The Teresa-Kim Set-Up

First and foremost I want to thank all of you for tuning in each week to watch the saga unfold. It must be extremely frustrating not knowing a lot of the back story and the issues that went on with all of us way before the RHONJ even existed. The fact is we've always had our issues and the Joes have always had theirs. I do think we were all trying to fake it until we made it, but in the last year or so it's just all come to a head. I think the show is so successful, because what you’ve seen also goes on in so many of your own homes and with your own in-laws, cousins, siblings, and you understand where we are coming from. I know there are so many questions that you all tweet to me (and all the Housewives for that matter), and while I would love to answer them all, I have three babies and Joe to take care of, so it's just so hard to get to all of them and all the emails, but know that I appreciate you and I love you so much.

What I do want to assure you is that I am at home sitting at the island in my kitchen writing my blog. I know there is a lot of talk about how we don't all write our own blogs, but it's very important to me that you know this is coming from MY heart. This is not a dig. It's the truth. I think all of you have found comfort in the fact that what I say is real and the truth. Whether you love me or hate me, you know when I tell you something I’m going to give you an honest answer. I realize that is how I have grown so much with this show and have received such a huge amount of support after being on this show two years less than everyone else. My signings have been surreal, my Twitter followers are amazing, and the support for my music is more than I could have ever asked for. I have no intentions of ever disappointing anyone and stopping the real talk. I have read a lot of your questions and I'm going to try to answers the ones I see the most. Hope this is helpful to you.

Did I contact Danielle to get on the show?

NO! I've said it many times; she saw the sprinkle cookie story on Facebook and inboxed me. She did ask me to film with her, and I declined. Was it a little malicious? Yes. Teresa and I weren't even speaking at the time, and it wasn't because of the show. It was because of hurtful comments she used to say to me that I would constantly brush off. I always smiled at her and let it go. Yes, it sat in my head, and yes, a lot of the comments she used to make are very similar to the ones you've seen her say to me for the last two seasons. The thing is I never threw the first punch. I pretty much took anything she threw at me in the beginning. I'm a smart girl and I knew her type from Day 1, but this is my husband’s sister, so what was I supposed to do? I dealt with it. Then as Joe and I started really building our family and becoming more successful, Teresa and Juicy's comments would become more and more hurtful. Sometimes I would brush them off and Joe just wouldn't be able to. We would leave their house and just say, "What the hell was that?" Mind you this was years before the show. So did I speak to Danielle? Yes. Did I meet with Danielle? No. To this day I have never met Danielle in person.
 
Did I ever try to get on the show before I was asked to be on it?

NO! I never once asked Teresa to put me or my family on the show. I've never called a producer and there was no audition tape where we said we will “take down” Teresa. If I had, I probably wouldn't be on the show. They don't cast people who beg and promise malicious things. As you can see, there are many desperate people on Twitter begging to be on the show. None of them get cast. It's not Bravo's style. The more you want it, the less likely you are to get it. You didn't see a lot of us because of the circumstances I just described above. You want real talk. I remember when Teresa got offered the show. She was at my house for dinner and we were all discussing it as a family. Most were telling her not to do it. I told her to go for it. I said take the opportunity. If I had been jealous I wouldn't have told her to go for it. I also called her and said congrats when she got it! To be honest, I thought it would calm her down with me. I thought this would help her feel like she "wins" -- that she is the best. I thought she would feel more secure now and stop coming at me so we could just be a family. I was so wrong about that. It just got worse. Whatever little "need to be the best" bug that was inside of her was biting her harder. It started to become out of control. The truth is a few years later the producers contacted me and we took that same opportunity.Do I still think Teresa set me up?

Yes. Kim’s story has changed so many times since that night I can’t keep up. She did set me up, she didn’t set me up, there was no set up. Enough already. I think Kim D's reason is so ridiculous for wanting to hurt me. She is a 50-year-old woman that is coming at me for going to another boutique. Would Kim really put all this time and effort into this set up just because of that? By the way, Teresa also shops at the other Posh and Kim knows it. It was proven in the footage when Angelo said Teresa knew, because he also said "Kim and Teresa wanted me to do this thing." Come on, everyone, lets be reasonable, there were a lot of things falling in both of their laps that day. The hair salon was just too convenient that day. Why couldn't Teresa call me in between the hair salon and the fashion show? Give me a warning of what Kim was doing? The heart pounding, the blinks, the nervousness. Then Kim D. comes to the reunion and admits Teresa knew it was a set up for me. It's all right there, and honestly I know in my heart what she was doing. It's written all over her face. Of course she was in on it. More importantly, why isn't Teresa mad at KIM? Why isn't she mad at her for doing this to her brother’s wife? Why isn't she upset with her for causing all this commotion when everything was so good between us? Why did Teresa just do a signing at Kim's store after all of this? Why was Kim tweeting pictures last week out at nightclubs with Teresa? Seems Teresa is returning the favor. Why am I selling my house?

