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Inner Coconut

Kelly talks about vaginas, her past, and finding the right kind of man.

By Kelly Killoren Bensimon

Respect yourself.

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The big V -- for those vagina obsessed, hats off to you. I'm just focused on my own vagina. (Potential TMI.)

As for Sonja and her cookbook, she has a really clever and easy idea there. We didn't need to see her vagina to help her sell books. Oof! See what I have to deal with?

I don't know why I told LuAnn something so intimate (which my dad calls "inner coconut"), but I was in the moment and sometimes you can't control what's really on your mind. LuAnn is a lot tougher and more secure than me -- clearly.

You can't choose who you fall in love with, but you can choose to keep your hands off of people. That goes for me, too. Since that incident which happened in my twenties, I learned a lot. I was fortunate enough to meet and marry Gilles, who is the opposite of what I had endured. Even though we aren't together, Gilles has always been and will always be an amazing man.

I know the man of my dreams is coming very soon. I finally feel good about myself and recognize that my happiness is not based on anyone else but my own. Watch out for the sharks, bottom feeders, and minnows -- there may be a lot of fish in the sea but, some of them should be thrown back. Check out Jill Zarin's book, Secrets of a Jewish Mother to learn about what kind of men are the marrying kind. I call it Type 1 vs. Type 2. Beware of Type 2. Type 1 is responsible, honest, and manly. Type 2 is pretty, lazy, and fun. Think Prince Charming, because you should never have to settle at any age.

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