Kathy Wakile

Kathy explains why she regretted her outburst.

on Oct 9, 20120

As I told you in my previous blog, everyone does have their breaking point; however, I’m not making an excuse or trying to justify my actions. After I lost my temper with Teresa and I realized what I had said, I apologized for my outburst. I felt terrible and I didn’t need a PR rep or publicist to tell me that I should apologize, and I didn’t need to check my Twitter or Facebook page to see what the viewers thought of my behavior. Right is right and wrong is wrong. It’s just that simple, so without leaving the couch and without anyone talking in my ear telling me what I should do, I said I was sorry. I felt bad for the things I said, because I allowed Teresa to drag me into a dark place after Teresa brought her mother and father into our conversation. Whether provoked or not, I am not proud of my outburst. I have never purposely tried to cause harm to anyone, and I do not live my life that way.

I know that you heard my sister Rosie from backstage. As upset and frustrated as I was with Teresa’s comments, Rosie was even more blown away -- she tried to leave the building and be alone. She needed to blow off steam, and who can blame her? I was glad that Lauren was able to talk to her.

We sat on those couches for over 12 hours, and it was a battle to be able to finish a complete sentence without the constant rude interruptions from Teresa! As Rosie is explaining our reasons for the distance at one time in our lives, Teresa interrupts and insists that she knows more about our relationship than we do. You can’t imagine how terribly frustrating it is to be asked a question, try to give an answer, and be continually interrupted by someone who truly has no idea what they are talking about! I find it amazing that the person who has the most difficulty maintaining any semblance of a healthy relationship claims to be the expert on my marriage, my relationship with my sister Rosie, and the relationship that existed between my father and his daughters. How does she come up with this stuff? Really!

696 comments
pstar
pstar

Kathy Teresa disrespects you every chance sh ets. she knows you will allow it. Take it from Rosie get mad

vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net
vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net

Kathy, you are the only real one on the show.Most people don't live in the world you all do. But you're the only one that's near reality.

redrose
redrose

Kathie get off Teresa'a coat tails..you and the iguana Melissa are jealous and will stop at nothing to try to bring Tre down. Shame on you, you showed your true colors at the reunion didn't you!!

mracz
mracz

This is not an apology.  If your not sorry, don't say anything.  Your family history is obviously complicated.  You all were interrupting each other.  Caroline is the worst with that. Teresa is your cousin, you should both have more respect for each other and put the others to the side. 

Josehina_in_Aus
Josehina_in_Aus

Kathy I really liked you through the whole season I believed that you really wanted a relationship with your cousin and I thought you always looked sad when the other wemon would speak badly of Tre but after what I saw on the reunion I feel so dissapointed maybe you have been around Melissa and her Negative remarks for so long that now your just as nasty.I hope you are back to the nice Kathy in Season5.

Deanna7
Deanna7

Hey Kathy my husband and I love your family infact I dont know who he has a bigger crush on you or Rich lol, we think you and your family should have a show of your own ....Its refreshing to see a real family like yours, you love one another and it shines through, you and Rich have a no BS approach and it shines through..I have to say this show is something else I dont think writers could come up with anything better, its awesome tv but then I think wow this is real ppl lives and I dont know how you do it, it must be heartbreaking at times, and it must take everything you have to keep it together *hugs* ...This is the first tv blog I've read and I can not believe the haters on here, ignore them and keep doing what you do so well, and thats putting your family first and being kind and honest....if you ever need a getaway come hang out with 2 boring Canadians ..Peace to you and your loved ones and I hope to see you on the tub next year... PS Rosie you rock and we hope to see more of you as well !!

DIANE55668
DIANE55668

KATHY I REALLY LIKE YOU YOU'RE MY FAVORITE. YOU'RE A PERFECT EXAMPLE WHEN PEOPLE TALK ABOUT "REAL PEOPLE".

minpinMom
minpinMom

The first sentence of the first paragraph of your blog you stated (quite proudly) that your  "not making an excuse or trying to justify my actions."  Then, every single sentence following that statement were your excuses and justifications for your actions.  That's when I stopped reading for obvious reasons.  

 

You really think you deserve a medal, let alone a pat on the back for being able to identify that it is wrong to say ANYTHING negative or condescending about someone's mother without being told so by someone else???  Let alone your own mothers sister, a family member, an elder?  

