?

Do we go out of our way to hurt or help people and do we compliment or criticize?

Do we look for the good or focus on the bad? 

Do we give thanks and appreciation for our blessings or do we take things for granted?

Do we hold grudges or forgive and move on? And if we hold grudges, are we suffering unnecessarily and giving up who we could be during the process? 

Do we have our priorities in order?

Do we realize what we put our attention on expands? 

Till next week -- spread the love and keep the peace and don't deal with stupid. 

By the way, many of you asked about the handbag I wore at the premiere, it’s my personal design at And if you watched Watch What Happens Live, callers mentioned my face looked “refreshed.” For all my beauty secrets, go to Enjoy!

P.S. Don’t forget to read my Huffington Post political blogs:, and to learn more about The Consequences Foundation and Blacks’ Annual Gala featured on the show, go to

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