There are some of the most ridiculous rumors out there that we can't afford it and that we are broke. Joe and I have worked very hard for many years to get where we are today. When we first started the show, we only owned one building. Now we own four or five. Joe was the only one bringing in money for the last few years, because I didn't work and I was with the kids. Now we are both bringing in money. Why on earth would anyone think we are in that position? It's just ridiculous. We do pay our mortgage and we are NOT broke. There is a wonderful thing called the internet where you can look up public records and find out what we paid for our house, the rate on our mortgage, pretty much everything. The truth is this: we put our house up to get away from the negativity. I have to protect my family. I don't want my children around anyone, including family that is speaking badly about me or trying to put me down. I see it happening already. I couldn't believe what my nieces were saying about me, and as the girls get older it will only get worse. Then they will begin to tell my children what they hear about me from their mother. I can't have that. I won't have it. If you bring Zia Teresa's name up to my children they never say a negative thing about her, and as long as I can help it they won’t. They know nothing about what is happening between us, and I would like to keep it that way for them as long as I can.
 
What’s next for the music?

I Just Wanna (feat. Santino Noir) is doing incredible on iTunes! Thanks to all of you! I'm so ecstatic that everyone loves it this much. I just released the video on Vevo and (Thank you, Jesus!) I've been blessed! I couldn't be more excited about any of it. I just started working with someone huge in the music industry, so I'm excited to see where it goes. I truly feel like whatever is meant to be will be. If it succeeds even more, great! If it doesn't, I love my life and my family, and I'm happy either way. That’s what is most important. I love when people come up to me and tell me how they are following their dreams too now after watching me. I get choked up every time. I can't explain how that makes me feel. But I tell everyone it can't be everything. If it works, great, but you can't be devastated if it doesn't. I never live my life just around having business success. Having success in my home is the true money maker!How do I keep in shape?

Well it's never easy being on TV and worrying about your body. It’s hard to know everyone is looking at you a judging you every day. I honestly never diet. I eat healthy and I always use portion control. I eat a lot more than three times a day. I eat smaller portions throughout the day. I eat most of my carbs in the morning and at night I always want something sweet. If the cupcakes come two in a pack I’ll just eat one and save the other for tomorrow. I do work out three times a week, and no, I don't do a lot of cardio. My children are my cardio. I run around with them all day up the stairs down the stairs -- I am a human taxi. All I do is run around! I also have a lot of energy and don't watch much TV. I'm very active so I’m always on the go. I love fruit, I love turkey, tuna, and salads. I eat one slice of pizza probably five days a week. It's my favorite fast food. But just one slice and no pepperoni! When I go out for a drink on a Saturday night with Joe I always drink Voli Light Vodka. It is half the calories of all the other vodkas, and it is good! I don't like drinking my calories, I'd rather eat them! For dinner I always make a piece of meat, a vegetable, and either rice or a potato of some kind. I will give the kids and Joe a full serving of the carbs, and I will eat half of whatever I gave them. Sundays are the exception! I eat all day! I eat a lot of pastas and whatever I want for desert. Best day of the week! Hope this helps a little.
 
Do I have a stylist?

No, I don't. I do shop at certain boutiques and they will always help me figure out what to wear. If you follow me on Twitter I tweet about them a lot, so you can check them out! I don't need much help in that department. I've always been lucky to know what looks good on me. I've always loved clothes, and I got best dressed in high school! LOL!
 
What beauty products do I use?

I just wrote a blog on my website all about my reunion makeup! I give you a list of products that I used. I love how many people are tweeting me pictures of their makeup! You all look beautiful! Keep them coming! I will start to blog more on my website about my favorite beauty products. I promise! Keep checking in with www.melissagorga.co.Hope that answers some of your questions. I'm really looking forward to this time off. My family needs it, and I truly believe time heals all wounds. Our family is not there yet. Joe and I still need some time to get over this. I don't know if I ever will, but for now I just need a break from all the craziness. I'm excited to get started working on some new projects that I can't wait to tell you about! I just booked a trip to Jamaica with Joe and the kids that I can't wait for! I'm sure you need a break from all of us too! I can't say thank you enough for all your support. I truly do love you all for it.
 
xoxo,

Melissa
 
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