 

Teresa merely mentioning her mothers name provoked you to allow yourself to take things to a dark place?  Wait... now I'm being foolish for trying to rationalize with the irrational....

Chatty2
Chatty2

"I especially like to note the fashions, hairstyles, and hairlines that have evolved since Season 1. Now there’s a basis for comparison! Next time Bravo runs a marathon, check it out for yourselves"

Wow, still slingin mud among ur weird strange aplology

 

Katfish, frog eyes puh-lease leave

Aqualover
Aqualover

That's not an apology - that is a blog of excuses and blaming!

saywhatumean_71
saywhatumean_71

Wow your true colors have really come out & it ain't pretty babe!

ppss29
ppss29

Kathy you are one of the nicest people on this show. Why do you allow your low life cousin and her low life husband to talk to you like they do? You are too nice for them. Distance yourself fom hem. Thy are inferior human beings. You have a wonderful family and hardly need them

normalhousewife
normalhousewife

Kathy,

Love you, Richie and your kids.  I know how it is when Toxic family members goat you to go to a place where you never intended to go and then you feel terrible that it happened.  Theresa will always bring out the worst in people because that is what she does best.

I found it irrehensible the way Theresa and Joe jumped down your throat for having an opinion.  Heck they were nicer to non family members than you.  It was very obvious and also showed their true colors.  Shocking for us viewers even though we know they are trash talkers anyway.  Making themselves look bad and making the viewers feel for you. If they were only smart enough to know this.....

 

Jenrn1222
Jenrn1222

Those who live in glass houses should never throw the stones........think before you speak

Gaspar
Gaspar

Kathy, I personally enjoy you on the show.  You are a breath of fresh air on reality tv.  You come across to me as a real person.  I wish you and your family nothing but the best, and look forward to seeing you next season. 

cyntallica
cyntallica

All I see when your on is "she tastes like fish and gets the job done." BLAHHH

JessH
JessH

Why is it okay for Rich to say any nasty thing that comes into his head, but when Joe Giudice speaks, everyone holds it against him forever, even though Joe says it in private to his wife and not in front of a group, like Rich does? Sometimes a wife's gotta say to her husband, "No, too far."

boohoo
boohoo

Kathy, I liked your tweet about the inane comments that Joe Guidice was always throwing in.  Like he has all the wisdom.  He and Teresa are complete idiots.  And they obviously have very, very evil intentions.  They are selfish, manipulative, dishonest people.  Bravo, PLEASE give Teresa her own show so I can NOT watch it.

Xprssgirl15
Xprssgirl15

Hi Kathy just wanted to say you are the best sister and that it's wonderful that you protect each other and love each other so much. Blessings on your new business venture!!

Kymmie
Kymmie

You were horrible during reunion. What you said to Teresa was BEYOND awful! I truly hope you and your lying buddy Melissa get the BOOT!!!!

SargassoC
SargassoC

The NJ cast used to be my favorite of all the series. Why? Number one, they were all truly housewives. (except Danielle) Second, they knew how to cook and weren't afraid of food like the OC girls. They weren't getting lap bands and didn't have nannies. They seemed the most real, down to earth, and had genuine family connections. Not 5 women who were never friends, thrown together for a show. The scenes with Teresa's girls were heartwarming. You can't script a child. The Manzos were just as loving and natural and humorous. I loved the food, the family dinners, the trip to Italy and wanted to see more of that. Now I must watch some fame seeker come out of the woodwork, dressed in hot pants or a sequined top just to attend a BBQ. An "innocent" cousin and her disgusting husband trying to push her baked goods. Scripted sit down dinners just to play a song. Sure, I love glitz and glamour. But from truly wealthy women like Lisa Vanderpump. Not these wannabes. NJ had the most normal, true housewives. No more. 

okmulgeeok
okmulgeeok

Really people? I is a "TV" show,it is "entertainment" and it appears they have done their jobs! Good Job RHONJ - you are getting great feedback. But really guys, Kathy and Melissa came on the show to make money - just like each and every other person on there. When this 15 minuets of fame is gone, hopefully, they will have made other relationships that will help them in te future - it is the American Dream afterall. Who did what to whom is what sells the show. Like em or hate em, it is ENTERTAINMENT and that is why you and I watch the show. Personally Kathy and Melissa are my favorites - they are Angels compared to Teresa - who is without a doubt the most spoiled, hateful person I have ever seen. What a hell cat, she is meowing all the way to the bank... Can't wait for next season!

