Melissa Gorga

Melissa isn't convinced that Teresa was not involved with Kim D's plan.

on Oct 16, 20120

First and foremost I want to thank all of you for tuning in each week to watch the saga unfold. It must be extremely frustrating not knowing a lot of the back story and the issues that went on with all of us way before the RHONJ even existed. The fact is we've always had our issues and the Joes have always had theirs. I do think we were all trying to fake it until we made it, but in the last year or so it's just all come to a head. I think the show is so successful, because what you’ve seen also goes on in so many of your own homes and with your own in-laws, cousins, siblings, and you understand where we are coming from. I know there are so many questions that you all tweet to me (and all the Housewives for that matter), and while I would love to answer them all, I have three babies and Joe to take care of, so it's just so hard to get to all of them and all the emails, but know that I appreciate you and I love you so much.

What I do want to assure you is that I am at home sitting at the island in my kitchen writing my blog. I know there is a lot of talk about how we don't all write our own blogs, but it's very important to me that you know this is coming from MY heart. This is not a dig. It's the truth. I think all of you have found comfort in the fact that what I say is real and the truth. Whether you love me or hate me, you know when I tell you something I’m going to give you an honest answer. I realize that is how I have grown so much with this show and have received such a huge amount of support after being on this show two years less than everyone else. My signings have been surreal, my Twitter followers are amazing, and the support for my music is more than I could have ever asked for. I have no intentions of ever disappointing anyone and stopping the real talk. I have read a lot of your questions and I'm going to try to answers the ones I see the most. Hope this is helpful to you.

1502 comments
lovehwnj1105
lovehwnj1105

I think you purposely keep this drama going with Teresa to stay on show. its pathetic you will not allow your kids near Teresa's because of the drama but youll stay on the show?! you're so full of your self and I think your old best friend was telling the truth about you cheating and that's why you wouldn't confront her and try put all on Teresa to take focus off why your own friend said that. did you see your friends faces when you said you were writing a marriage book? Priceless

lovehwnj1105
lovehwnj1105

honestly I couldn't even read more then one page of this bull shit. you need stop this passive aggressive crap about blogs and hinting once again Teresa doesn't write her own. and when you claim your over things and when people hug and make up its anew slate, then do that. stop bringing up the past. for your husband sake just get over it. you claim your the bigger person then act like it!

Nieves75
Nieves75

You are so guilty ....cheater

hjackson1tobie5458
hjackson1tobie5458

melissa  what is up with your sister inlaw you carry your self like a lady and i respect that i love your love with your husband joe and you are a good mom to your children. you try to be in a good space with her but i think your sister inlaw have some issues to work out . and if you and your husband try to work it out that would be good . but if it dont work you have to do want is best for you and your family. and keep your love and respect for your marries. godbless

Hawaii91
Hawaii91

Help me to understand u. U want to move away fromTeresa and her family, u don't want to be around them. Yet ur on the series, why? If this was true u would have left the show I steady chose to stay on why? U want fame and glory and now ur writing a book on marriage. What makes u an expert on the subject? First u want to sing and I thought u were pretty good but ur nowhere on iTunes now u have a book deal. Oh, brother what's wrong with the world. Do u have a degree in the subject of marriage. I hope u don't destroy other people's lives. Hope u give good advice, u should of stuck to singing nobody will get hurt.

Blondie62
Blondie62

Honestly the way it played out she looked innocent at first, but why was her heart beating so fast if she was innocent?  She had something to do with it.

