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Amber: Nicole Behaved Like a Barbarian

Amber Marchese explains why she feels betrayed by both Melissa Gorga and the twins.

By Amber Marchese

Can you believe that just happened? It’s amazing that even though this episode was filmed months ago, I still have so much anger in me to this day. I feel betrayed by both Melissa and the twins. 

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Let’s begin with Melissa. I am going to clarify some points about the scene driving in the car to the dessert party. Melissa asked me about the reasons for Nicole’s divorce. I have never had a discussion with Nicole about those reasons, I only told Melissa what was I told. A close member of the family shared the story about Nicole and how her affair hurt them, and I had no reason to doubt the veracity of the statement. However, I was still very evasive when telling Melissa. I clearly stated that “I heard it through the grapevine.” At this point, I NEVER accused Nicole of being a home wrecker, because I never heard Nicole’s side of it. Last I checked that damn grapevine is not gospel, Nicole could have easily dispelled talks of this rumor. Sadly, we all now know that Nicole took the route of behaving like a barbarian instead. 

Melissa’s betrayal is so hard to stomach because she had a chance to be there for me now. We both decided that we were going to start anew on our relationship. Melissa’s contention that I put her “in a bad spot,” honestly, Melissa, I am calling your bullsh-- out! There was no good in that. You never said to me that you thought it was not right that I said that. If your conscience was bothering you so much, you could have come to me and we could have approached Nicole to give her the opportunity to confront who was actually saying this about her. Instead, you just took an opportunity to twist my words and stick it to me. Melissa knew how mad her little minions were at me, so much that they ran off in clothes they just tried on and came to my home. In fact, she had an entire week to give me the heads up. Tsk, tsk, Melissa. Well, Melissa, I am quick study to your games of manipulation. Game on, girl. Sad since we could have had one another’s back. We have a lot in common and share the same family values. Your loss. 

Before I go on to the ambush, I mean, “first responders party,” I just want to point out how unbelievably stupid the twins, AKA the evil minions, looked coming to my home and confronting me! That’s my home, my personal space. I should have put them in time out for that stunt. And the fact that they had second thoughts because of the kids is even more hysterical. I mean, come on! Where did they think my kids would be? I don’t send them to the bars drinking on a school night. They look like complete jackasses. Moving on to the ambush. So let’s cut this down to size, the twins thought it was better to ambush me at a party in front of people instead of calling me to sit down with me prior to ask me what I heard. They let it fester for a week and thought confronting me at a party was the way go. Ugh… I just can't stand the stupidity! Nicole claims we were “such close friends,” yet this is how she handles it. Honestly, it’s like watching dumb and dumber. Furthermore, I calmly asked twice what the deal was and neither one of them could articulate an answer, they instead just kept on barking like little Chihuahuas. I had absolutely no clue what the deal was. Even Melissa was asking them why they were taking it to such negative place right off the bat, in addition to saying that I was calling her a ho! 

The little evil minions thought they were going to bully me in front of everyone. Well, I will not be bullied, I will always stand my ground, and as Jack says: ”You f---ed with wrong Marine!” They escalated the situation and I defended myself. But violence is not the answer, EVER. Nicole may have been upset, but she could have handled that with dignity and class. I will remind everyone that she's over 45 years old and a mother! Simple math -- that is less than only 5 years from 50! She should know better and be a better example to her children. 

I understand it looked ridiculous, but I am saying to everyone out there, don’t laugh at bullying. If you see someone getting bullied, it is never cool and there is nothing funny about it. Do something about it. Either go get help or stick up for whom is being attacked. I do thank Melissa for sticking up for me at the time, it makes me wonder if she truly she did not know how depraved the minions behave.

Now let’s go on to my husband and his "best friend" Bobby. I hope you all heard Bobby say, "We've been gone for ten seconds, this happened already?" Bobby knew it was a set up for both me and my husband, and his pretending that he wanted to stay out of it is bullsh--. He set us up so he could be a big shot in front of his new friends. As for my husband's reaction, he just broke up a fight, watched his wife get her REAL HAIR pulled out. Hair that she has been growing since she was bald from chemo! He goes upstairs to get out of there and Joe and Rino thought this was the best time to confront him about not going to bowling? They flanked him and started waiving their hands in his face. Jim kept his cool as much as possible, but once you get my husband to that point, watch out! My husband is more than capable of defending himself, and he is highly intelligent.  As far as why my husband was even in that position, that was thanks to Bobby and Rino, who set him up. Furthermore, Joe Gorga’s actions and behavior proved Jim's concerns about him correct! Please remember, Jim never even met these people. He only knew what I told him, but at the end of the day, Jim has a right to hang out with whom he would like to. It’s a free country, maybe Joe needs to stop being such an egomaniac and hot head.  Is Joe serious, how does Jim sleep at night? Didn't he call his sister a “scumbag” and fight with his brother-in-law? It is no wonder Jim did not want to drink with this guy. I know this particular blog definitely has a lot of anger, and that’s because I have a lot of anger when thinking of this episode. I drank plenty of Patron and had a lot of my friends around to get through it. 

I would like to thank my supporters, they mean the world to me. Raquelita (@lovinlifebliss), my new friends that quickly became a part of my family, Steven, Brian, and Michael, plus so many more. 

I promise you I let a lot of anger go and try to move on, I just wanted to bring you along on my journey and let you know how I felt at the time even though it happened a while ago. I also watched WWHL and the twins were, yet again, rewriting history and making me out to be the aggressor. There is no question Nicole started it and I defended myself, then Te-REESA took it further and threw a drink in my face. Did everyone catch Te-REESA smiling as she put the drink to her mouth watching her sister come at me? I did. Typical. I was planning on having a good night that night, they were planning on making a scene. 

Sending love and blessings!


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