Tryk3r
Tryk3r

Does an apology count if It is laced with blame, innuendo, justification and explanations? Would you accept that type of an apology? Of course not, you have received any number of them and not accepted the empty apologies. No one really accepts them The point is to give the person offering the empty apology some defense of their behavior, and make them look better. When you hurt someone and are truly sorry, you don't dress it up and hand it back. You tell them you you are sorry. Period. Period. Period. Seems like you started the fight about the parents by calling Theresa's mom a liar.... Maybe you should have started the apology then, when you triggered Theresa. If we are to sympathize with you defending your parents, we must sympathize with Theresa. You both did the same thing. I recommend you ALL take a class on apologizing and see what happens when you guys do it right...

shelbz
shelbz

You might be a great mother, wife, friend, or family member but this show is not for you. It seems like you are wanting more from this show. I am happy for your family and your success but not super interesting to watch. Maybe more of a Martha Stewart deal.

roby1
roby1

Why are you and your hubby on this show??? All you do is bad mouth Teresa, do you have much of a life otherwise??? I know you cook but when do you find the time. Seems to me you live just to bad rap your cousin and roll your eyes!

OptimysticBeing
OptimysticBeing

I think most families, not all but most, have a relative that pushes their buttons. We all have people outside our families that can push our buttons. 

 

 I think you held yourself back as long as you possibly could. No the outburst wasn't your finest moments but NONE of us are perfect. I think you tried to be kind even tempered and even understanding.

 

I used to think Theresa was misunderstood but now I believe the notoriety and Joe Giduice's influence and support of delusions have created a Theresa that is a fame monster. Sorry.

 

I think Rosie, you and your family have great relationships. Sometimes you have to learn to love people at a distance and realize that family members can be loved but not liked.

 

Stay positive and keep doing what the Wakiles do...great things!

Robsav
Robsav

Kathy, you are a lovely person with a beautiful family. It was hard to see you not in control at the reunion because I think you are truely a good person, but I understand and saw how you got there. Don,t be too hard on your self. Love you and your family.

Shell64
Shell64

Kathy, Out of everyone this year you do truly seem to want to get along with everyone. That being said from the begining of the season you were all for Mellissa and what ever about T. You all forgot this season about Family,friendship and love. When all is said and done family and friends are what is going to get you through life. This family seemed to be getting back to a real family. In the reunion Kim D said EVERONE but you knew something was going down. T knew but not what. Jac was right in there knowing also Caroline. T did take the blunt of this. Jac said someone texted her. She has never named names. she is also the one who old Joe G it was his sister. Now they haven't talked in a year. They all knew why is T taking the fall alone. Also T was very hurt about Mel trying to cause trouble with the whoe daniele thing. You all seem to forget t was hurt to. They were all wrong and they should take the high road and remember know one is innocent in this. You are family. Please try if your going to be on tv to take the high road and show how families can fight make up and be there for each other

Luvrhw
Luvrhw

Your new nose looks great, but you didn't need it. You were beautiful before. I wish you all the luck with your sweets. I enjoy watching you on the show, you have such good intentions. Your children will be proud.

MayaAlusik
MayaAlusik

Hello Kathy&Richie..don't waste Your thoughts and energy on haters! You are beautiful people with big heart. No doubt about it!!!

I don't like to criticize or judge anyone, but Teresa appears to me as an extremely shallow&negative person. 

Wish You both tons of love&luck!XO

Rockerman
Rockerman

Watching you in the final epi was downright paiinfullll. You were like the girl on the dodge ball court no one wanted to pick for their team. Grown woman jumping in and no one's listening.Ta Ta, and take your hubs wiv you.

Lynden
Lynden

You're sweet to appologize for what you said about Teresa's parents, but it's true...every word...they're awful! Maybe you should've appologized for saying it on TV, but not for telling the truth. I can't believe joe gorga is such a great guy coming out of that family.

docmignacs
docmignacs

Kathy, what the hell. You and Richie used to be my favorite. You were as bad as Jac on there the other night. Very disappointed in you.