louise123
louise123

Bottom Line besides all the "he said  she said"---you and your husband begged, crawled, slithered, and begged some more to get on this show with the storyline of a feud with his only sister. Once you won the brass ring, you then went to work "snaking" around the entire cast until you spread tumors like a cancer. Your husband absolutely helped you because his sister, (the one he thinks his parents liked better) needed to be shown YOUR version of who Teresa is. You both wouldn't rest until you alienated everyone you could, including the cast and the fans. All because she had what you both wanted with every fiber of your being--FAME. But you may snow many people with your well honed act, but you both will never get to The Gorga Sr;s. They know the real score, and THAT'S why you both are continue the saga this season. You just won't stop, and you will continue until they're gone because Joe KNOWS THEY KNOW what was in both of your hearts. That is eating a him every day and he goes after Teresa more, and you steered his path in his ear.  It's gonna be some long years living with that. For Joe anyway--YOU could care less--you got fame, I have zero sympathy for your husband when that happens. He should have stopped the witch hunt on his only sister, The minute you two re-enacted the scene of Teresa's private conversation for the cameras is the day I realized what a horrible fame hungry man your husband was and that her only brother was her biggest threat. I have never known a brother in my life who would do what he has done on national television to a big sister.  You both sold you souls for reality show fame. And you had a willing cast and cousin to help you because of failed BLK water and bakery business....Wow. Teresa never stood a chance once you got on.

SkySnow
SkySnow

In watching the first show of the season I see you and Joe unwilling to admit that you are part of the problem and willing to take responsibility for the problems in the relationship. You sit there defending your position while your children are unable to see their other childhood family members. Shame on you for sitting in such a righteous place at their expense, again and again and again.  It’s all Teresa’s fault, really? You and Joe have no responsibility? You are completely in denial and all you do is defend your position and becomes cumbersome to all who listen year after year. Who do you think respects that?? Only those who hate Teresa, not those who would see each has responsibility to the solution. Was really hoping for a cast change to give Teresa a break from all of the pounding she receives each season, no matter whether she is right or wrong. Would love to have seen Caroline and Jacqueline go and to see real efforts made in yours and Joe’s area to reconcile permanently with Teresa. If Teresa can’t behave in a way that suits you, then take the high road and allow peace in the family instead of constantly directly blame away from yourselves. And should you take the high road, shhhhh, don’t tell everyone how wonderful you are for doing it. Just do it.

piperbeau
piperbeau

Melissa you are so full of crap! If you don't want to be around Teresa and you don't want your kids to be around Teresa's kids then why did you so desperately want to join the cast of a show she had already been a part of for three years?!!!!! So totally pathetic!! And maybe you should PAY your bills....

vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net
vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net

Melissa, I don't think there was a set up on Teresa's part, I think the person who set up the whole thing is Kim D. You have bent over backwards to make it work with Teresa, but she is simply jealous of your marriage and the relationship you have with your husband. Teresa's husband is not loving to her and their children the way her brother is to you and yours, therefore she takes her anger out on the person who's closest to her that's happy. That would be you my dear. So I agree it's time for you to move on where she is concern.

selena78
selena78

What was the set up? Some guy says hi to you. Wow.

Ellie007
Ellie007

Teresa is the highest paid because she is the MONKEY of the show! She is entertaining and we all laugh at her. But even if you get the monkey off the show, doesn’t mean the circus has left town!!!

Ellie007
Ellie007

Your beautiful have beautiful children and you are a great wife. Don't listen to T, the poor woman needs help, her family is messed up her husband doesn't respect her no wonder she acts like an ape!

seattlenative
seattlenative

Love you on the show, but T needs help, something is seriously wrong with her, I hope she gets help befor it effects her children more than it already has.  Please take care of your family and have fun with the rest of the cast.

Cdg7496
Cdg7496

You really really are a loser. I said it last year and ill say it again. You had no business coming on the show. You have no talent or if you did by now you would be on the top charts? You came on to tear your husband away from his family and make a name for your no talented self. So if you had real talent why don't I hear you on radio? Because its something that you paid for and we will not pay to here. Stop blaming Teresa for you Being a loser with a bad voice and no talent. It's not her fault.

piperbeau
piperbeau

As far as I am concerned you should be on your hands and knees thanking Teresa for all your opportunities at Bravo!! Straight up!! You came on the scene dissing her!! When really you should have been thanking her..

