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Luann de Lesseps: Jules Was Very Brave

Luann thinks Bethenny needs to work on her empathy toward others.

By Luann de Lesseps
Luann Knows When She Knows

While watching this episode, I noticed how when Jules or I open up about what’s going on with our lives, instead of becoming closer to the other ladies, they use it against us. I’m in love with Tom, and I’m happier than I’ve been in years, so why can’t the girls just be glad for me and be sympathetic to Jules’ eating disorder? Dorinda’s been stirring the pot, I think, to keep herself out of the spotlight, but eventually, what goes around comes around. She’s been the most supportive of my engagement to Tom since she introduced us. She knew that we’d be a great match and we are!

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Why does Bethenny take out her issues with her mother’s eating disorder on Jules? Would she not want to be around Jules if her mother had had diabetes and Jules had it as well? What about cancer? Does Bethenny not want to be around people with illnesses that make her uncomfortable? I can tell you she doesn’t care about the discomfort she causes by discussing her vagina at every meal. We see here Bethenny’s significant lack of empathy towards others. It’s not always about her, but try telling her that. Jules was very brave to share her struggles with us, and we need to use this information not to belittle her but to help her. 

What’s a Housewives season without a trip to the casino? Last year’s Atlantic City trip began with the girls waiting in the cold rain for Sonja to join them in the limo, but this year the trip seems to have gone a lot better. I love the Mohegan Sun but couldn’t fit this trip into my schedule. Bethenny’s sotto voce discussion in the limo with Dorinda about Jules couldn’t have been tackier. She could overhear everything they were saying! The best part of the casino trip to me was watching how happy Jules was at the tables. She is a great sport in every activity we do together, and I’m grateful for her positive attitude.

The dinner at Sonja’s townhouse where she was set up with a man she already knows well was somewhat awkward. Seeing two people flirt in person is different from seeing it third hand. The way her Italian friend fondled his napkin was priceless. Her use of a butler was over the top, but I think she was trying to impress her date with her ex-husband’s family traditions. I did find it interesting that in the old days people were issued one napkin per week and that was why they were the size of throw blankets. Learn something new every day!

I understand why some of the girls are concerned about me getting engaged to Tom so quickly after meeting him, but in my 50 years I’ve kissed a few toads, and I know when I’m in love. I was married for 16 years, and I have two beautiful children, and I don’t I commit unless I’m sure. When I’m in, I’m in for the long run. Ramona is the most outspoken about not rushing into marriage, but she’s been divorced only a short time while I’ve been single for some time. She continually insinuates that I “stole” Tom from his date the night I met him! You can’t steal a man. Tom and I had been single and dating for a while, so when we met, we knew there was a very special connection between us. Marriage is a very serious commitment, and Tom and I come from families that strongly value marriage. My parents were married for over 50 years before my father passed away. Since we began dating, we’ve included our families in our relationship. Tom has met all of my family, and my children adore him. I’ve spent a considerable amount of time with his parents. I love them and they love me. 

Until next week, love more.

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