So Jules shared that she suffered from an eating disorder in the past. This is rough for her and, from my perspective, for everyone around her. This took courage, and I hope she has gotten past it. It never really leaves you, and I haven't seen Jules eat, so I’m sure this is a very complicated, layered issue. While it is not about me, I grew up surrounded by it, and this is a very sensitive area for me. It is why I wrote Naturally Thin, to help people with their "food noise” and unleash themselves from a lifetime of dieting.
I enjoyed our conversation. I was apologetic about my rudeness. I did not know that Jules was dissing my "tiny” house in her interviews and to the other women. Jules and Michael are not old money. That notwithstanding, my understanding of new money behavior is to buy the biggest flashiest place you can find so people will see how rich you are regardless of whether it is even paid for. My understanding of old money is to be understated, not too showy, buy what you can afford and pay in full. I live in a restored farmhouse. Jules is in a McMansion with a pool in the living room. My idea of a retail experience is an afternoon at TJ Maxx. If that’s new money, I’m down with that. To be honest, I still can’t believe that I can pay my bills. I am definitely rather frugal. When you go from having nothing to being blessed, you have a lot of “money noise” and know that it can all go away in an instant. Maybe I’ll write a book one day about that.
I am a quality versus quantity person. I'm blessed to live in a beautiful, desirable area of the Hamptons right near the beach. As everyone knows, when purchasing real estate, the value of a property is first determined by the location, not the size of your house. I was broke less than a decade ago, so that is what I have done with my "new" money. Either way, my money is mine, earned by me, not my husband, and not given to me by my parents. I'm proud that I was able to work, succeed and provide this home for myself and my daughter. I still feel grateful every time I look around my home and my NYC apartment. “Started from the bottom, now we’re here."
I'm not sure what Jules means in her constant size comparisons, because she doesn't own an apartment in Manhattan. I clarified this week that living in a 9600 sq ft construction site for nine years would give me anxiety.
Ramona's birthday lunches are sweet, and the women are nice and fun, and it makes her so happy. I love to joke with these women because they have a good sense of humor and like to party. For the record, I was at Luann's for a 4th of July BBQ and one other time on her boat this summer. She did not adopt me nor are we “family” as she bizarrely stated. A few instances occurred this summer that turned me off, and she was turning the gifts and the charm on here to cut me off at the pass. She knew what went down and was embarrassed and her buttering up worked on me. I most enjoy when Luann and I are fake social friends. That is our proper speed. I bet she would agree. She acted poorly and desperately this summer on a few occasions, and it changed our friendship for me, and by now, definitely for her. I genuinely want her to be happy. She was looking for something this summer, and I hope she found it. Maybe one day we will be back on track. I have no animosity for her whatsoever.
So glad you are all loving the show. It really is a great season. It was emotionally draining, but it certainly is real.