rosyposy
rosyposy

I hope the good girls (Melissa, Jacki, & Caroline) have a good season.  They need to just party on without Teresa.  Let T film her own segments with her sleazy crowd of cows.  Lets see some T-free gatherings of people actually telling the truth and being nice to one another while having fun..  Pulleeeze.

merkie
merkie

I like teresajo1959.  My guess is this is the year he/she was born.  Mine is 1957...no matter.  I like the cut of your jib.  Terea is a narcissist a sociopathic individual with no thought of running over anyone in her way just to get what she BELIEVES IS HERS TO TAKE.  I am sure BRAVO will keep her on the show because of her narcissim it keeps the ratngs high and the sponsors love being able to sell their wares to a large audience.  I would not want to change places with Melissa for anything  She (Melissa) is beautiful, funny, honest, loyal, married to a wonderful guy, a beautiful home, with cute little kids. The "fly in the ointment' is her sister-in-law.  Theresa can't look at Melissa withou seeing red because Melissa is everything Theresa is not most importantly she shines with a glow of truth.  Theresa talks about people on her side, where are we in the 6th grade???  Grammer school was where girls in particular counted the people on their side, those who liked them and hated the identified other side.  I think Therea counts her friends like she counts her money.  And while I am at it, Theresa G. is NO AUTHOR.  She is just a glorified cook who took recipies from her mom and her cousins mom and put them in a book.  There is no thought in writing her cookbook.  AUTHOR MY BUTT.  Dostoevsky, The Brothes Karamazov, Gerritson, Brown,Patterson and Grisham to name a few these are Authors but Theresa G shes no author.   My life may not be in featured the spot light but I have a great guy and great grown-up kids.  The things Thersa has done are unforgivable she really has problems and needs to take accountability for her actions.  Will she, I doubt it but it would be nice to see her try to change if not for herself then for her daughters.       

Murdoch.stephanie@yahoo.com
Murdoch.stephanie@yahoo.com

Please tell me it's not true.... Teresa is back???? Ugh... Really Bravo??? Not watching upcoming season if its true!

bris_aust_hw
bris_aust_hw

Melissa, I love you and Tre.  Married 21 years hun.  And my sister in law was a Tre all over.  ALL OVER GIRL! 

 

When my hubby and his sister used to fight (and her husband too), I always did the patching up. I was like you.

 

When my sister in law used to screw me over, i got over it, real fast!  I didn't let it consume too much time.

 

The part I most regret is both our Mums died while the 4 of us were fighting.  And the kids suffered, not seeing each other.

 

As we've gotten older, they are so nice to be around. 10 YEARS ARGUMENT FREE!  Woohoo!

 

We love getting together.  And we laugh girl!  Do we laugh!  We are mid 40s now. 

Older, wiser.   Wasted years when we didn't talk.  I want that for you guys, so bad.

 

All the best hun!  We're praying for you all!

 

teresajo1959
teresajo1959

Team Joe & Melissa!  Sorry for all the garbage in the media...but it's all just so cheesy you know that Teresa and that strip center budget shop operator...what's her name?  Kim?  are behind it......I just had to laugh.......Life & Syle should have reported "The Truth ...according to Teresa....it has her name written all over it......just smile and ignore....if they're alking aout you at least they have picked a good subject!

Dash-92
Dash-92

I love love you.. you may be very outspoken at times but i feel in my heart all things you do and say are coming from a good places you kept trying to mend things and never once blamed or played the victim ..HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH xx

leonie
leonie

Hi, I am from Australia (over 60) and have watched this show for a few years now.  I look at Teresa and she is not the sharpiest tool in he kit if you know what I mean.  BUT having said that I look at her and see that he would not intentionally hurt anyone.  She sometimes says words and doesn't even know what they mean.  Why can't people give her some slack and see how she is.  She really loves and misses her brother, and Melissa I can see how you DO like fame and fortune and can understand that may be the reason you went on the show.  Teresa had it and you did not.  What better way to get it and possible have a go at her at the same time because of jealousy.   I also see the way you look at men sometimes and like the attention that they give you, fine there's nothing wrong with that but it could give of the wrong signals sometimes.