Cox54R
Cox54R

 @pstar Kathy - take Richie's and Rosie's attitude and just leave Teresa alone - it is hopeless with her - enjoy your family - and live in peace and keep Toxic Joe & Teresa out of your lives - you said u were sorry about the comment about her dad just leave it be and move on - it is nice to see Rosie, Richie, your children and your mom just enjoying one another - it is so nice and Melissa and Joe Gorga make me laugh -

when Teresa is on the show I cringe just thinking about what she is going to do or say next -

Rockie23
Rockie23

@minpinMom She did the right this apologizing. Basically she said that though Tre went there w/parental issues- she (Kathy) didn't have to. And she was wrong, for herself as a person, to have done that. That's not a justification, it's called an explanation for HER OWN outburst, based on the way she was FEELING at the time of the outburst. If she felt Tre baited her, blasted her parents she HAS the right to feel that way. There's a difference between justifying her actions, and setting the scene from HER point of view. It's called setting the scene for her emotional and mental state prior to the outburst- that's not blaming Teresa, it's explaining where she was coming from as a human being with feelings, emotions and her OWN perspective. Tre didn't mention her mothers name, she made a statements stating what her other said about Kathy's family, something Kathy is likely to know more about. If the info was false (from Kathy's perspective) then it WAS lie - to her.

KikiLou
KikiLou

 @ppss29

 She needs them, or else she has no relevance on the show. Kathy, for all the "hatred" you have for your cousin, it's a wonder that you want to be anywhere near her, yet you choose to remain on the show. Please leave, and take Melissa with you. It would be so much easier for Melissa to walk away from the show than to uproot her family, so they don't have to deal with Teresa, but that won't happen will it? You are both HYPOCRITES.

Rockie23
Rockie23

@normalhousewife Toxic family members have a way if dragging good people down to their level- when their only way of communication is screaming insults sometimes you unfortunately find yourself responding In kind. Calm rational discussion is only viable if participants can both be calm and rational. Often I find myself trying attempting to calm the situation by responding to their screeching tirades by getting really, really calm or saying, in a very sweet voice, what I have to say; thats a sure sign i'll end up screaming right back at them, because it's the only damned scenario they seem to take note of and understand. And family are the ONLY people that can bring out the kind of cruel things I say and led to what Kathy had to said, so I can understand her position. You can't argue w/crazy but if you're forced to, they only UNDERSTAND crazy, so one must either get steamrolled or respond in kind! Especially in a TV show reunion setting, it's not like she could just walk away from the convo, and I'll be damned before I let someone trash dead father!

withak
withak

@cyntallica That I funeeee!

Rockie23
Rockie23

I think it's a personality type thing, Joe Guidice never really comes across as a "good guy" he doesn't seem to give a damn about anything, unless he's directly involved and benefits. Richie's got a more likeable vibe personality wise. He's like that one friend every group has, who is generally a good guy, seems to care about people and yet, in attempts to be "funny" says some bizarro things. I think Joes's statements would roll off ppl's shoulders if Joe showed more respect and love- or even interest in his wife's emotional state, (ie his comments when Tre's pouring her heart out to the guy and he's like "Get over it-whatever-shut up") which he used to do more often. When Richie says Tre should be burned at the stake, you kinda shake your head and mumble "what an effing idiot"; if Guidice said it people'd be wondering if they should trying to hide all flammable materials. Richie' demeanor is one of an amiable court jester, Joes's more cold and seems to lack a "give a damn" button. And he blows off very serious matters like his un-frigging-touchable.

KikiLou
KikiLou

 @okmulgeeok

 I so agree with your comment, but I wish Kathy, Melissa and their fans would accept that fact. For all the hatred for teresa, and the difficulty they claim to have filming with her, they all still want a spot for season 5; even Jacqueline, who I thought would be so eager to walk away from this trainwreck.

Lynden
Lynden

@lovemesomered I suppose you think the world of Teresa? ha go figure. Kathy is a wonderful human being. Get a life.

Beyoncca
Beyoncca

Couldn't have said it better!

withak
withak

@KikiLou @okmulgeeok I wouldn't watch without Jacqueline and Caroline for continuity sake. I really have grown to dislike Teresa and if she didn't come back, I wouldn't miss her. I love Melissa and would like her to come back for sure. And Kathy and definitely Rosie.

hrippl
hrippl

 @farrah88

 OHHHHH so its ok for little miss teresa to put her hands on kathy's face, and if kathy were to do the same little miss teresa is going to SUE.... good for u Kathy for not taking teresa's crap.

 

hmsmjm
hmsmjm

 @minpinMom  @Rockie23

 She was dealing with crazy. Teresa doesn't remember from minute to minute what she said and she takes no responsibility for anything!