I hope that you can work things out with Teresa - each year  see you all getting more and more hateful with her and that is so unkind.

Leonie.

macfromfl
macfromfl

I do hope you guys come back this season. I am Italian & know there is BS in every family. Teresa should watch the tapes of the shows just to see how she really is. Every family has a trouble maker & yours is Teresa. I love watching the show I can relate. Family is very important. I miss that since my parents are gone & so is most of the family of there generation.

teejay246
teejay246

Love reading your blogs!  I know it's been been months since the show has aired, but have one question.  I'd like to ask all the housewives and Andy Cohen.  If they got rid of Jill Zarin for being "toxic" to the show, why are they keeping Teresa on for another season?  She has to be the most "toxic" of all the housewives to ever be on camera.  It's all just sad what fame and fortune has brought her.  She treats most of the people around her so badly.  I honestly have to turn the channel or mute my television when she is on.  She is the sole reason I may not watch again.  Mostly, I feel bad for her children.  It's hard to believe Bravo and Teresa are going to put them through another season.  If Bravo or Teresa has any true family values they would stop the insanity and release her from doing any more damage than she has already done.   Although, I do believe what goes around comes around, and I think she has a lot coming to her for the things she has said and continues to do.  You have brought so much fun to the show, I thank you and your family for that.  You, Kathy, Caroline, and Jac make the show.  I love your positive attitude and enjoyed watching the closeness of you, Joe and your children.  I truly hope you and Joe are still a part of his parents life.  That is probably the most tragic thing that happened on any season of any housewives show, period.  I hope his parents know the truth and your family can spend as much time with his parents as possible.  Family is everything, and I know that you realize that and have done everything humanly possible to mend it.  Good luck to you and your family!    

keelfour
keelfour

  melissa i like you on the show  Ithink you and joe are a cute couple . hope to see you and joe back next season. i dont know what happened to teresa the show must have went to her head.she is not the same person as in season 1&2. hope you and joe dont change. teresa should go back and watch and see how much she has changed.

PR_USMC_Wifey_of_NJ
PR_USMC_Wifey_of_NJ

Ms. Melissa, 

     Let me start off by saying that regardless to what people are saying below, I think your AWESOME...drama or not. I have NEVER been a fan of anyone before because I never felt like anyone was worth modeling after. Then season 3 came and you & Joe blew me away. =) Your family dynamic is AMAZING and your relationship with Joe should have been written by Nicholas Sparks! <3 You're doing whatever you need to in order to keep your family together and going strong, and as a wife and mother that is exactly where your focus should be. If that means that the "Crazy Italiana" needs to come out every now and then, then hey so be it. As a Puerto Rican born and raised in NJ, I am no stranger to putting people in their place when the situation calls for it. I'm going to assume that most of your haters are young unmarried girls and so they cannot know the daily struggle of trying to keep a marriage happy when family (in-laws or blood) interject their opinions and negativity. I am 24 yrs old and I have been with my HS-sweetheart (now a Marine) for 10 years and we will be married 4 yrs come Dec. 31. I can MOST def relate to you (although we don't have kids yet) and I have to say that you inspire me to keep strong with my Hubby as everyone around us prays for our failure. With all these haters lining up to talk about you, you must be doing something right. ;-) Keep doing your thing doll!!!! XoXo...A Mini-Melissa<3

melsweet
melsweet

Hi Melissa,

 

i'm anxious to see who's on the show next season and to see how things pan out.  there are things from this past season that still don't make sense to me, which i hope will be clearer next season. i don't understand why you went along with the bald guy instead of saying, no offence but i don't remember where i know you from?  it seems to me what he said must be true, which is okay, so why not just own it?  that way no one can try and "set you up"  again.  or are you in the process of suing him now for lying about you on national tv? 

 

anyway, all the best,

 

 melsweet

dixie1
dixie1

Melissa, I have met people like you so many times in my life! You are sadly an attention getter!! You really cant be happy with your life unless all the attention is on you! Watching all the episodes it seems that you really dont want your husband to have his sister in his life. You act innocent but some people can see right through you! You have a beautiful family, you are set financially, you are a pretty girl is that not enough? Sooner or later I believe the other ladies will see your true identity!!!

js101
js101

Melissa,

Teresa may have heard rumblings about something but until it actually materialzed that day, she may have not known anything about it or have been involved.  People talk.  They say they are going to do things all the time and never do.  Kim D. may have discussed this with her in passing but Teresa may have blown it off as nothing, just talk.  When she was actually sitting there and it was happening, then, I'm sure she knew what was about to happen.  However, this is different from you actually seeking Danielle out to destroy your sister-in-law.  That as pure evil.  She confronted you on it, you confessed and she forgave you.  Maybe you should confront her.  If she says she had nothing to do with it, then, believe her and move on.  Stop tyring to imput bad motives.  To take the high road means that you do just that, take the high road.  Believe her and move on.  However, with that said, do you think it could be pride on your part for not wanting to accept what she is saying and move on?  She didn't accept you when her brother married you.  You have felt that and known that so maybe, this is your way of paying her back, by trying to expose her in such a negative way.  Everytime she messes up you are right there with spotlight in hand.  Believe me, we all have faults, but nobody likes the light being shined on their faults 24-7, not even your sister-in-law.  Can you not see that this only further leads to disunity in your family?  And, I'm sure each one of you is hoping the other will humble themselves and give but neither one of you is buging- too much pride.  I truly belive that you and Teresa should be in therapy, not Teresa and Joe.  Once your relatioship is good, theirs will fall into place.  Humble yoursef and think about fixing, not destroying things.  And, don't say that she isn't worth it because when you do, it again, putting yourself on a pedastal and her beneath you.

NorthernWolf
NorthernWolf

So... No we have seen Kim D on the couch with all of you.  Now you have heard Kim D say that she and old baldy cooked up the whole thing to get at you.  Are you STILL blaming Teresa for this set-up?  I know Teresa isnt your favorite person in the world, but she had nothing to do with it at all.  You and your hubby Joe need to acknowledge that Teresa was not involved and try to get back to the place you were on the Napa trip.  Family is family, Melissa.  The tighter you all are, the harder it is for bullies like Kim D to cause this devastating level of destruction.

breathnow
breathnow

 @Blondie62 

Because Teresa is being set up and she is always waiting for that next semi truck "Melissa" to make her look the root of the issue. 

You would be nervous around those terrible women too!

chnmnny1
chnmnny1

 @Blondie62 because teresa and her brother and you had come back from Napa and just made up!  Duh

Betsy704
Betsy704

 @vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net

 I dont agree thatTeresa maybe jealous so much , I believe they once were both married everthing changed between them and I think Melissa is soooo jealous of Teresa, because they are so close, Melissa is a shady gal, Im tellin ya!!!Teresa was set up by Kim cant she find something real to fight about,,, she got that bandwagon backing her against Teresa thats forsure!!!!!!!!  Kathy and Melissa both are not family they dont act it anyway!!!!! Teresas on her own and thats why shes defensive and leaning towards her hubby and kids , she secure with them , wrong but I believe she can only trust them, thats all , but Melissas shady ,,, a shade tree for real her and Kathy both!!!!

piperbeau
piperbeau

 @selena78 Lmao!! Melissa wanted a story line so bad she was the mastermind behind the set up!! She loves to play the victim! She is a spoiled little brat.. She wanted to be in Teresa's world so bad she couldn't sleep at night! thats why she went to any means necessary to get on the show!! So pathetic! 

chnmnny1
chnmnny1

 @Ellie007 Teresa might be a little naive and unfiltered, but her heart is always in the right place!

chnmnny1
chnmnny1

 @Cdg7496 Just like the Manzo family, the kids aren't relevant, neither are your sisters.  Teresa's kids have talent, thus do not need a storyline.  I'm not knocking Melissa's kids, but I am her sisters and the Manzo kids all uneducated failures still hanging on to mommy.  That Lauren is really evil!

SkySnow
SkySnow

 @rosyposy Melissa, look at the kind of person who supports you. This is your energetic match. How does that feel? Better to take the high road and value peace over war, regardless of who is at fault.

chnmnny1
chnmnny1

 @Dash-92 I used to think that of Melissa also, but even Caroline's starting to have her doubts.

leesa.bevan
leesa.bevan

 @leonie I AM ALSO AUSSIE & MELISSA & JOE ARE A BEAUTIFUL COUPLE .TERESA IS A EVIL WITCH WHO THINKS SHE CAN DO WHATEVER SHE WANTS 

Jjabg4
Jjabg4

@leonie . Sorry Leonie, I also am from Australia, and think you are way off the mark. Melissa and Joe, from what we have seen have never had any financial difficulties, as with Teresa and Joe. So to say Melissa was jealous, is ridiculous. I see Melissa as a lovely person who did her utmost to bring Joe and Teresa back together, without intervention, I don't think it would be possible.

amber777
amber777

 @macfromfl

 there is BS in every family Italian or otherwise. I think that is what you are saying. the difference is that our BS is not broadcasted on an international platform.

Just_Saying
Just_Saying

 @melsweet That was the part that was so silly. There was no set up, all the drama was created by Melissa, Caro and Jaco...if they had kept their mouths shut none of this would have even been noticed. It was their doing, to try to set up Tre to look like the bad guy.

Jjabg4
Jjabg4

@dixie1 . If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. My parents taught me that, obviously yours forgot too.

rosyposy
rosyposy

Watch a rerun and pay attention this time.  Kim said straight out that Teresa knew of the set up.  She did not say the depth of Teresa's involvement, but it is crystal clear to those of us with brains that Teresa was right in the middle of it.  Anyway....it is all history.  The set up completely failed.  Joe Gorga has no lingering doubts about his manipulative sister.  He has moved his lovely family away from the neighborhood so his children will not become tainted with Teresa's sick hate, lies,  and manipulations (as HERS have).  It is over.  It failed.  Time to move on.

melsweet
melsweet

 @Just_Saying

 i agree totally.  but can you believe the two families have gone a year not speaking because of it?  that melissa, i tell you. 

melsweet
melsweet

 @rosyposy

 but what really happened with the "set up?" some random bald dude came up and made an accusation, which if you think of it,  must be true or else wouldn't the gorga's be suing for libel?  the man said this on national tv and yet they aren't suing?  strange.  but you need to do your homework before you take sides.  the gorga's are moving because they have to.  that lovely home they're in is a spec house and is not their permanent residence, they are late on payments and have to go.   there are scanned copies of the legal documents online for all to see.  so think about what kind of people would blame their little nieces, for fear they will be bullies one day, and use that as a reason to move?  it doesn't get lower or dirtier than that in my book. blaming teresa became the excuse for everyone on the show and so they just went with it when their own problems came to light.  that's why joe guidice was telling them to pay their bills on the reunion show.  they are living beyond their means just like the guidices' were, for the cameras, but teresa got out there and hustled and they were able to keep their home.  the two families  have a lot more in common than you might think.  i'm sure melissa is really glad about the set up, now she has a great excuse to blame teresa for everything and never allow her husband to make amends with his sister.  joe gorga is blinded, which is to be expected, but still he needs to open his eyes to what his wife is really all about. 

selena78
selena78

 @lambyjj  @Jjabg4  @leonie

 She was trying to bring joe and Teresa back together? I guess you never caught the times she said under her breathe "just forget it joe" and then she remembers she's on camera and tries to cover it up. And how many times is she going to take credit for leaving that trip so that Teresa wouldn't travel back alone? It was joe's idea and Melissa followed cuz she didn't have a choice.